THIS IS JUST BCKGRD INFO- THE QUESTION IS BELOW- PLEASE BEAR W/ ME:
Im a sr in hs & feel like i have something missing. To tyr to keep it as short as possible, i had a great childhood & was very content up thru 8th grade. however, like every1, hs was hectic. frosh yr every1 kinda went off on their own, & was exciting. however soph yr, i quit baseball because of politics, & mom telling me to forget it. i ended up being cut from soccer jr yr after starting past two yrs on JV, & didnt even try for baseball that yr. however, i began to get back w/ my friends from 8th grade/frosh yr again & was very happy by end of jr yr, & really had hopes of making soccer sr yr since the whole team graduated. however, my mom scheduled wisd. teeth during tryouts & said i wouldnt make it anyway, & missed tryout just to realize i would've prob made it. that slowly killed mometnum i had gained from jr yr, & eventually went into kinda a shell, only regressing. now i realize soccer would have....
2007-04-02 08:02:46 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
tied 4 up & down crazy yrs together, & would've let me have something to lean on now & the future as an accomplishment, & given me confidence that something i wanted actually happened. instead, i feel the past 4 yrs have been wasted when that could've made up for EVERYTHING. Now all i have out of it is a complete lack of relationship w/ my brother who also couldnt make sports & got hurt, as we dont even talk anymore, & an angry family since i was upset about it. i tried for baseball in march cause i didnt feel satfisfied, as i wouldnt have needed to try out if i made soccer, but was the the last one cut from baseball. i would have been willing to put soccer behind if i made baseball, as i could have picked up my slumping grades & gained momentum into college if i had baseball, & probably helped restore confidence/less stress in my family. but because i quit that too, i dont have baseball to lean on either.
2007-04-02 08:03:26 · update #1
THANX FOR READING BCKGRD INFO- HERES MY QUESTION:
the baseball coach gave me very high regrds, & had trouble cutting me. im thinking about telling the school counselor/psychologist all that, since now my family isnt really together. i was hoping maybe he could tell the coach to add me on the team, uniform & all, but didnt care about playing time, just wanting to practice & improve to try to get time. that way, i feel i could have something to lean on going into college, getting my grades up, & have confidence as i leave, fully satisfied. just being on the team could substitute not playing soccer, & at least i could leave a mark w/ ...
2007-04-02 08:03:59 · update #2
the students how i want to. but how should i approach asking him w/o sounding like im just trying to get on the team? how should i ask? thats my question. i really feel that would help w/ everything now, going forward, cause im pretty miserable now when i know i could be blissfully happy if i just had on of those sports, now baseball's all thats left. my brother never made a team & hurt him, if i was on it, then my family would be able to come together probably, since we've had so many arguments about this. any thoguhtful suggestions appreciated. THANX!
2007-04-02 08:04:37 · update #3
I'm sorry ....your 50 minute session is over.
Same time next week?
2007-04-02 08:05:55 · answer #1 · answered by Blues Lovin' Daddy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was alittle confused by the actual question and the background, so I will try to answer as best I can.
You said at the bottom that maybe your family would get back together if you got into baseball? Is that really true?
It sounds like you're pinning everything on baseball, when there is much more out there.
With that being said, I have read how much baseball, and sports in general mean to you. So what I would do is go to the counselor at school to start and tell them the whole story, including the family issues. Also, I would go to the coach and let him/her know you want to be involved and make sure to let him/her know what you can bring to the team and how it will affect your future, as you see it.
I hope this helps, remember this is your high school experience so do the sports YOU want to do.
2007-04-02 15:11:07 · answer #2 · answered by marjaney 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I understand your disappointment at not making the team. I believe your mom was very wrong to schedule an appointment for you during tryouts.
I think you should probably talk to the counselor about this and see if talking about it can help.
I know it is hard to hear now, but as you get older this will be less important to you. I know it hurts now though and that is what is important.
Are there any other teams not related to school that you could join? Many places have other organizations that have sports. You can always play your favorite sport even without being on the team.
The best of luck to you.
2007-04-02 15:38:08 · answer #3 · answered by Patti C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I only caught the ending so here is my advise!
Things happen for a reason, so quit punishing your family because you missed out on soccer. just let it go and try again next year.
this year try out for baseball. if your in Canada Baseball shouldn't start until May .
Maybe you should think of taking up writing ...maybe be a sports writer or comintator!
Good jobs and a job you'll be happy in.
Ya know, there are worse things in life that could be happening. To get so upset over the small stuff just is a waste of time. Think outside the box.
2007-04-02 15:37:52 · answer #4 · answered by chris c 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't spend to much time worrying about what could have been. Sure, talk to the coach and your counselor.
But as for soccer, or sports in general, there are lots of town leagues. You may just need the physical boost you get from exercise and the emotional support you get from the friendships.
If soccer really is your passion, could you help out a youth league? This would look great on a college application.
You need to take resposibility for yourself. Don't blame this on your family. Of course, until you are eighteen you have to follow their rules and need their permission to be involved in certain activities but you are now responsible for your own emotional health and well being. You can find outlets for yourself that are positive and life re-eforcing.
2007-04-02 15:12:20 · answer #5 · answered by dmjrev 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, that was really hard to read with all that abbreviation and no proper punctuation, but I THINK I know what you're asking. Pretty much, you feel you have a void in your life that could be filled with sports. What I think is actually going on is you have a controlling mother and a family situation that sucks, and you want sports to distract you from it. I think you know this, but you're ignoring it and/or convincing yourself it's the issue with sports. 1. Just go talk to the coach and explain to him what's going on. The coach should understand and be able to work something out with you. 2. Take a good look at your family situation. It sounds like your brother is angry and hurt about something, and like your mother is discouraging you from what you want to do for whatever reason. Did your brother get hurt in sports, and is your mother trying to keep you away from them to keep you safe? I think you need to see a counselor and get some of these issues sorted out.
2007-04-02 15:09:39 · answer #6 · answered by gilgamesh 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wait and take a deep breath. I am a mom of an adult son and you both need to communicate. you as a pateint have a right to call the dentist and make another appointment. It sounds like the doc needs to talk to you and mom needs to understand the pressures that you as a student and athlete are undergoing. Just as a friendly advice a big calender with all schedules of all the family happening and big hugs because Mom may be busy. How about a special Mom and Son Day just for a special day not on holidays and just 1 day to talk and have fun together.
2007-04-02 16:29:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow that was long. Don't live you life in the past!!!! You can just ask. The worst he can say is no. There are plenty of club sports that you can play with your brother. You can find them at the YMCA, parks, and sport places. I think you need to go to a counselor b/c there are deeper issues here that Have to do with your family not the sports!!!!!
2007-04-02 15:14:31 · answer #8 · answered by buddafly_2 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go toward where your heart leads you. Only you can develop the stamina of going forth in this world. I believe you do have potential in all you do. Put your mind to it and you will go far. Have confidence in your self and say to your self I know I can---- I know I can. Like the Little Engine That Could. Great story!!! That story has helped me achieve in all I have accomplished and I remind myself those words when I get stuck in a dilema. Good luck in all you do and achieve.
2007-04-02 15:12:53 · answer #9 · answered by Debra H 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ask him for a try out or just a chance to show him your skills. :) Write him a letter. Talk to the school counselor about showing the coach your skills.
Good luck!
Michelle
2007-04-02 15:08:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should approach the coach and tell him a shorter version of what you wrote here, and talk about what options you might have. Just be direct and honest with the coach.
2007-04-02 15:07:32 · answer #11 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋