I punish my 12 anbd 6 year old by spanking mostly bare bottom. When we have family over or they have friends over and they need to be spanked what do i do? Where when and how?
2007-04-02 09:52:41 · 13 answers · asked by K B 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I think they are too old to be spanked, don't you think? And bare bottom at that...really...I'd think that over and find different ways to teach your children from right and wrong. I am definitely not against spanking but I stopped spanking after they were 4 or 5 years old because they are now old enough for me to talk with them.
If your children are misbehaving while you have company over, I would tell them firmly that you'll discuss this with them later and then send them off to their rooms. If they refuse to go to their rooms, physically take them there...but try not to lose your cool.
2007-04-02 10:01:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
We have run into this issue ourselves and found that if we don't exercise the same form of punishment in ALL situations the children tend to push as hard as they possibly can when we have company or are at someone else's house because they know they can get away with it there. It's hard but we started explaining to our family and friends that this is how we discipline our children and if you don't like it, you may want to leave because it's going to happen.
I have friends that don't approve of spanking and we do spank our kids. I have gone through the different forms of punishment when company is around and it just made matters worse so we decided that, for the sake of consistency, to stick with what was working at all times. Consistency is always the key with kids anyway and changing the rules just to suit someone else for awhile can prove to be devastating even if only for that one evening.
Stick to your guns and inform your company ahead of time, "look we have rules in our house and when the kids break those rules they get punished, sometimes by getting spanked. There is a chance that this is going to happen while you are visiting so if it bothers you then we need to make other plans for another time. If it doesn't then we will see you soon."
2007-04-03 01:17:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the worst spanking i've ever had was when company was over, and my mom took me upstairs and spanked me anyway. and everyone there knew exactly what was happening, and afterwards i had to come back down. i'm STILL mad about that! all you have to do is come up with a code word or a look or something like that, and if your children start pushing the line, tell them the code word as a warning....and if they still deserve a spanking, do it AFTER THE COMPANY LEAVES. its a very private matter.
2007-04-06 13:59:14 · answer #3 · answered by orangeblossomxpress 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just so you will know, spanking on the bare bottom is considered abuse, and twelve years of age is much to old for that. I either take my child in the bedroom to give correction, or I waite till company leaves. I never correct in front of everyone. I would not want my boss at work to repremand me in front of my fellow workers, so in the same manner I do not discipline my child in front of other children or adults for that matter. I do however make my child apologize, if an apology is do.
2007-04-02 17:31:01 · answer #4 · answered by trhwsh 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I'll ask you the same thing I asked with your last question - if there's nothing wrong with what you're doing, why can't you do it in front of others?
For the rest of us who don't spank, the answer is clear. I'm a mom 24/7. There is no off-duty. Therefore, if I have to discipline in a mall, in a restaurant, at her birthday party, in front of the family at Christmas, etc... then I discpline her. She knows that the rules are the same no matter the situation. If that means we have to leave the place, so be it.
All my work as a parent means SQUAT if I'm not consistent in my efforts. If you can't be consistent in your parenting, perhaps you should find alternative methods.
ADD: I do not discipline in front of an audience, because I do not want to humiliate my child. It's best to walk outside, or to another room and speak to them in private whenever possible.
2007-04-02 17:40:09 · answer #5 · answered by ~Biz~ 6 · 6⤊ 2⤋
If what you are doing to punish can't be done in front of people, you may want to reconsider what you're doing.
Otherwise, remove them from the room to spank them. Bedroom or bathroom.
2007-04-02 17:47:59 · answer #6 · answered by Waiting and Wishing 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
wait until company is gone. however 12 years old is way too old to be spanking on the bare bottom.
2007-04-02 16:58:58 · answer #7 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 2⤊ 3⤋
The same as you would if there wasn't company there, just not bare bottom! Is it really necessary to bare their bottoms at any time at the ages that they are?
2007-04-02 17:15:36 · answer #8 · answered by Maria 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
a few times I was spanked with close company over. it was with hand over my white briefs. it was embarrassing as anything
2007-04-04 23:41:03 · answer #9 · answered by tm41170 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is ok to use corporal punishment, if the company minds you correcting your children in that manner...you may wish to rethink the type of company that comes over.
As a teacher the number one issue among my students has to deal with a lack of corrective punishments for misbehavior.
2007-04-02 17:02:17 · answer #10 · answered by ScienceTeacher 3 · 3⤊ 3⤋