My fiance(?) and I tell everyone we're getting married. She tells her friends, family, and clients. I do the same. The only thing is, I haven't proposed yet! I don't even have a ring.
Here's the kicker. We live together, we've been together for 4 months, and we're totally in love. We're in our mid 20's, have very good jobs, financially secure, and totally want to get married! Do I wait until July? Or do it next weekend in the Bahamas on our trip!?
2007-04-02 09:56:38 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
As far as "should you propose?" I have to say--one of you needs to. As much as it feels right, you are not engaged. Neither of you has made a promise to the other to get married. Therefore, as much as you both may enjoy telling people you are engaged, it's all a joke until you actually agree to be married.
Four months may be a lil soon but if you guys have talked about stuff and had some pre-marriage councilling, you know if its right. As far as when you propose, that also just depends on your guys. I personally vote for next weekend in the Bahamas. A couple relationships I know have come back from cruises a lil upset with each other b/c it was expected that they would come back engaged (by one party). I am a traditionalist and got engaged in a romantic restaurant, after an exceptional meal and bottle of wine. I know several couples though that that just isn't their style. They are more the type to propose while hiking in the mountains, while out on the boat on the lake, or while sitting in a swing on the front porch. Some men propose while cooking in the kitchen, when she has flour on her nose. That really just depends on the 2 of you and your relationship. Remember though that this is a moment you will have to tell EVERYONE so you have to pick one that makes a good story.
In my family the proposal story is huge. My grandfather got off a ship in the middle of WWII and in front of his entire shipmates, proposed like that famous scene August 1945. My cousin proposed with the scoreboard at homecoming. Another cousin hired a plane to fly by with a sign, on the lake with all their friends. And then he made a video to show everyone his ordeal--a joke video--with buying the ring (out of a gumball machine). But if you are more laid back, it would be completely out of character to do anything like that.
What is special about July? Why would you ask if you should wait until July?
2007-04-02 10:15:23 · answer #1 · answered by phantom_of_valkyrie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You absolutely need to propose. Every girl who wants to get married wants that beautiful proposal. Put all your feelings on the line. A trip away is the perfect time. You'll always remember the trip, and she'll come back with a lot more than souvenirs. Good luck. Follow your heart!
2007-04-02 17:16:12 · answer #2 · answered by Roovard 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you shouldn't have been abusing the status of being engaged when you are not. You are engaged when she has a ring and you have set a wedding date.
Four months isn't long enough, what the heck are you doing? You need at least 18 mo, and you sure shouldn't be living together.
2007-04-02 17:27:31 · answer #3 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should definately propose now, and proposing in the Bahamas would just put the icing on the cake. good luck.
2007-04-02 18:32:51 · answer #4 · answered by Shea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to propose (officially ask her) it would be nice if you did it in the Bahamas then she will be surprised and it will make for a good story later on in life.
Good luck to you.
2007-04-02 17:06:42 · answer #5 · answered by princessa674 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well if you are stable with everything and you think your ready, go for it at the bahamas! Its a great setting too. Just make sure you have a ring in time. :)
2007-04-02 17:11:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do it in the Bahamas and seal the deal!
Good Luck and all the best!
2007-04-02 17:23:30 · answer #7 · answered by Nummy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's kinda silly to "propose" when you have already decided to get married. Just set a date for the wedding, and start planning.
2007-04-02 17:13:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honestly, I would wait a little while. It's great that you get along so well and are in love, but you don't want to rush anything. I would give it at least a year.
2007-04-02 17:03:17 · answer #9 · answered by ExtremelyGruntled_82 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋
just set a date. there isn't much point in proposing cause you both already know you want to get married.
2007-04-02 17:03:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋