how can i force myself to get the help i need?

Question

i honestly don't get it. i can't bring myself to go see a psychiatrist, therapist, or psychologist.. i'm not in denial and i do want my life back..i think. but i won't bring myself to one and it's not like anyone can force me to. anyone have any idea how i can force myself to go?
don't worry about giving a good answer..cause i don't know why i bothered asking. i know i won't use the advice. sorry

Answer 1

Don't worry honey, it'll get to the point where you realise that you need to get help no matter how little you want to.

I'm finally seeking help after years of denial and avoidance - I thought I could beat this on my own. Turns out I can't.

I'm also in recovery for my drink problem, and I remember going to AA meetings very drunk, begging them to tell me how to get help. They all said that everyone hits rock bottom at some point, and when you do you realise that you have no alternative to get help.

Don't rush yourself, don't push yourself. When you are ready you'll take that step.

There are things you can do to help yourself if you think that might be easier than seeking help from a proffessional. Baby steps remember. The amount of books I've bought and never read, the appointments I've made but cancelled. A lot of us go through this, try not to worry about it.

You can try looking at self-help websites online. Don't underestimate the benefit of a good diet, time outside, fresh air and exercise.

If I can help in any other way, feel free to email me :)

Answer 2

Who is someone you trust in your life? Parent, spouse, anyone that cares for you and you trust. Have them read this if you cant tell them you need help and want help. Have them make you an appointment with a doctor - either a family doctor who can suggest a therapist for you, or if you know of any therapists in your area.

Or - make the call yourself. Once you have the appointment, you will feel a little more obligated to go - but having someone know you have an appointment, they can actually make sure you are going.

Answer 3

Some people are anxious or scared to speak of their issues with a professional counselor or Dr.
One very good way to actually get the help you need, is to enlist the assistance of a relative or friend. Sometimes depression can have you in such a fog that it is difficult to make decisions or to initiate a change in your life, even if it is to ask for help. A friend who really cares about the person sometimes needs to step in, find the counselor, make the appointment, help you dress and find your shoes, drive you there and walk you in, sitting silently with you or holding your hand through the appointment, even taking notes for you so you can remember what the Counselor/Dr. asked you to do.
Trust can be very difficult for someone in such times, particularly if the person is somewhat suicidal. Hope can be outside of their comprehension for that time.

If you or someone you know are having such a difficult time even facing that you might need help, do recognize that a true friend can sometimes help to save your life.

Answer 4

boy oh boy do you sound like me.. I thought I was the only one.Not just mental docs but even physical docs, I had a liver biopsy and now I ca'nt get myself in there to get the results.I dont know why I wont go, am I scared, maybe. I know I need that kick in the a__ that your talking about. I difinetly need anti-depressants because I am a very depressed person. But I'm like you, I ca'nt get in there. I wonder if it meant that it would be a matter of life and death if that would make us go. If we would die tomorrow if we did'nt go, would that make us go??Probaly not because we would know that it was'nt true.I wished I could help you because that meant I helped myself. I am so sorry I could not help. I will be praying for you. God Bless.

Answer 5

no one can force you to do something that you don't wnat to do in your heart of hearts
you will seek help when you are ready to do so---it sounds like you are confused and need some encouraging
we all need help at sometime in our life---you have taken the first step and admitted that you need help/therapy

that is a big step--now you just need some time to process all and get through the door to the therapist and get the help that you need and deserve---do not be afraid from these peopls---they are there to help you

Answer 6

i was in denial too, didnt admit i had a problem but it got to the point where it was controlling my life. if you want your life back you need to make the first move. sounds like your crying out for help to me, go see your doctor.

Answer 7

If your not going to go then maybe you should think about some things you can do to help yourself, such as join a support group online, talking it through with friends/family, read some self-help books etc.

Answer 8

If your too self centered to admit you are in need of help, then no one can help you. Just because you can say the words "I need help" doesnt mean you are admitting it, if you truely knew you needed it, you would stop making excuses like a child and go get the help you need. Your wrong, you ARE in denial.

Answer 9

I enjoy talking to my dr. She's nice, attentive, and cute. If she wasn't there to listen to me, there would be nobody that I could confide in. I don't see her much anymore though, don't feel the need to. Anyway, maybe your dr will have some qualities that you enjoy.

Answer 10

come on, you can do it, you already ad nit you need help, that's a big one , now make an appointment, and make sure you go to it. its always hard to make the first move, but when you do, do it you will feel much better about yourself, and it does help... good luck.