I have known this man all of my life. We are from the same community and he always played sports and went to school with my brother. We have NEVER been on a date, but we have been talking for about two months. During this time, there has been another man in my life and I have been torn between the two. Now that I have made my decision, I just have to make it happen.
The two of us both have kids (same age kids) and are divorced. Neither of us said we would remarry, but both of us have the desire to with each other. Are we crazy or could this be for real? He wants to be married within 3 months and I feel the same way.
2007-04-02 08:41:16 · 11 answers · asked by ncmom 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
So First of all JUST TALKING? Are u kidding me. Please tell me 99% of the time it has been face to face..... Not only that but u have had 2 men in your life.. Dare I ask if they both have been around your kids. If the question is Yes then what are u teaching your kids? If the question is no that means your kids have not been around this NEW man much..Remember your kids know more then u give them credit for. Hopefully they are toddlers or younger. If not u need to give both of your kids time to know each other. In a TOGETHER FAMILY type setting. U can't just go Hey KIDS WASH UP FOR DINNER AND BY THE WAY MOMMY IS GETTING MARRIED TO A NEW MAN IN A FEW MONTHS.. Yeah .. Listen even if they know him . That doesn't mean they need that now. Not to mention Why would u ever get married so soon to someone u have never been intimate with.. (not sex.. i mean out to a romantic dinner, see how he treats your kids on a daily basis) Sounds to me like u are pushing things way too fast.. Sorry if I am being a bit harsh but Why not take more time and get to know each other in a personal setting. He might have alot of habits that u might not want to deal with.,, u never know...
2007-04-02 09:02:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are asking; it is probably too soon. You really need to evaluate everything. Since you both have kids you need to consider their feelings and not just your own. If you haven't been close for long and then you want to get married and make your kids all live together within the next three months you may be pushing it. That is a huge leap for the two of you but it's an even bigger one for the kids, they don't truly know the other person that is supposed to "parent". Take it slow. What's the rush anyways?
2007-04-02 08:47:53 · answer #2 · answered by shopgirl4502 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It takes at least a year of dating (not just casually knowing someone) to truly know them. Sounds like you guys are still in the infatuation stage. What will it hurt to take 9 more months to make sure this is the right thing. It would suck to put your kids through another failed marriage if you don't take your time to make sure this is right. Good luck, take it slow. If he really values you he will wait.
2007-04-02 08:47:55 · answer #3 · answered by ladywildfireok 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's best if you know him for at least a year and have spent time with each other for at least two.
But if you really feel that the time is right, go for it. Just don't rush into something you're not ready for.
2007-04-02 08:45:02 · answer #4 · answered by Rewind 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm well i think people who rush into marriage usually just get divorced sooo ... i think u guys need to think things out alittle more. Try living with eachother and see if your kids get along etc etc etc..
2007-04-02 08:45:05 · answer #5 · answered by millertime06 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that sounds very good ,if you feel love for him and want to get with him go for it,just really make sure you know him inside out,like you not being mean to his kids or him being mean to your kids,treat them like your own.
2007-04-02 08:47:49 · answer #6 · answered by ♥I_rock_you♥ 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No one knows if a marriage will work.
2007-04-02 08:51:40 · answer #7 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think to early is right after grad. haha
2007-04-02 08:44:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say, get married. It's totally not wrong
2007-04-02 08:44:58 · answer #9 · answered by Jennifer S 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well put it this way, if your hot i'll marry ya right now...
2007-04-02 08:45:17 · answer #10 · answered by DJ Mazement 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋