Ok, so I want to have my wedding on St. Patricks Day next year. It's a irish/celtic wedding, so I figured it would be perfect. But it lands on a monday. I really want to have in on that monday, not only for that reason, but also because it would be a lot cheaper. I'm working with a limited budget, and at the places I'm looking at for holding everything, the difference between a monday and a saturday is around $2,500. The only thing I've heard against it is that there might be maybe 3 or 4 people (out of a 100) who might not be able to make it. My step-mother thinks it rude of me to exclude them out that way, mostly because it's her sisters. So, should I stay with the Monday, and have a nicer wedding, but a few less people, or on Sat., a not so nice wedding, and everyone gets to come?
2007-04-02 10:11:55 · 17 answers · asked by mgreenberry 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
#1 rule of weddings: You will NEVER be able to please everyone.
#2 rule of weddings: You shouldn't try to please anyone but you and your fiance.
Have your future husband remind his mother that it is very rude for her to make demands of your wedding that is contrary to what you want, and especially when the differences in money is over 2 thousand dollars. If those 3 or 4 people cannot make it when they have 1 year to plan, then they just don't want to be there that bad.
If you really want to make a compromise, you might consider changing it to the Saturday before if those who want you to do so can give you the $2,500 difference.
2007-04-02 10:20:53 · answer #1 · answered by Serving Jesus 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
If you want a St. Paddy's Day wedding, then have one. Monday is fine. You might want to send out 'hold the date' cards for people so they know it will be a Monday wedding enough in advance to request a 1/2 day off work, not to schedule appoinments, etc. But if your step mothers sisters can't make, don't act upset about it. Best wishes.
2007-04-02 10:24:39 · answer #2 · answered by J M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have your wedding on whatever day/date works for you & your spouse.
Personally, if I were invited, I'd have a hard time getting out of work, and I'd be a little perturbed about it...But if I loved you, I'd come anyway.
Considering you're giving them a years' notice, there's really no excuse for your step-mothers' family to not be able to make it. If they don't, it's not because you're excluding them, it's because they're choosing not to come. They'll get over it, or they'll show up - either way, it's their problem to deal with, not yours.
Below is a link to some info on other Celtic holidays, just in case one or more of these makes more sense than St. Patrick's Day.
2007-04-02 10:22:56 · answer #3 · answered by abfabmom1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
definitely go for the monday. if you want to have it on a special day, then do it. 3 or 4 less people won't make much of a difference. & i'm sure they will understand. it's not their special day, anyway.
and i can absolutely understand where you're coming from when it's concerning the budget. it's your wedding. it's YOUR special day. you should do whatever you want with it! and an irish/celtic wedding sounds beautiful, so what's better than celebrating on st. patricks?
just make sure everyone doesn't show up drunk. that would be a bummer.
peace&love
t-par&ally
2007-04-02 10:44:33 · answer #4 · answered by T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! Only 3 or 4 who might not be able to make it? That's pretty good if you're going to have a Monday wedding or a wedding alone.
I'd definately go with the Monday wedding. If it's something you really desire then go for it. Sounds like you can make it happen regardless of what others say.
To help out the dayshifters though it might be nice if you could make the wedding an evening wedding??
Best of luck to you!!!!
2007-04-02 10:21:33 · answer #5 · answered by sweetxgrace 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not rude for you to have your wedding on the day of your choice. St Patricks day sounds fun for a wedding. Just because 3 or 4 people can't come doesn't mean you should change the date. Not everyone will be able to make it to your wedding if you were to pick another day anyway. I wouldn't worry about it at all. I chose to have my wedding on a Sunday because it would save money, people looked at me funny at first, but now they have all come around and can't wait for it to happen.
Also if you need anymore help check out theknot.com. They have plenty of great resources for planning and the have message boards for all kinds of questions, vents or just about anything.
2007-04-02 10:21:02 · answer #6 · answered by poofaceburklin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing I think is wrong with a Monday wedding is that most people would have to take the Tuesday off as well since weddings are usually late into the night and tend to involve drinking. When you do it on a Friday people autmatically have off the next two days to recover and it wont impact their work vacation time, on a Monday you dont have those extra days so they would have to cut into their vacation time even more. For most people it would be worth it, but for some it might not be, ths they would decline.
Thats my only issue with a Monday.
Good luck with your choice!
2007-04-02 12:27:32 · answer #7 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know a lot of people may not agree with me, but here goes:
The wedding is for the bride and groom to celebrate their love and companionship in the company of their friends and family.
That being said, if you're paying for the wedding and it IS your wedding after all, then you should have your wedding where and when YOU want to. The only person who should have ANY say in the matter should be your fiance. End of story.
I'm not saying to tell your mom to go to hell, but frankly, if you tried to accommodate EVERYBODY, it would be impossible. It is simply a fact of life that you will never be able to have a date that suits absolutely positively everyone you wish to invite.
So the bottom line is that you have the wedding YOU want on the day YOU want and if people can come they will. And if they REALLY want to be there, they will. Be happy.
2007-04-02 10:19:30 · answer #8 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You do whatever you want. It is your wedding. I think that would be lovely. Plus it is next year right so I think by then they could get a monday off. And if they don't come, well then they miss it. Lots of people don't come to weddings anyways because they can't so what if 3-4 more people don't come.....saves you money.....well congrats and hope this helps.
2007-04-02 10:20:07 · answer #9 · answered by Angelina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have it on St Patrick's Day. That day is special to you... not the Saturday before or the Saturday after. If people can't come, they can't come. Their loss. You're not having a wedding to please your guests. It's for you and your fiance. The two of you will be celebrating your anniversary for years and years. The guests at your wedding will forget what days it was on in 6 months.
I'm getting married on a Thursday because my grandparents, great-grandparents, and great-great grandparents were all married on the same day. If half my guests don't show up, so what? I get to save money and honor tradition. Yeehaw!
Good luck to ya!
2007-04-02 10:59:15 · answer #10 · answered by Incognito 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋