I've known this girl for about a year now. And I asked her if she liked me more than a friend and she said "I don't know its hard, I like you as a friend though", We are just friends, but do you think there is any chance of us being boyfriend/girlfriend, or am I just wasting my time hoping? We have been hanging out a lot recently which is a good sign, but I don't know if she just views me as just another guy friend or boyfriend material. I have been really nice to her and have showed her how much I like her by sending flowers to her school on valentines day, picking her up from school, buying her some clothes at her favorite store etc. But I don't know if she will ever view me as a boyfriend or not! I really like her, and I will always be her friend but it sucks not knowing if I'm stuck in the friend category or maybe one day becoming her boyfriend. she did call me on spring break a couple of weeks ago to see what I was doing and how my trip was going, which was cool. what should I do
2007-04-02 06:58:25 · 24 answers · asked by BAS 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Give up on her. She's not interested. You should quit buying her stuff too. You're just wasting your money!
2007-04-02 07:02:24 · answer #1 · answered by agkwatson@sbcglobal.net 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off - Don't push it. You will find a girl that you will love soon or sometime soon. It takes time and LOTS of patience.
By her response: "I don't know," either means, she isn't ready to have a commited relationship or either, she is currently already in a relationship- may have difficulties within the current relationship or may not want to leave the current relationship.
I'm sure she loves the attention you give her- but, be careful, if she has a boyfriend already, this can be risky and the other guy can get offended and try to hurt you in return. While she loves the attention, you can be in danger, as well as, she could be taking advantage of you.
I hope the little advice I can give will help you some-- like I said, don't push it. If she likes you, she will IMMEDIATELY make up her mind; otherwise, she might play games with you.
Believe me, I'm a woman myself. I know how they are, as well as some guys can do the same.
Good luck!
Sincerely,
Michelle
2007-04-02 14:13:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never know how things are going to work in the long run, but it sounds to me like she is just using you for the time being. I mean you are buying her clothes and she still doesn't get that you want a relationship?! She knows, she just doesn't want one with you. Stop it, right now. Don't buy her anything, don't send her flowers, don't call as much or anything. If you are going to drive her around and buy her things, you deserve a LOT more than a "I don't know, it's hard."
She isn't struggling with liking you or not, she is struggling about letting you know that "No. I do not like you as a boyfriend." Because she doesn't want to hurt you or whatever.
Move on and find someone who will truly appreciate your sweetness. I'm sorry. = (
2007-04-02 14:07:31 · answer #3 · answered by L'Ambitieux 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is to talk to her, see what her type is in guys, and if you fit that mold. I think there is a good possibility that she just wants to be friends. It sounds like she was trying to be nice, and let you down gently. don't try and buy her affection by buying her things. Don't make yourself her boy toy. Be friends if that is what you want, or be more if that is what she wants, but believe me, buying her all the clothes in the world is not going to change her opinion on whether you are boyfriend material or not. Save your money for other things.
2007-04-02 14:03:44 · answer #4 · answered by sjhockeyfan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she wants to be your friend and while there’s nothing wrong with that; it’s just not what you want (emphasis on WANT).
Friends are hard enough to find so don’t ‘dump’ her because she won’t see you as you would like to be seen.
Instead adjust your expectations with this friendship and go seek what you need elsewhere.
Who knows with time and patience it might pay off, but for this to work you both must have the time to grow and that means in the area of love you must move on.
I know this is not what you want to hear, and it won’t be the last time you’ll feel this way. But know this; every time you feel love it’s different. So don’t go around trying to replace the feeling for her with someone else and why would you want to anyway, this is something to be remembered with fondness, not hate.
Good luck!
2007-04-02 14:33:02 · answer #5 · answered by crunchy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're going to stay in the friends category. If she'd been interested, she would've responded to the gifts, lifts and the favours you're doing for her. You've let her know that you're interested, but she's obviously not on the same page as you are.
Either accept her as a friend or ask her out on a proper date (which may ruin the friendship you now have, or it might push you into boyfriend potential territory).
2007-04-02 14:03:53 · answer #6 · answered by mikah_smiles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say for you to stop waiting around for her to decide if she wants you for a friend or a boyfriend. You are not accepting the truth and are still holding on to hope. As no one can read the future, it would not be to your advantage to continue to put your life on hold for this girl. Go out and make other friends and try to limit you time with her. Otherwise, if you are always available to her will make you less interesting to her and might get her bored. Best of luck to you.
2007-04-02 14:10:12 · answer #7 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, just ask her again because it been a year so she should know her feelings by now. If she stills like as friend just be her friend and move on. There are a lot of girls out there waiting for you.
2007-04-02 14:05:30 · answer #8 · answered by princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say wait for a few months longer, but if after about 4 months nothing changes, just accept that she only wants to be friends and look for other girls. Good luck!
2007-04-02 14:03:55 · answer #9 · answered by swimmer2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a woman, and, I've been in this situation plenty of times! I have alot ot guy friends, and, one of them said something to me that I want to pass on to you- I think it may just help! "You can't make someone a priority,if your just an option." Get it??You also should look around -and see what you could be missing -by giving this girl "priority " status...when...(at this time in your relationship)...you are "just an option"
Good Luck!
2007-04-02 14:09:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OUCH! It looks like you may have answered your own question in the 2nd sentence. It's not looking good if she couldn't answer your question any better than that. You can stay her friend, but I would start looking around for other dating material. Who knows, maybe if you start to show interest in someone else, she may change her mind.
2007-04-02 14:03:35 · answer #11 · answered by MajorTom © 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋