I have had a 'bed' friend for three months now and have tried to stop the physical stuff over the last month because I am getting attached and I can sense it is going nowhere. I want him in my life though as he is good for my head, really listens and makes time for me. He lent me his van this weekend to pick up my daughter and her friends from Uni for Easter and then has been nasty since accusing me of not putting any diesel in.......I put more in than I used and of smoking in his van, I respect him way too much to do anything like that. Now it seems he is not talking to me and I refuse to message him but I am so upset, yes....I am attached and hurting too. Seems silly maybe but I am quite sensitive and can't even eat. Nice comments you guys please, reaching out to you here x
2007-04-02 00:57:04 · 15 answers · asked by Andrea 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hello - he will come around - that's men for you!. But listen, looking to the future is this what you really want. If you were in secure serious two way relationship this little event would have been a minor disagreement. However, as you are scared of losing his friendship and companionship you will tend to over worry at the little things - I have been there and I know exactly where you are. Enjoy his company by all means BUT, put yourself out here a bit more with a view to meeting someone who you can have a proper two way relationship with - that will be very good for your head!. Chin up babes, he will come round - let him cool off and then give him a little call. x
2007-04-02 01:10:01 · answer #1 · answered by Bexs 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are the perfect example for why those "friends with benefits" arrangements don't work. One or the other always gets attached and subsequently gets hurt.
Break off all contact with your booty call, as things will only go downhill from here. You are trying to back away from the physical stuff, and he is becoming petty and childish because he is not getting it. This has never been and never will be a friendship or a committed relationship. So stop wasting your time.
2007-04-02 08:04:37 · answer #2 · answered by Liz 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like there is a little more going on here than meets the eye. May be he is feeling like you, and is feeling that he is starting to become attatched? thus kicking off like this is his way of breaking away? Seems from what you say that you two could actually have a good chance at a relationship?? May be try talking to him? properly and see where things are going, if you do not and all this under current stuff keeps going on you will drive a wedge into your freindship blow any chance of a relationship and lose the freindship. Seems to me you have more to gain from talking to each other honestly than you stand to lose carrying on like this.
2007-04-02 08:42:27 · answer #3 · answered by djp6314 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, thatst not much to fall out on, is it? Gosh - if he's sleeping with you, he should be glad to be able to help you out occasionally. I think there's soemthing else underneath, that's bugging him. Maybe he's upset that you're cutting down on the physical side and doesn't understand why you're doing it.
Honey, you're falling in love with a man who isn't in love with you. That's the problem with sex - women don't seem to be able to sleep with a man on a continual basis without loving. Good luck.
2007-04-02 08:14:41 · answer #4 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he was just having a bad day. Most of us do and then unintentionally take it out on the other and any excuse will do then. Don't take it to hart, shame man. Make him his favourite meal and if that does not help then he is just a stubborn male. I wish you well and start feeling happy it is nearly nearly long weekend.:))
2007-04-02 08:08:19 · answer #5 · answered by Duisend-poot 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's probably upset about something else altogether and vented it on you. Not fair I know but people do such things, give him time and just stay being nice to him. It'll wash over. Good luck.
2007-04-02 08:03:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since you sad he's a "bed friend" why no invite him over for a special shaved p u s s y treat, eat each other out and everything will be fine. Yum Yum
2007-04-02 08:09:16 · answer #7 · answered by Jose F 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Having ended what you friend probably regards as the main aspect of your relationship, what reaction do you expect?
2007-04-02 08:13:20 · answer #8 · answered by Clive 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
maybe he is attached to but don't want to show it he is trying to fight so it will be easier on him if he thinks you are just friends. i would tell him how you feel. life is to short!
2007-04-02 08:14:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he don't come round I don't mind taking over 4 him
2007-04-02 08:06:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋