Back when my ex-boyfriend and I were still dating, we responded to a wedding invitation, and I was to go as his guest. We recently broke up and I do not know if I am still supposed to go.
2007-04-02 02:50:57 · 15 answers · asked by iamnotsoshort 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It's his friend. Originally she didn't invite any girlfriends because it was a small wedding, but then made it a big deal when she invited me so we replied together. The wedding is in 3 weeks, we are trying to be friends, but the breakup just happened Thursday so things are still up in the air. We've been talking on the phone and emailing, and would like to remain friends.
2007-04-02 02:57:38 · update #1
We were together for 2.5 years, so I am very good friends with all of his friends. The bride is not as close as the other friends of his attending the wedding, but I have hung out with her as much as the rest of their crew has in that time period.
2007-04-02 03:21:27 · update #2
No, you don't have to go. He'll probably take someone else or he will go alone.
2007-04-02 02:53:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's up to you. Do you know the couple (or at least one of them) getting married personally? If that's the case, I would contact the couple, tell them how you feel, ask if it would be ok for you to come alone, and then see if they'll seat you at a separate table from your ex at the wedding. Now, if you don't know them personally, they were just friends of your ex, then I'd say no, don't go. In a case like that, it's not even your responsibility to notify anyone that you're not coming. Your ex should do that, or he should ask if he can bring someone else. Also, I'd check with either the couple getting married, or your ex (if you're comfortable with that) to see if he is actually taking someone else. Sometimes they have a set number limit for guests, so if your ex is bringing someone else, and you also want to go, that might make the seating at tables not work out. Do what you want. But remember, if you go, you're there to support the bride and groom, so if your ex is also there, avoid him as much as possible. You don't want to bring your personal problems into their wedding reception.
2007-04-02 10:00:21 · answer #2 · answered by tinaroonie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.
He and a guest were invited. Unless he asks you to attend with him, you are not invited. You can contact him and gently remind him that you RSVP'ed as 2, and if he isnt taking someone else, that he needs to contact the Bride and let her know he will be attending alone.
2007-04-02 09:55:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, don't go. If you're trying to stay friends, going to a wedding will be tough. First, it's like a date, but a date where love and marriage is in the air. You won't be comfortable.
2007-04-02 10:08:18 · answer #4 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ettiquette is this: If your name was on the invitation, you're invited regardless of whether you're with him or not. If the people getting married are more friends of your ex, and the invitation came to "your ex and guest", then I'd skip out on it if I were you.
2007-04-02 09:54:08 · answer #5 · answered by Scotty Doesnt Know 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel your relationship as just friends now is pretty strong then you should go. If you don't feel like it then don't go, you don't want to be dealing with crowds of people talking about you guys. Yes feel free to go. Just think of it in a positive way. Would they dump you outta the wedding?
2007-04-02 09:55:10 · answer #6 · answered by Love Me Tender* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say no unless the happy coupl are mutual friends of yours. If you hadn't been with your X do you think you would have been invited? If not, then you don't go.
2007-04-02 09:54:26 · answer #7 · answered by Kitten 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you friends with the bride and groom?
If not, he should be the one calling them and letting them know that you are unable to attend.
If you think he won't, maybe you should be polite and do this.
2007-04-02 09:55:10 · answer #8 · answered by sweetxgrace 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe you should simply ask him directly if he still wants you to accompany him to the wedding.
2007-04-02 10:19:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess that would be determined if he still wanted you to go and who's friend is getting married
2007-04-02 09:53:23 · answer #10 · answered by cowgrl3611 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who's friend sent the invite his or yours? If it's yours then go, if its not then dont.
2007-04-02 09:55:12 · answer #11 · answered by sassyliz32 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋