What have some of your experiences been with dating websites...?

Question

such as match.com etc? I have a relative who is interested in meeting people and I suggested some of these sites. However, I'm interested in knowing what some of your opinions are. What about the honesty of people who describe themselves and the like? Do you find they are honest and sane? Thanks for any replies in advance! **Thank God I'm married and don't have to go through this!!**

Answer 1

I tried match.com and eharmony.com. When you are first on match.com, you are "fresh meat," because the guys that cruise around on it fishing for new people will spot you and you will have a million emails at first. That's very flattering, but that's also where all the weirdos are coming at you. So, you have to discern from their profiles and their email contact, what their intentions are.

Over two years on match.com, I met some nice men who I just didn't have any chemistry for, or men with more problems than I wanted to share. Successful men with addiction problems, for example.

Here is why I got off of match.com: There was a nice software-engineer. We were emailing nice, polite, getting-to-know-you notes for a couple of weeks, and had agreed to meet on a certain date when I returned from a business trip. Just before our meeting, I got an email from him that he sent to me by mistake. It said, "I am going to meet someone tomorrow that I am really interested in and hope to get involved with, so I want to let you know that I don't want to date you again, but I am up for casual s-x anytime, lunch meetings or right after work. Let me know if you want to keep banging each other but I don't want an emotional thing with you."

Since he and I had not met, this was obviously mistakenly sent to me, but it revealed him as being so false -- he was posing as a nice guy with good values, but he was really an opportunist.

Overall, I met some nice men, men who had issues they were in denial about, and some scary men. I was mildly assaulted in one of my early meetings. (A man pressed himself against me, pushing me into a car in a parking lot.) I learned some basic safety rules about meeting briefly in public, and also not letting the man see my car, or any identification. I do not tell men where I live -- even the street name. I subscribed to Public Data.com, which allows you to do background checks on people if you can discover their car license tag or their birth date. It was pretty easy to get either of these in a subtle way, and I did background checks every time. That's how I discovered men who had been arrested on DWI's or for assault. I would highly recommend background checks, if possible.

I also had some funny meetings -- where the guy looked nothing like the picture. Try to be very aware to the age of the picture -- what's in the background, what kind of clothes he's got on, does it look like a college yearbook shot or does it look age-appropriate to you.

Now, I work with a woman who met and married a wonderful guy from match.com. I also have a client whose sister married a man she met on match.com.

It's also very interesting to read profiles of other women on match.com -- to see what other women write about themselves. Some are very brazen, and some sound crazy and complicated, and some are very intelligent, polished and sound like lovely people. It's just interesting to see what the men are presented with also.

I disliked EHarmony because they filtered people to "match" your profile, but the people they presented me with were never realistic or good matches. They matched me with an uneducated factory worker with questionable dental hygiene in rural Montana -- why? I am a college educated, well-traveled entrepreneur living in a big city in the Southwest. They also matched me with men under 5'8', despite my designating height as a factor -- i am 5'10." It was kooky.

The questions you must select to send to the male are not anything I would actually ask a man as getting-to-know-you questions. So the process always got off to an artificial start.

Again, I got pretty far along emailing one man, who seemed wonderful. He sent me a photo that showed a vehicle. I could read the vehicle tag, so I entered it on Public Data.com and found that he had been imprisoned on assault charges. When I told him that I had decided it would not work out to try to see him, he got very angry and wrote an abusive email. I reported him to eharmony.com.

So...I am still single. But, I think the world is full of nice men, and one of them will be for me, and there is one for your sister. And I hope you, the questioner, take good care of your good husband, and cherish that relationship. Cheers! (I am home sick today...writing until the doctors calls in my Rx.)

Answer 2

I think they are lame. I was on match.com and only met one person. He was okay but of course I went to meet him with a friend. I am totally afraid of meeting people from the internet.
You never know what you are going to get.
Scary.

Answer 3

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They only list quality dating and singles websites that have been checked.

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Answer 4

i know of 2 people who ended up in relationships with people they met through adverts in newspapers.
Personally, I have met a few girlfriends from online sites/in specialistic/adult mags.
they are an interesting way of meeting people who are into the same thing you are.

Answer 5

generally the experience has been good to indifferent --- the ladies are honest generally the guys are more likely to "gild the lily" --- but then they are the ones losing out --- i met my lady love online so the last effort was marvellous