me and my boyfriend had sex.I was scared and in alot of pain si i just layed their and let him do all the work.My eyes were closed and my arms over my face and then it was over.I wanted it to be more enjoyable my first time and it wasnt.But i need help on how to make it better my secound.in detail plz.
2007-04-02 09:58:18 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just keep at it, you'll get there soon enough.
2007-04-02 10:00:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
First times, especially for women usually suck. Its a common misconception that if the person is someone you love and the mood is right things will just click and it will be magic. Truth is for a lot of women it just hurts. Good thing is, it only has to hurt the once. Give it a couple days for things to heal and then give it another try. Make sure you go slow and communicate to your partner what feels good and what doesn't. And above all don't pretend to enjoy something if you don't, its important to work toward pleasing you both. If you want insight beyond that, then head to your local library or bookstore and sneak a peak at Sex for Dummies or what ever sex aid book seems interesting and get some ideas.
2007-04-02 17:10:15 · answer #2 · answered by Elizabeth N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sweetie 1st i hope u used safe sex methods. Next It will take time to build an enjoyable sex life. U must first feel comfortable and relaxed just like u did when it was nothing more than heavy petting. Then don't be in a rush to do it again 4 him do it for u. Also try a lube it helps.
2007-04-02 17:54:57 · answer #3 · answered by na b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first of all... I am SO sorry your first time was so awful. It sounds horrible! :-(
I've had my account suspended int he past for going into too much "detail"... So I will just say that if this is something you still want to pursue, take the initiative next time!
Concentrate on pleasing him and get very familiar with his body beforehand. Play together for enough time to really "get yourself ready" (ie. wet). When it's time, try being on top and controlling the movements... to YOUR satisfaction.
It's not difficult and he will probably help you with his hands on your bottom or your hips. This way... you can control the depth and frequency and do what feels good to YOU.
I guarantee you he will enjoy it too, so no one is getting left out!
Good luck!
2007-04-02 17:10:25 · answer #4 · answered by Kia A 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The first time hurts & is not something that anyone in their right mind enjoys. The second time it will be easier & a little less painful. Try to relax, that will make it more enjoyable for both of you. The more you tense up the worse it's going to hurt.
2007-04-02 17:01:57 · answer #5 · answered by Tracy H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i personally think that it is better to have sex after you get married because it means a lot more, but maybe it was because you were not ready next time wait until you love the guy and go with him instead of letting him do all the work, wa it his first time too?
2007-04-02 17:02:43 · answer #6 · answered by alejandra611 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's something you and your boyfriend need to discuss, maybe next time try asking him for a massage or vice versa so that it will make both of you more comfortable with everything that's going on................let him know what you like and don't like and also ask him abouit his likes and dislikes. Hope this helps
2007-04-02 17:03:17 · answer #7 · answered by Lula 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lets hope there is a second. if i was involved with someone and he put his hands over his face... that wouldnt make me feel good about myself. but to make the second better just TRY to enjoy it. if you let your guard down and relax it should be better. but i have heard the first couple of times are uncomfortable.
2007-04-02 17:01:56 · answer #8 · answered by danuh_bananuh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my first question would be, how old are you, because if you are this uneducated on the subject you shouldn't be having sex... your first time is usually unpleasant but will get better with time... the simple fact that you ask the question kind of points to the fact that you are young though and should not necessarily be having sex... give it more time...
2007-04-02 17:02:48 · answer #9 · answered by metalli_catz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sound like you just were not ready! Sex is something you have to be phyically and emotionally ready for! Just don't do it again until you feel you are more ready for something like that!
2007-04-02 17:07:28 · answer #10 · answered by ~*Sweet Pea*~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get married, do it to start a family, and then you will be having a purpose for doing it.
2007-04-02 17:01:36 · answer #11 · answered by Kerry 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋