how do u forgive and forget and move on when u r full of so much resentment????

Answer 1

first of all you cant just forget something no matter how much you want to
another thing is that sorry is just not enough when somebody does something really awful to you
they should be trying hard to make up for it
anybody can say sorry but it takes time work and commitment and alot of trust building to prove you really are sorry
It is also important to let the other person try to make it up to you without being spiteful and reminding them of their faults
sometimes people cant forgive and it is up to them to realize this and remove themselves from the person who did them wrong for days or forever
it is not fair to keep living in the past for either person so if they have done something you really believe you cant forgive you have to decide to live with it or move on

Answer 2

It's pretty hard and since I don't know all the particulars, I will try to answer the best I can.

Speak to someone you trust about all your feelings and thoughts. Don't forget to share the things that you are not proud of in this situation/relationship as well. We are really quick to point out what others did wrong but fail to see how we did wrong, as well.

Keep in mind that we have all hurt others, none of us our blameless.

Forgiveness is a choice - you may need to repeat daily "I forgive _-___ for hurting me" and end the sentence with "and I hope ________ has a wonderful day." If you are christian it woud fall under praying for those who have hurt you.

If you think about it - change the subject in your mind. With time, it won't eat at you anymore. But, you MUST talk about it, you MUST acknowledge your part in it, and you MUST choose to forgive and I suggest stating it outloud as you need to when you feel the bitterness and anger welling up inside of you.

My last thought - anger and bitterness only hurt you as the other person isn't going to be effected by it. Forgiveness was actually created for OUR peace of mind so that we can move on without the poison of bitterness and resentment eating us alive.

You can do it!

Answer 3

We can bring ourselves to forgive... BUT!... we will never be able to forget. Memories are the fundamental things that we learn from, without memories we will never learn.

In order to forgive, we need to let go of any resentments within our heart and in our head. When there are resentments, there are no forgiveness to speak of. So how do we let go of resentments?

Are we able to sit down and question ourselves what is the root of the problem that causes the resentment? In any form of disputes, it takes two hands to clap. It is easy for us to pin the fault on the other party and we constantly neglect the fact that we have contributed to the issue too - for greater or lesser.

After each failed relationship, it is inevitable that most of us build an invisble wall around us to protect ourselves from more damages. We are liken to have locked ourselves in a self-imposed shell with a padlock, not wanting to be hurt again.

Unlock your heart - and you have unlock yourself.

If we do not unlock that padlock, we will not be able to feel love and care even when it comes beckoning to you, knocking on your shell.

Answer 4

First of all, you must realize that resentment, as a negative emotion, leads to self destruction. It will widen your wounds and right now you might want to focus on healing your wounds. You do not have to forgive or forget, but you can focus on yourself and not let the source of that negative emotion run you down. You have to look at it this way: it will benefit you to focus on yourself and heal, then you can readdress the situation when you feel ready.
I hope this made sense.
Peace & Love!

Answer 5

Resentment has no place if you intend to move forward. Look at past experience as a growing experience and simply put one foot in front of the other every day that goes by. It does get easier.

Answer 6

Really wish i knew the answer to that I'm still holding onto resentment from like 5 yrs ago

Answer 7

omfg im so watching this question because id love to know the answer but so far ive just come up with its simple and if you cant forget then you cant forgive

Answer 8

Good question, one I've been working on for over a year now.

Answer 9

You simply cut off all contact, don't e-mail, Text message, Call, nothing, just ignore everything, they will go away eventually :)

Answer 10

u just let nature to take care of it.
and when the time comes it will go by itself.