My mother in law took it upon herself to bring my 1st born only son to take his 1st pictues. I called and asked her about it and she copped an attitude when I told her that it would have been nice if she could have asked me first and she said "I didn't have to ask you anything." I wasn't really upset until she said that. later that day I called my b/f to see where he was at and he sounded upset. I asked him what was wrong and he said he was fine but I can tell if something is bothering him. Later that night when he got home he was all funny acting and not really acting himself so I could tell then that he was upset but he has no reason to be. I am guessing that he's mad because I called and confronted his mother about the pic situation but I wasn't mean or rude to her, I just felt like she had no right to do that so I asked her about it. she was the one with the attitude. Now am I wrong. Oh and then he went with her to take my baby pictures. Nobody thought to ask me about it.
2007-04-02 05:01:05 · 9 answers · asked by lovemuffin 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Why make a mountain out of a mole hill? This is such a silly issue! You will take numerous pictures of your first born. Who cares if grandmas and dads do it too? You do not have to worry about the safety of the child, so why are you making this such a big deal?
You are not the only person who loves this child. You called her your "Mother in law", but then you called him your "Boyfriend." If you are NOT married, then it is even less of an issue.
Let the people in your life and those in the child's life LOVE the child! They need all the love they can get in this world.
2007-04-02 05:06:40 · answer #1 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but both of them are being totally rude and disrespectful to you in general. Of course it is the parents that would take the baby to get his first pictures. Your mother in-law totally wronged you and I would be extremely pissed at her and the BF for leaving you out the 2nd time. Do they not realize that you conceived and carried this baby for nine month's. Your mother in-law sound's like a total B I T C H
I would not let this go easily I would cop the attitude and tell her that she over stepped quite a few boundaries and even though you are happy the baby had the pictures taken that it's something that should have been done by the babies parent's. Fine and dandy if she wanted to pay for them but still that is something very important to most parents to do on there own especially the mom.
God Bless and I'm sorry you got the HAG of the year for a mother in-law. Good Luck and best wishes congrats on the baby.
2007-04-02 12:12:21 · answer #2 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You have a right to be mad to an extent. I mean this is your first child. I missed one of my daughters firsts and I was pissed...I felt cheated. Thing is all you can do is talk to the family and let them know how you feel. She has been a mother, she knows how it feels to see/witness her childrens first anything and to rob you of that is just wrong. Where were you? Why did they have your son? I never let my daughter out of my sight...I was too proud even if she drove me up a wall. You do have to realize though that you will eevntually have to leave your son with a baby sitter unless you become a stay at home mommy and you may very well miss a lot of his firsts but when you witness them, they are still firsts for you regardless if he has done it before for someone else. Just look at it that way. Good Luck!!
2007-04-02 12:14:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sure it would have been nicer of them to ask you to come along. But if I'm reading this right your boyfriend (the baby's father) was there with his mom. A parent was present to give permission.
Also, did she make an appointment or did they walk in? If this was a planned action by his mom to hurt you and drive a wedge in the relationship you have more reason to be mad than if this was a spur of the moment "hey, there's a good deal at the photo studio and we have time to take them up on it" action.
I can understand how you might feel hurt by this and you need to talk to your boyfriend if that's the case. He needs to know that you'd like to be in on any other "firsts" so he can plan accordingly.
2007-04-02 12:23:46 · answer #4 · answered by Critter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was incredibly rude and thoughtless for them to assume that you wouldn't want to be there for your child's first pictures. Unfortunately I've also been in a similar situation when my parents in law took it upon themselves to feed my son solid foods for the first time without me being there.
The thing is, when it comes to babies people are selfish. All people who love this child think they know whats best and they want to have as many special moments with this child as possible. Often times grandparents especially don't concern themselves with what the parent would want because they feel they know better with the years of experience they have. They don't remember what it's like to be a first time parent, and don't understand why it would be so important for you to have these precious memories. It's just how it is, generation gap and all.
Next time she does something like that do exactly what you did and confront her about it. Be really polite and simply mention that you want to do whatever it is with your first child. If your husband says anything about it, ask him how he would feel if it were the other way around and your father were trying to do something with the baby that he had his heart set on doing.
It's a pretty crappy thing to accept, but when your son gets older it will gradually get better. Older kids aren't as cute, especially when they have a mind of their own and can protest to what grandma is doing.
Hope things work out for you!
2007-04-02 12:23:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Look at it as a surprise. I completely understand about mother in laws. Mine is rather pushy at times and tries to explain everything in the biggest detail ever possible! But shes just trying help, I would get upset if my man wasn't there with her while the pic taking was going on, but yes they should have told you and her snapping at you wasn't right either. Mother in laws are always a pain in the *** because shes worried about her child as well as him having his own family.
But stepping up to her isnt bad as well. It will give her a chance to see that you can be the mother to your own child, and everything will be okay.
I hope everything works out, fine and it should.
2007-04-02 12:10:45 · answer #6 · answered by PinkFloydRules 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't see the big issue; however, it is your son. It sounds like your b/f isn't on your side. You should be included in all of your son's "1st" moments no matter what they are.
Talk to your b/f and let him know how you feel.
2007-04-02 12:15:05 · answer #7 · answered by ropman1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, they were wrong. I would be concerned. Does she like you? Are you sure? Maybe she thinks you're just the "baby mama" and he won't marry you. If I had to guess, I would guess that she is trying to cut you our of the picture - literally. Go with your b/f and have some family pictures made with the baby. That is much more approrpriate.
2007-04-02 12:08:32 · answer #8 · answered by PapillionWyngs 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
This is a SMALL thing. Get over it.
2007-04-02 12:22:50 · answer #9 · answered by kp 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋