ok, my sister she must hate me like seriously, she told me many times today that she did hate me. I told her that it really sucks to hear that, but i'll pray for her. I really feel crappy. All of this was brought on because she goes to her b/f's house and she'll come home and you know that they messed around, well my mom found out they were messin around. My Gram (mom's mom) died 3 weeks ago so my mom is like sooo sad, and then she finds out this crap about my sis. I think that my sister is sooo selfish. But I lover her. What should i do to make her not hate me anymore? Lotsa answers plzzzz....Thanks
2007-04-02 10:18:49 · 14 answers · asked by Hayley 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Ok, i guess i need to add more, my mom is taking all of this on too. She has not slacked off for one moment since her mom died. My sis was doin this crap w/ her bf b4 the death too. She got busted on this crap this mornin n then i said somethin n she bit my head off, then called me names and i just walked away. When we got home earlier she got up in my face fxing to punch me and so i stood up we about threw some punches but i knew she would be even madder so i just told her i didn't care to talk to her anymore and she slammed stuff and i said some things to her. hope that's enough...
2007-04-02 10:45:14 · update #1
I think that all sisters say that from time to time when they are mad at each other..Hopefully she well get over it..
2007-04-02 10:26:27 · answer #1 · answered by sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly,it is none of your concern to cast judgment on her,I found that so hard not to do (i have a twin sister) when I was young.It sound to me like everyone needs to sit down and talk.No yelling is aloud and no calling names or anything.Express your feelings.Your sister is possibly going through a phase(how old she is I don't know).Also it is not your place again to assume responsibility for your sisters actions.Meaning I think your grief for your mothers loss is causing you to be angry(or upset)at whoever breathes the wrong way at her. Truly and honestly however if your sister hates you then there is nothing you can do but wait on her to see good in you again.Your sister may be also dealing with issues of her own.Think back was there anything that triggered your sisters rage?Death of a friend?Loss of a friend?Loss of a boyfriend?School day-to-day drama?
Just remember as long as you keep loving her she will eventually turn back to you when you least expect it.Keep your eyes open though,do NOT lash out at her because she wants you to so she can feel she has backing to hate you.As for the whole boyfriend messing around with your sister let the mom handle that.
Keep your faith and continue praying for her.Do not tell her that you are because then she knows that its affecting you.Sometimes someone can learn to resent someone saying "I will pray for you" because it can make them feel infereior because they don't pray as they should.
2007-04-02 17:31:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no offence but you sound as if you are pushing your morals and beliefs on her, what you believe in may not be right for everyone? she may chose her own path and as long as she doesnt get into drugs etc 'the extremes' then let her be, if you love her you will love her for who she is not what she does, she may not want to feel constantly frowned upon you may just end up pushing her away by 'helping and guiding' her, as for your mum its a hard time at the moment but its a time when she may think and reflect a lot so it could be the best time for her to no about it. Have you considered this is how your sister may be recovering? by getting close to someone to replace the sadness? and could it have been going on before the death and its just a bad time to surface? just let her be, she doesnt hate you just hates how you make her feel (from what you say) and dont try and talk about it! As long as you stick to what you believe you dont have anything to regretor feel guilty about
2007-04-02 17:33:05 · answer #3 · answered by just_looking thanx 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old is she. Let her make her own decisions. It is not your responsibility to tell her how to live. If she is a child, then your mom needs to field these issue not you. She will probably come around when she is older, just be a good sister to her and let her learn through trial and error. If she is doing things that could possibly harm herself or others then you need to talk to your mom about it. I am sorry to hear about your moms mom, that is a tough thing to go through but she still needs to take care of you kids.
2007-04-02 17:26:39 · answer #4 · answered by joelrnic 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What she's doin is a load o crap!
You need to either have her sewed,
or put on the news! That'll get her n
trouble! She needs some kinda punishment!
If she didn't get punished,she'd just get away
w/ it! We all have to b aggressive sometimes
but not hateful all the freakin time & do bad things!
Try to e-mail me enough to where I can help you
on a lot of things like this.
GL2U,
-Ms.Sarah
2007-04-02 17:34:17 · answer #5 · answered by Sarah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give her some space... if she is older, which i am guessing she is... then she will like that. Dont tell on her that often and just act cool with her, eventually she wont hate you. She is probably just feeling like someone is always watching her and the death of your grandma is hard for her to accept so her way of showing sadness is messing around with her boyfriend.
She wont hate you forever, its hard to when you live with that person.
good luck with your sister!
2007-04-02 17:27:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would just let it slide for now...eventually she will come around unless she is just not a very good person in general. I don't get along with one of my sisters either and never really have. I just accepted it and I stay away from her...
2007-04-02 17:21:56 · answer #7 · answered by Cute But Evil 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In situations like this time will fix things and you and your sister will get past this.
She's taking it out on your because you're available.
Just try not to take it personally...give her some space....and go live your life.
2007-04-02 17:25:52 · answer #8 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shes tryin to get attention. Dont give her what she wants, ignore her *** and go on, shes the one loosing here let me tell ya, concentrate on Ur mom, she needs u now. Dont let Ur sister ruin yalls lives.
2007-04-02 18:32:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think you have given us (the readers) the true reason why she hates you soooo much. If you find the real reason she does hate you, then fix it. She is your sister, and you two have a real problem to work out. Work hard at it.
2007-04-02 17:25:28 · answer #10 · answered by mentallykornfused 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe give her some space and think about how many times have you told her you hate her and you didn't mean it wit till your sister cools down a bit then talk to her about it
2007-04-02 17:23:11 · answer #11 · answered by gerse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋