Son exgirl friend broke up with him does she give the gifts back or not?

Question

she is only 14 very immature
she broke up his relationship with her best friend
she thinks they are getting back together
she keeps calling and texting him
he has a new girlfriend who treats him like he should be treated she doesn't hit him like the other one did all the time
she always put him down
she did all the talking never let him say a word unless they were fighting
she always started the fights and then blamed them on him
she has her friends calling to see if they can get them back together
she doesn't know how to take the meaning of the word NO
had her mom take a very provacitive picture of her that she texted to my son
her mom works with Social Services in Child Support and uses her government job to get her daughter out of trouble
my son's best friend didn't like her but now he does and takes her side knowing what she did

HELP

just learnt son's best friend is seeing this girl even though he saw how she treated my son
this friend didn't like this girl when my son was going with her hated it when she called all the time
this friend has made my son serve time in Juvie for a crime he(friend) did which now makes my son have a felony record
this friend was with my son when the gifts were bought
this friend and girl lies to get what they want and they lie to their parents
this girl personally told me(mom) in a phone call that she would give the gifts back and that she has changed but now she is not cause she talked with this best friend and he said not to
what now
my son is the one that is being screwed not him or her
she at the age of 13 wanted my son to deflower her and he was 15 going on 16 he didn't
still think we should forget about the jewelry which each piece cost over $100.00 and was paid out of his government check that was to used for home first but wasn't

Answer 1

They are children.....let it go. Sounds like he found someone nice anyhow and as far as the friend....move on. This is alot of avoidable drama. Let her keep the gifts...why on earth would he make her think he cared by asking for them back?

Answer 2

You and your son will just have to ignore her. Next time she calls your son tell him to set her straight that he does not want to get back together with her and does not have feelings for her. He must be firm and control the conversation. But, do not bring up the other girl to her because if she as pyshco as she sounds she'll start picking fights with that girl too. I mean your son has apparently moved on and this girl hasn't. As for his best friend, your son needs to talk to him and be like "Ya know, I don't really appreciate that after all that she put me through you are now taking her side in all this crap." Prehaps your son's friend may like the crazy girl. If that be the case, have those to date and that'll solve the issue.

Answer 3

well, she might not win girlfriend of the year any time soon but a gift is a gift so she isn't under any obligation to return them.

Besides, if she really is that vindictive, you son may be better off to cut his losses and just move on with the new girlfriend. Give this chic a wide berth.

Answer 4

No, she dose not give the gifts back simply because they were gifts. As for the other problems, just continue to ignore, and avoid any contact. In time she souled get the message.

Answer 5

if you give a gift you shouldn't be expect to ever get it back, unless you live in a culture where it is normal to do so, which you most likely dont. i know its not fair. its just material stuff anyway. if you believe in karma, everything will turn out even in the end. that girl will probably have enough rough times in her life to punish her for whatever she did to your son. take comfort in that

Answer 6

well she sounded like a real...beep...but she doesnt have to give back the gifts...when i broke up with a boyfriend.. maybe she will keep the stuff and look back onday and realized what she messed up...he should change his phone number...

Answer 7

This sounds a bit unreal. Perhaps it needs to be reported to another caseworker, documented with all your proof.