I am very happy for him, however I usually have a rule that if I am invited to a wedding I usually don't attend because I think weddings are boring and full of fru fru. I am single and I have an adversion to wedding I guess because I get very sad about weddings because I am in my late thirties and not yet married or have a serious significant other. Is it because of jealousy. Iget this way too when friends of mine get engaged, married and have babies. Is it wrong of me not wanting to participate in their joy. I really like my coworker and he has become a good friend and has helped me out but I just don't have the heart to decline his invitation. Should I go to his wedding or just do what I do not to attend weddings out of principle?
2007-04-02 03:36:49 · 20 answers · asked by Contessa 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Just do what feels right to you. If you can live with yourself if you don't go then don't go. If he's really been that supportive of you, though, don't you owe it to him to share in his moment of happiness? It's a way of repaying him for all the kindness he's shown you. Remember, it's not about you participating in their joy, it's about being a friend and you know he'd want to see you there.
2007-04-02 03:48:15 · answer #1 · answered by Luc 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree that weddings are boring, too much fuss (and waste of money) for practically nothing as in a few years half of them will end up to divorce. Therefore, you don't have to feel unhappy that you are not married, maybe you should feel lucky. In any case, if you colleague is a nice person as you say, I suggest you attend his wedding because with his invitation he is honouring you. Besides, people who are -or intend to get -married, can never understand the reply "I don't attend weddings out of principle", they will probably think that you are weird, which you are not, but it will take too much energy to explain this. So, accept the invitation, wear something nice and enjoy the party and the catering.
2007-04-02 11:36:48 · answer #2 · answered by yiotadelta 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel, been there myself. I seemed to go to one wedding after another for awhile there and I never had a date or a boyfriend and it was depressing for me. However, eventually I did find the right man and got married so it worked out. But, I made myself go everytime. When someone invites you to a wedding they sincerely want you to be there to share the day with them. An invitation to a wedding is an investment from the bride/groom as their families or themselves are paying for the wedding and want you to be there to celebrate their special day. It's not going to change the fact that when you look around and everyone seems to have someone to share it with, but you. But that's not why you are there, remind yourself that. Be happy for the couple and try to make the best of it. It's all about them that day, not you. Try to be a good friend and be there for them. I only invited a total of 50 people to our wedding, so those who did get invited knew that the invites were limited so it made it more of an honor for them to be invited at all. Please cheer up, go to the wedding, and perhaps you may even meet someone there! Good luck!
2007-04-02 11:45:26 · answer #3 · answered by daff73 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should go. Try and have an open mind. The wedding ceremony will only be so long and then you can enjoy yourself at the reception with the two other coworkers. You never know, you might have a good time and you could meet that special someone. Be open minded and remember, if what you are doing right now isn't working (toward your goal) then try something new.
2007-04-02 11:00:10 · answer #4 · answered by sunnydays 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel, I was like that not long ago. But I still went to attend all the engagements and wedddings of my friends because it's their special day and I would like to go for their sake. Anyway, engagements and weddings are great places to meet your significant other half. I have met some really nice people at such occasions. So just try not to think about yourself and be happy for your coworker. Go and enjoy it! And good luck in meeting some nice single guy!
2007-04-02 10:59:05 · answer #5 · answered by Lilliana 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's sounds like your afraid of being judged or judging yourself. Picture the scene. You're at the reception, the bride's mother is having a cocktail with you, and pats you on the shoulder and says something like "don't worry sweetheart, you'll be next" Woken up in the dead of night screaming yet?
You need to be more secure in your situation. If you're morbidly avoiding situations that might make others know you are single then you are quite upset or bothered by it. This you should look into letting go of, it's unhealthy plus also it can be sensed by others at times and is not something that will draw somebody to you.
I think you sohuld go to this one, remember that the day is about him, not you. But you just need a good attitude and you'll be fine. Try to find a flattering dress, turn up with a friend and have a great time. Dance, drink, be looked at by the single men and just enjoy the day.
2007-04-02 10:44:30 · answer #6 · answered by jleslie4585 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I say go. Celebrate with your friend.
I know it can be hard when you feel like the last single person on the planet, but happiness draws happiness. Go and be happy for your friend, and happiness will find its way to you. I know that sounds silly and trite, but I'm serious. The harder you TRY to be happy, the more things you'll find to be happy about.
Besides, no one says you have to stay until the end of the reception. It's perfectly acceptable to go, congratualte the happy couple, chat with a few people, eat a lovely meal, and watch them do the traditional things like cut the cake and share their first dance. Then, if you're really uncomfortable, you can simply excuse yourself and go home.
2007-04-02 10:47:24 · answer #7 · answered by sylvia 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go to the wedding. This person has become your friend. Show your support. You don't have to go to the reception if you don't want, but do go to the wedding. Friends support friends, and share their joy. Put your own ambivalence aside for the day.
2007-04-02 11:15:31 · answer #8 · answered by l_quicksilver 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd go. Even if you're single, you have other friends who will be there. Think of it as a chance to dress up and have food and party. Think of it just as an event. Plus, you might be able to do some networking, meet new people, and you never know if you'll meet that right person! :)
2007-04-02 11:58:35 · answer #9 · answered by chefgrille 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the wedding. Don't get all depressed and sad.....be there to have fun and celebrate something good in your friend's life.
2007-04-02 12:10:33 · answer #10 · answered by deerogre 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋