how do you heal..how to move on.....?

Question

I am currently in a relationship everything is going down hill.....I care for this man so much that this really hurts... His ten years older than me.... he has been married twice has 3 kids. I am 22 never been married and have no kids. So I am aware that there is no future with him... I just dont want to hurt... I havent seen all weekend.... I am thinking the worst... How do I get over him.. I dont wanna cry or at least I dont want him know or see me cry... I wanna feel good about my self I wanna be happy..... I dont want care for him ....How do I get him out of my head .....Whats I do with feeling.... How do fall out of love

Answer 1

Well, the easiest thing to do is get out there and have fun. Most every guy wants to raise his ego by making his girl suffer and cry. Go to a club have fun with friends. Find yourself a guy to hang with. That's what I did and my ex was so jealous, he came running back. But don't do it for your ex, do it for you. Keep yourself busy and occupied.

Answer 2

If anyone knew the answer to immediate healing from the pain of a broken heart, that person would be rich. We all as humans have suffered the pains of a broken heart at some time or other. And it is not a joyous occasion. I can tell you that time is the best healer of your pain. In the mean time you can try and do things to take your mind of your troubles. Get all the support and love from people who care about you. If you know this man is not the one for you then you must make positive steps in moving on with out him. I wish I could raise a magic wand and take away your pain, but only time can do that. Best of luck to you!

Answer 3

One of your statements stand out like a sore thumb.."So I am aware that there is no future with him". Cut your losses and move on....being alone isn't half as bad as being miserable with someone not meant for you. It'll sound corny, but time really does heal. Get out there and concentrate on yourself...keep busy....be social and look for someone that is more suited for your needs. Right now you're stuck in neutral and not moving anywhere...that's only going to make the pain worse. Yes it will (and does) hurt but you're human and the hurt is natural. Mourn your loss and move on. I'm pretty sure you know it's inevitable. I am very sorry that your hurting, been there myself a few times....you will get past this, I promise you that. Much luck!

Answer 4

That's hard.. cause when I'm dating, I try not to date a man with baggage.. baggage means either hes been married before, have kids, baby-moma-drama, etc. It's very easy to tell u to see other people, but it easier said than done. I think u should rethink what ur hobbies are, and when u get some good answers to that.. keep urself doing what u like to do, and most likely ur mind won't be on him. Have a girl's nite out with some of ur female friends and mix & mingle..
Some people heal quicker than others, but i feel the only way u can move on and get over any situation is by learning from ur mistake.. I'm not telling u to don't date men who has kids and been married, i'm just saying try to date someone more like u.. who's never been married and dont have any kids, doing it like dat would make it much easier for a relationship to work, cause yall time would be invested in each other and no one else.. and another thing. u can't fall in love one day and the next day fall outta love.. cause falling in love is a slow process and falling out of love is a harder process, but it won't be hard for u, cause u realize that this relationship won't work..... I suggest u to mend ur broken heart fully, cause if u try to date while trying to get over a ex.. u will be comparing the next man to him. And when u do get back on the dating scene, make sure u know what u want in a man and how u want a man to treat you, cause that would leave u off the dating scene for a while if u pick the right one.. Cause I don't like to date back-2-back.. one more thing, sometimes crying makes u feel better.. u just have to let it out, but u are probably like me.. i dont want no one to see or know im crying over them. But best time to cry is when u are alone, i would suggest in a hot steamy shower.. just let it all out with the running water.. oh and remember i said something bout ur hobbies.. to feel good about urself: go shopping, go to the spa and get a massage along with ur nails & hair done.. I feel more confident and beautiful about myself when I treat myself to those things so i hope it works for u.. u won't get him out ur head, the only thing u can do is close the memory in ur head of him.. but he will always be there, just not in ur heart. Good Luck with ur healing process.. i hope i helped ya!

Answer 5

I am truly soory for what you are going through. But from past experience, if you love him, You cant fall out of love. You will always love him. My fiance, before we got together. We talked for at least a year. Her boyfriend at the time she knew she didn't have a future with him. But she loved him so much. What made it hard for her to leave, was he was the only thing he had. They would always argue with each other. Until one day she built up the strength to tell him. Now me and her are in love. But I can feel deep down inside that she still cares for him, but she also loves me with her whole heart. So only time can heal your wounds. But, you have to built up the strength and courage to tell him. Or you won't be true to yourself. I will pray for you. I'm am truly sorry for you. It feels like your heart is just being torn apart right. You must cry. Trust me you will feel much better afterwards.

Answer 6

time is the only thing hon,,,, i know it's hard and sometimes i don't know why i like some guys that totally don't deserve it but the best thing to do is get away and stay away from them, if you know it's not what you want in the first place then don't go any further, even if it seems fun at the time, you will hurt a lot worse in the end then the the amount of time it will hurt if you end it now,,,good luck

Answer 7

I dont think you ever fall out of love I think you learn to love again and with a deeper love I know that it is hard but why be wife number 3 and it is very hard to be in a relationship with someone that has kids already you need to find someone your age.
I think if you stop looking and do things for yourself then do something for someone in need and it will take the focus off yourself.

Answer 8

Time is the only thing that heals pain and sorrow!!!! at first you feel like you are just going through the motions and that's OK, go through them. cry, get it out of your system, don't just keep it bottled up, its not good for you. Start going out and doing things you enjoy, this will take your mind off him for awhile and then eventually, you will think less and less about him, until he is just a found memory.

Whatever you do do not just wallow in self pity and keep yourself locked away, you will never get over it that way!!!

Good luck

Answer 9

It's going to be hard to get over him, and it probably won't happen right away...No one wants to hurt after they lose someone they love but it happens...and we get over it. Eventually a day will go by and you'll realize you didn't even give that person a single thought...just don't let him control your mind...keep going on with life and let this experience make you stronger, you'll be fine.

Answer 10

you just cant turn your feelings off for someone you care about. but you could keep yourself busy by doing that you will have your mind occupied on something eles and yes every once in awhile he will pop in your head and you just have to shake it off think of how happy you want to be and the future you could have without him.