I have been with my fiance for about 2 years now and we have a 3 month old son together. When we got together I weighed about 125 or so and now after I've had our son I weigh about 140. So I've put on some weight!! But recently he's been picking around and joking about my weight( Like I'm not already sooo self-concious about my body anyways from the stretch marks and extra fat I'm carrying around) But the joking and hurting my feelings is getting so bad I am just at the point where I want to leave him!! I've already told him about how bad it hurts me but he just won't stop, Please tell me what should I do??
2007-04-02 07:08:08 · 11 answers · asked by Amanda W 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2007-04-02 07:14:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have already told him about how his joking about your weight hurts you and he is not caring about your feelings, then you have a guy who is reading more into your weight gain than into your feelings. You both have a son now, it would be unwise to end the relationship without at least trying to make it work. If otherwise he is a good person, and this is one thing that is annoying you, I would say for you to stay in the relationship and try and work it out. If you lose the weight it should be for health issues and also for your own self esteem. It should not be done under pressure from you boyfriend. Just let hm know that you agree with him about having to lose the extra pounds and ask if he can be more supportive of you and not so critical as this hurts you. Best of luck to you and congratulations on your new baby!
2007-04-02 07:17:13 · answer #2 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have been with him for 2 years and have a 3 month old son, he should be your husband by now and not just your fiance. If he were serious about his relationship with you, he would not take chances on offending you after you have given him all you can offer a man-- a child and yourself, sexually. Unfortunately, his behavior indicates a serious lack of care and maturity in a man for a woman. Leave him while you still have some self-esteem and take good care of yourself and your child. You do not have to put up with mental cruelty and emotional abuses from anyone. Tell him "I can lose weight, but you will always be UGLY!"
2007-04-02 07:23:07 · answer #3 · answered by Jess4rsake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is kind of f*cked up considering it's baby weight and babies are a joint effort. Well, if you are already self-conscious then I suggest you lose the weight healthfully and naturally. But really, 140 pounds isn't that big at all...
Tell him to shove it ONE MORE TIME and tell him what is at stake. (i.e: You may think that you are just joking around, but you not stopping the teasing after I ask you too is extremely disrespectful and makes me wonder what marriage will be like.)
Then empower yourself by respecting your body and getting back down. But that is just SO insensitive... I mean if you are getting MARRIED this guy will see you when you are like 60 years old.... you will not be 125 pounds by then. Take this as an indicator of his responsibility. Marriage is for life!
2007-04-02 07:17:14 · answer #4 · answered by L'Ambitieux 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, your fiance should love you for who you are and not for how much you weigh. Not to mention you just had his son. I think your fiance needs to grow up. All he's going to do is lower your self esteem. You told him that his comments were hurting your feelings and he is not stopping. Thats a sign to leave his sorry ***.
2007-04-02 07:20:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him. If talking to him won't work. Go workout with friends, get some cream to diminish the signs of stretch marks, eat right. Go get a makeover and work on you and your baby. Lose the dead weight (your fiance).
2007-04-02 07:12:19 · answer #6 · answered by Brown-eyed girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you really need to talk to him. i think there is more to because that is not a reason to leave. he is being mean and harsh and you need to put him in his place. talk about something he doesnt like. make him feel some type of way for a change to see how he feel. he is being immature and selfish. 140 is just more to love and want, but he doesnt see it that way. tell him to grow up or get out. tell him to stop hurting your feelings because it is making you want to leave. let him know!
2007-04-02 07:15:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit him down and tell him seriously and firmly. Tell him that you have too much respect for yourself to tolerate this kind of abuse any longer and that you expect the father of your child to treat his mother with respect and love. If he continues then leave.
2007-04-02 07:13:56 · answer #8 · answered by mosaic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've told him it hurts you and he won't stop. Therefore, he means to hurt you. Fiances are not supposed to want to hurt each other, they're supposed to support each other and make each other feel good. He doesn't deserve you.
2007-04-02 07:11:56 · answer #9 · answered by gouldgirl2002 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lose the weight. He still shouldn't be picking on you if he loves you. I'm sure he's not Mr. America!!
2007-04-02 07:11:39 · answer #10 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋