can love just fade away? how can I bring it back to life?

Question

My boyfriend and I have been together for one and half years. We've loved each other passionately and romantically. We've had the best year ever. But recently he told me he feels overwhelmed and doesn't know how he feels about me. I know with certainty there's none else. Can love just fade away? how can I bring it back to life? we haven't broken up our relationship.

Answer 1

1 1/2 yrs is nothing really when you take a look at life. People are married for 30, 40 & 50 yrs. Or that's the way it is suppose to be. You can't compare 1 1/2 years of horny sex, passion of the moment & a grand illusion of love to a slow, patient, ever growing, unconditional godly love unity of marriage. I think people bun themselves out to fast. Trying to fit everything in a short time that is meant to be a lifetime. Next time you will know what it is really all about. Don't make the same mistakes again build something that will stand the test of time. When you decide to lay down with that person make sure you can visualize 30 yrs down the road. Him and only him, all the bad habits, gray hair, false teeth, bathroom issues, sickness, kids, house & car payments & his family as well as your own. All those things plus so much more have to be in your heart!!!
And make darn sure this is in his heart as well. Both of you see no other besides each other, in a sexual way, EVER!. It can't be on sided it will fail for sure.

Answer 2

Sometimes, after being with a person for a year and half, after the physical starts to fade, you realize that you don't have as much in common as you thought you did. You're really starting to see your similarities and differences at this point. You can't make it come back if it's not there.

I would try to do more things together that you both enjoy or try doing things that the other person enjoys to find if you have more things in common.

Every relationship goes through a rut. You just have to be commited to your love and work extra hard to get out of it.

Good luck!!!!

Answer 3

I'm sorry but love isn't an object tha t you can just manipulate to go your way. Love just doesn't fade away. It doesn't come by choice either. Maybe it wasn't love to begin. Sometimes people SAY that they "Love" each other. But then they start to think that they don't have the feeling anymore. Maybe you guys need sometime apart. He could be bored of the relationship. Also, sometimes people are so much in love someone. But that person may not love them back. My advice, follow your heart. And if your heart in time you will find the 'Right' guy.

Answer 4

i am in the same situation as you are. my bf tells me that he does not know how he feels about me ne more: how he loves me one sec and the next he does not know or how he loves me sometimes. i had to take some time out and be on a break and i advise you to do the same thing. if he cared about you he would tell you that he loves you vs. he does not know. that is plain BS for i lost my feelings for you in my opinion. my bf and i dated for 19 and 1/2 months before i had to take some time off for like 6 weeks to focus on me. if you need to work really hard to make this relationship work and you are the one putting all the effort while your bf just tells you that he does not know where you 2 stand feelings wise, eck i would so break up with him. a relationship is somewhat work and compromising yet if you have to work at it all the time just say goodbye and move on as hard as it may sound. i am 22 and almost 23 and i am in love with my bf yet if someone told me that stuff that your bf is saying to you that would be a red flag. look, i am 22 and cannot give you all the advice yet what i can tell you is to be careful! one of you will get hurt in the end and sure it wont be him..also, if he lost interest in you how do you know that he is not cheating on you? to him it seems that you are like a piece of candy and after a while he gets tired of it...take some time out, focus on you vs him or you 2 and do something for yourself!

Answer 5

love fade bring life

Answer 6

Advice I received when my husband and I separated and were trying to date each other to work things out. If you remember why/how you fell in love in the first place and start acting like you did in the beginning, it won't be long until you realize that you are in love all over again.

Love does settle....when it is new it feels warm and fuzzy, but as people become comfortable with each other it's difficult to remember that warm/fuzziness you had in the beginning.

Answer 7

love doesn't fade away it just gets lost I think you need to step back and maybe he is going through something he has not told you yet and be there for him and just listen and it will work out you have to have Patience

Answer 8

as much as it really does suck.. you cant bring love 'back to life'. Unfortunatly most of the time.. when its gone its gone.. and sometimes theres nothing you can do.
I would straight out ask him if he still loves you, because in between feelings isnt good.. hes just playing games with your heart.
Sometimes its easier to end things before it gets messy.. my ex 'fell out of love' with me but stayed with me months later and it just got ugly in the end. I tried to make him love me again.. but unfortunatly theres no magic trick.. some people just arent meant to be together.
Hope everything works out hun! :)

Answer 9

check out the Buddy Holly song "Fade Away"

get some sexy underwear I think

Answer 10

this always happens in young romance, 99% never make it, I would look at your relationship and see if you are smothering him, you can also tell him you are giving him some space and going to hang out with your friend Steve ( made up name ) and make him jealous about losing you