2007-04-02 02:10:51 · 10 answers · asked by Joe 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
There is nothing disrespectful about asking someone to stand for you on your wedding day.
2007-04-02 02:13:46 · answer #1 · answered by Maudie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm wondering if this person is not a friend, but more of a mentor, say for example, a boss at work, or a professor from college or something like that. You get along well in those kinds of settings, but don't really have a personal friendship relationship. Is that what you're asking???
If that's the situation, I'd say, don't ask them to be a grooms man in your wedding party, just invite them to the wedding as a guest. They will be honored enough that you thought enough to ask them to your wedding, to help celebrate your special day.
Now, if this person you're thinking of is a close friend, as well as a mentor, even if they are significantly older than you, I think they'd be honored to be a grooms man in your wedding party, and you should ask them. I don't think you'd be disrespectful in asking them just to be a grooms man, rather than the best man, because that usually is reserved for a brother or cousin, or best friend you've known for years and years, etc. But if you care about this person as a friend, do ask him to be in your wedding party in some way. Good luck on your big day.
2007-04-02 10:26:27 · answer #2 · answered by tinaroonie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Joe,
It is not at all disrespectful to ask a person you “look up to” to be a groomsman in your wedding. I would merely recommend that you have a discussion, in your own time and manner, alone to discuss (reaffirm) your friendship and assistance he has brought to you over the course of your relationship. Your friend in turn is likely an intelligent person who understands that the “best man” is normally a brother, cousin, or other person with whom you have had a long relationship with – he may likely know this person through the similar friends and others that you all keep in touch with.
The fact that you ask this question openly and honestly in this forum only proves how highly you think of this fellow. I would merely suggest that when you ask him to be a groomsman that you have a “one on one” out of courtesy and additional respect for the both of you.
Best of luck and have a terrific wedding!
2007-04-02 09:22:14 · answer #3 · answered by Gerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No to me it should be an honor to be a groomsmen in someone wedding because most likely it was some people i had to step over to get to this point.
2007-04-02 09:14:40 · answer #4 · answered by Diamond 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Inviting someone to be a groomsman is the same as saying, "I think of you as one of my closest friends."
The best man and the groomsmen are typically the closest friends to the groom.
If that describes your relationship with this guy, it would be alright to ask him.
2007-04-02 09:15:01 · answer #5 · answered by Stuart 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not at all, ask away! The groomsman I assume is "best man" in the uk, and it's a privilege to be asked to be anyone's best man. It's your wedding, your choice.
2007-04-02 09:38:37 · answer #6 · answered by Paul M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually not. You have the right to ask, they have the right to accept or not. Is this person a good friend? They are there to support and encourage you.
2007-04-02 09:15:05 · answer #7 · answered by Thomas K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. There's nothing wrong with that. This person would probably be very honored that you asked. You should definitely ask!
2007-04-02 09:48:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it SHOULD be someone you look up to and respect, what's the point in asking someone you despise? It is very respectful if you like the person and admire them.
2007-04-02 09:51:39 · answer #9 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Duh!
2007-04-02 09:13:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋