Or who pays what for the wedding? my bf always talks about our future wedding though he has not proposed yet. i have started to worry about it as i don't have much $saving and my family can hardly afford the expenditure of one.
2007-04-02 01:06:14 · 20 answers · asked by Honey A 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I'm in your shoes, money-wise. My mom cannot afford much more than a simple gift, and my father is deceased. We are in our mid-30's, so I believe at our age, it is our responsibility anyway. I told him how much I could come up with, and he said he doesn't care about that because it's his wedding too, and he wants what he wants, and doesn't mind paying for it. Your guy may feel the same way.
It's always best to be upfront with your guy and tell him what you can reasonably afford to spend on a wedding. Not everyone can bankroll a $100,000 extravaganza, and you should not go into debt for a huge wedding either.
2007-04-02 03:47:02 · answer #1 · answered by melouofs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The bride and groom should save together. Maybe your parents will chip in a little if they feel like it, but it's very rude of you to ask. Don't worry about not having much money. Weddings don't have to be the grand ballroom style weddings that cost $20,000 or more. The best weddings I've been to were small, informal, intimate, and fun.
2007-04-02 10:20:11 · answer #2 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Traditionally, the groom's parents pay for the rehearsal dinner/reception and the bride's parents pay for the wedding.
Considering how times have changed, this tradition is still practiced by people all over the country, but there are just as many today who go about it differently, be it paying for the wedding themselves, the groom's parents paying for the wedding, etc. It's all up to what you/your family and the groom/his family can afford to do.
2007-04-02 08:11:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the old days the brides parent's paid for the wedding/reception and the grooms parents paid for the rehearsal dinner and the booze if there is any.
Now most of the financial burden falls on the marrying couple. Both of you pay for it. You don't have to spend a fortune to have a happy marriage. A small wedding and a small party is fine.
2007-04-02 08:13:49 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are hundreds of wedding etiquette books available to help you decide this but, in a nutshell, it comes down to what the families decide upon. When my daughter was married, her father and his wife, my husband and I, and her fiancee's parents each paid a portion of the expenses based on how many guests they invited. It was agreed that the bride and groom would pay for the DJ. My husband and I paid the honorariums for the church, minister, and organist, and my son-in-law's father insisted on paying for the rehearsal dinner (although we had agreed ahead of time on splitting those costs among the three families). It was the most gracious and family-oriented wedding I had ever attended (although I might seem a little prejudiced!)
2007-04-02 10:27:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Traditionally it is the bride's family that pays the bill however in today's world things are much more expensive and people don't have that kind of money. Also the more money that is contributed to the wedding costs the more the people who contributed thinks they get to decide how the plans go.
2007-04-02 13:42:55 · answer #6 · answered by chiefs fan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wedding = Groom
Rehersal = Groom's parents
Honeymoon = Groom
The cash gifts we received just about covered the cost of the wedding.
2007-04-02 09:56:18 · answer #7 · answered by kyrie_eleison_gr 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The couple pays for the wedding together. Start saving now!
2007-04-02 16:18:46 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe when he starts talking about your future wedding you should get in on the conversation with him. You should be able to talk to him about anything if you are planning on marrying him. Tell him your dreams about that day and tell him your fears. Let him know about the money situation. You have to start communicating now! Otherwise you'll have problems down the road in your life together.
2007-04-02 09:56:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both should pay for the wedding, with no expectations of outside help.
Use your income tax refunds towards saving for the wedding. Watch how you spend your money. Set some aside each paycheck.
2007-04-02 09:50:32 · answer #10 · answered by Terri 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋