We are planning to get married and since we are both working he asked me to give up my career for us to live together. My workplace is quite far from him...
2007-04-02 01:09:53 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That would be giving up your independence. He has no right to ask that of you. Make the best decision for you. Once you give up your independence, you become his possession, and he 'd dictate to you when to jump and how high. Marriage is about two people who love each other, therefore compromise is imperative.
2007-04-02 01:17:57 · answer #1 · answered by Ari-ah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think so..why is his career so much better than yours? sounds to me like he has a bad case of the greedies...he wants you in HIS life, on HIS terms, the way he wants it...i think just the fact that he wasn't willing to give up HIS career, but instead asked you to give up yours says alot about how he really feels about you...unless there is some other reason in here that you have not stated, like he lives in a WAY better place, or he makes WAY more money than you, i would have a serious talk with this man...and then if he didnt change his tune a little, i would hand him his walking papers.
2007-04-02 08:16:40 · answer #2 · answered by Cinna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends. . .
If you are comfortable subjugating yourself and destroying your means of financial stability in the very unlikely event that your fiance becomes disabled or passes, then give up your work life for him.
However, if you value freedom and independence, then you have to take a stand.
It's your call. It's your life.
2007-04-02 08:32:47 · answer #3 · answered by DaMan 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you suggest moving somewhere in the middle so you will both have roughly equal commutes to work?
Don't don't don't give up your career ever!!!
2007-04-02 08:13:37 · answer #4 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Time for a compromise! Why can't he move closer to your job? You need to talk about this before you get married or you might regret it.
2007-04-02 08:14:37 · answer #5 · answered by DialM4Speed 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
No problem, - just have him replace your salary and benefits for an equal or greater amount. If he refuses - tell him the answer is NO!
2007-04-02 08:15:31 · answer #6 · answered by Sven B 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
humane? i thought it is selfish find a new job near Ur new home
2007-04-02 08:24:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's really difficult.....
but for me no i don't give up my career just for married life maybe if we already have children....
2007-04-02 08:14:26 · answer #8 · answered by azumi 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋