I'm 21 years old and single is this a bad thing, should a be more open to guys? all of my friends have boyfriends or husbunds. what should I do? it's hard to meet people
2007-04-02 07:10:11 · 26 answers · asked by ? 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No your not a freak. Go out and have fun while you can before your tied down to one person for the rest of your life.Go drink and party maybe you'll find him by going out more. Good luck skrabbit
2007-04-02 08:08:34 · answer #1 · answered by Obama08' 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't sweat it. I don't know if you're a Christian or not, but I think a verse in the Bible applies to all of us... "Do not awaken love until it so desires."
I'm not a professional on the subject, but to my menial understanding, a relationship isn't something you can force. Wait for it to come to you. And not everyone gets married or dates. Some of the most influential people in the world never were married-- look at Mother Teresa. You may not be Mother Teresa, but you have your own purpose and calling, apart from a guy, even if you do get married.
Plus, in my experience, people that force relationships end up divorced. -_-*
I understand your dilemma, but I would just play it by ear and not worry about it.
Much luck. =)
2007-04-02 14:35:26 · answer #2 · answered by Sarah P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard to meet people. But you are doing the right thing by not settling down for just anyone or anything. Be patient, it will come when the time is right. For now, enjoy being independent and single and be glad that you are not stuck in an unhappy relationship.
2007-04-02 14:14:03 · answer #3 · answered by CPA2B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is being a freak always a bad thing!? ..... I mean don't guys want a girl to be freaky? hehe
Okay.. no, being single at 21 is not a bad thing.... I wish I were single sometimes. You are a young adult, go out, drink, make mistakes, date around - HAVE FUN!
You will be boring and settled before you know it!
2007-04-02 14:17:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No...you are not a freak. Everyone starts out in the dating game at different times of their lives.
While it IS hard meeting people, you may have set your standards very high in who'd you like to meet, and it narrows it down to finding that rare one of a kind person who you are meant to be with...a good thing.
Enjoy being single, hang out with your friends, meet new friends, and have fun, and see what's out there and what qualities you like in someone...after all you are still young.
2007-04-02 14:15:04 · answer #5 · answered by dpantz74 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
21 is YOUNG. Don't worry. Go join some clubs. Most of the people who marry young are more likely to divorce than those who wait until later in life. Just concentrate on you, your career, and your friends. It will come. If you are truly concerned, take out a personal ad.
2007-04-02 14:14:21 · answer #6 · answered by Brown-eyed girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not a freak! Just because you dont have a boyfriend, doesnt make you any different to other people. People find it so easy to judge one another these days, just because they dont see them as "normal"! But what is normal? Nothing is normal when you really think about it! We all have our own ways of going about things. Please dont feel like a freak just because your different from them...whether it be a boyfriend or some other thing. There will always be something...trust me! My friend used to call herself a freak because of the exact same reason, but to me, she was UNIQUE...she was special, knew what she wanted, and waited till she got it! Good luck!!
2007-04-02 14:20:24 · answer #7 · answered by SaZ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 24 + nw, still single.........theres ntg bad bout it......
I believe i'll meet the right gal for my life someday......bt i f no worries of being single and definately theres ntg weird bout it as well......
Juz be patient and wait for the right person....d't rush and get urslf into a situation whc u might regret for the rest of your life.
GOD is great, he/she will fix you with the right man....
Be friendly and kind to everyone....act normal d't let people take advantage of you........behave towards everyone the way you think is right.....
By the way, being single at this moment is also considered as an advantage for guys and girls around our age.....we have chances to interact and meet with anyone without any hesitation because no one owns us.....we are free birds nw, try to make good use of it.......
Once we are commited into a relationship, we will have to focus more on developing the relationship....less time for other leisures.......
Having bf or gf is not juz for fun or bcoz evryone has......it needs security, sincerety, loyalty, understanding, caring, loving and much more if you wish to have a long lasting or forever relationship with someone......this is what i believe and adapted to my life.......
Hope you will meet Mr. Right soon............
Good Luck !!!
2007-04-02 14:31:12 · answer #8 · answered by SATJ12 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. It is okay to be single and 21 years old. Believe it or not they are people that are older than you and are single. You decide when it is okay to get a boyfriend and who your boyfriend is.
2007-04-02 14:14:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say no, my two cousins got married at 27 and 30. Also my mom and dad got married when they were 26. My brother is getting married next year, and he is 28 and he wife to be is 24. So you still have a few years before you have to ask this question again. lol
2007-04-02 14:16:27 · answer #10 · answered by rebeccapolsh333 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋