I found out after we put the deposit on our reception site that my husband's sister asked him not to schedule it for that weekend because her 10 year old son usually has a baseball tournament during that week. She's peeved. He says we shouldn't change it because we don't even know if the tournament will be that week and that a wedding has precedence over baseball. We would also lose the deposit and the venue we chose isn't open any other dates this summer. None of her family is actually in the wedding, but they are all invited
2007-04-02 04:35:11 · 21 answers · asked by rucirius 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Sweetie, You must remember this is your day. You and your fiancee' are going to take your vows and become as one for the rest of your life.
This is not his selfish sisters day and she will only be gaining control of you and your life if you allow her to disrupt the event of your life time.
It is regrettable that she cares more about a baseball game than she does seeing her brother and the woman of his dreams take their vows. It is also "HER CHOICE" not to attend your nuptials.
Please place her being upset or unhappy to the right area in which it should be placed, ... she will get over it.
Congratulations.
Just be happy !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-04-02 04:46:52 · answer #1 · answered by Nana 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Do not change the wedding. The kid is 10 years old so who cares if he misses 1 tournament for a wedding. The wedding is way more important and he will have plenty of time to play baseball. I think there are some real issues with the sister if shes mad that the son might miss a tournament to be at a wedding.
2007-04-02 04:44:24 · answer #2 · answered by Fresh 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
She needs to get over it. Have her find someone else to take the boy to his tournament that day. 4 of my kids play sports year round and sometimes we have an engagement of some sort that is rare like a wedding and we usually have my parents take them, the coach will give them a ride or a parent of a nother child on the team. Kids play baseball all the time, weddings are suppose to anyway be just once. And if she says that she wants the boy at the wedding I can guarentee it will not break his heart if he is not there. My boys hate weddings.
2007-04-02 06:19:32 · answer #3 · answered by Ladybugs77 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not. And when the baseball tournament gets cancelled, what then. Do not change your plans. If the sister doesn't want to come then it's her loss. My son was in many baseball games and tournaments and a wedding would definitely take priority.
2007-04-02 04:46:30 · answer #4 · answered by FALL 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Unless the child is playing in the World Series, I don't think you should rearrange your schedule for your husband's 10 year old nephew's baseball game. That seems a little ridiculous to me.
However, if you want to keep the peace, you can always see if your reception site will let you change the date and apply your current deposit towards the new date.
2007-04-02 04:42:49 · answer #5 · answered by Silver_Stars 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No, don't change it for that. You'll have everyone calling you and saying "Can you pick a new weekend, I have a doctor's appointment that day" or "I was supposed to go out of town on business on that weekend, how about this weekend instead?"
Her son might not even be in the tournament, and it might not be that weekend. Don't reschedule for this...your wedding is more more important. If she can't come, then she can't come.
2007-04-02 05:29:52 · answer #6 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't reschedule the wedding--something like this certainly does have precedence over an iffy baseball tournament.
How your future sister-in-law handles this situation will tell you a lot about the kind of person she is.
2007-04-02 04:43:56 · answer #7 · answered by clicksqueek 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't reschedule, your fiance is right, the wedding is more improtant than a baseball tournament and your sister in law should know that, especially since it is not a for sure thing that he will be in the tournament, its your day, don't worry about hurting one persons feelings, go ahead with your day, I'm sure it will all work out. Best of luck and congrats!!
2007-04-02 04:41:41 · answer #8 · answered by MJ 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do not reschedule. Your sister is a very selfish person. I am sure that her 10 year old son's basketball tournament is not riding on a scholarship nor will it be a career defining moment. This is the most rediculous reason I have ever heard for a reschedule. Keep your wedding date, you deserve it and please dont be so sensitive to silly family requests, trust me, no matter what we do for our weddings not everyone will be pleased and I am sure your sisters son can miss one tournament.
2007-04-02 05:05:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough one, if none of the family will be involved, then go ahead with the wedding, but if they want to or there is more to the story, then?? You have to consider the factors, how much deposit will you be loosing, is the sister out of state, could she show up(if she does) after or before the game etc... good luck.
2007-04-02 04:46:11 · answer #10 · answered by dadknows 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't reschedule. Try telling the sister you would love to change the date but you are unable to since there are no available dates for the reception site you picked, and you can't afford to lose the deposit. Let her know you did try since having her family there means so much to you and your husband. Good luck.
2007-04-02 08:42:33 · answer #11 · answered by UnhappyBridesmaid 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋