i am 16 my bro is 17 he has a girlfriend who is 16 but she is a little to bossy how do i explain this my brother does anything for this girl even got him into a play she broke up with him last night and then two hours later got back with him he was crying and on the side of the house the thing is its like this its unheathly its a negative relationship i like her but i know its not my biz but should i say something he has had many other girlfriends but this is the best one but i dont know what to do
2007-04-02 08:11:21 · 22 answers · asked by Lizzy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Some guys really like bossy girlfriends, but you could just as easily be misreading their relationship since you are on the outside looking in. You need to be supportive of your brother and be there for him.
If you slam on his gf it's probably going to back fire on you. Tell him you love him, and don't want to see him hurt. Explain you worry about her breaking his heart, but that in the end it's his choice and you should support him whatever he does.
It's perfectly normally for young couples to break up and get back together over and over again. When you're a teenage you've got passion over load and big fights that end the relationship one minute seem stupid and trivial the next so you get back together.
It's not your place to tell your brother what to do, all you can do is be there for him when he needs you. He has to make his own choices.
If you try to get in the middle of this, and break them up you're risking damaging the relationship you have with your brother.
2007-04-02 10:35:06 · answer #1 · answered by Mitzi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone thinks they can help in other peoples problems. But sometimes they make it worse. Here's what you do. Go to your brother and ask him if you could talk to him about his relationship. If he says ok than go for it and tell him what you think respectfully. If he declines, than don't bother because the more you try to push yourself in his problems, the more he will get angry. I agree with you it's not a healthy relationship, but it's your brothers life. He has to deal with the mistakes he makes and learn from them. You can suggest, try and help, but he has to help himself.
Good Luck!
2007-04-02 08:19:43 · answer #2 · answered by heavydeezy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could prob say something, anything, and it won't hurt if he listens to you, but the reality is the relationship will have to run it's course and they will have to learn the hard way like each and everyone does unfortunately. He most definately will follow his feelings and the situation, not what anyone says ..unless, he is the most unique individual on the planet...time alone is the answer
2007-04-02 08:18:14 · answer #3 · answered by Gary G 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course you think its a mistake. He is your brother. No one will ever be good enough for him.
I know you want to say something to him but instead of attracting his feelings
Say something like
"this is how I feel about your girlfriend"
You have to remember the shoe will be on the other foot. and He may not like one of your boyfriends.
How would you like him to approach you with the your Boyfriend is a jerk
2007-04-02 08:18:03 · answer #4 · answered by trawet 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to let your brother live his own life, it is clear that you are really attached to his girlfriend more than he is, and that is ok, if they break up then you can still be friends with her, the thing is that you have to let your brother pick and chose who he wants in his life, it is not up to you, weather you like it or not, you have to spend less time worrying about your brother's life and more time working on your life!
2007-04-02 08:19:47 · answer #5 · answered by carriegreen13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him figure it out for himself---it will be a good learning experience! Advice him in a cool way---like have a conversation that you met or are thinking of getting together with a chic and say that you '"prospect" them for at least 18 months, if they mess up like his, they have to start over---since she is acting neurotic!!!
2007-04-02 08:19:36 · answer #6 · answered by unknownsoldier1st 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This should be a problem for your brother to work out. You should be there to support him in what ever choices he makes. Besides, I don't think he would want you to interfear unless he ask for your opinion or advice. Stay cool and observe.
2007-04-02 08:17:16 · answer #7 · answered by Jerry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im in ur postion. my cousin is 18 who is with a girl that is 16!
she treats him like hez her pet, makes him cry and breaks up with him for no reason. i liked her at first BUT now I REALLY CANT STAND HER, i dont like the way she is with my cuz. u may like her NOW but..it will change your gonna get sick and tired of seein your bro unhappy and treated like a poodle. shes gonna keep doin it too. basically she has him wrapped around her pinky and i kno it must make u feel like S**T to see him like that. U SHOULD talk to him but dont come at him like ur tellin him what to do. and let him kno that you dont kno exactly how he feels but u dont like seein him like that. re-assure him that theres plenty of other girls out there who are pretty and will treat him good. he's too young to be gettN hurt like that.
=GOOD LUCK=
2007-04-02 08:19:50 · answer #8 · answered by CiNDi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Elizabeth its great he has a sister like you.
but Its not your lesson in life it is his, we all need to have life experiences so let it be, less you ever think you have no choice to protect him, be there to help when he is hurt and feeling down, but stay out of it otherwise.
love is blind, he will see clearly one day, if your right!
till then stay out of it!
2007-04-02 08:16:34 · answer #9 · answered by delbolof 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is blind. Ppl goes thru this everyday, the best thing u could do is stand by him. There is nv right or wrong in a relationship.
2007-04-02 08:16:18 · answer #10 · answered by Sob Sob 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋