Here's the deal. I told my ex who
1. Lied to me about being on birth control which got her pregnant (she aborted)
2. I knew since i was like 11 yrs old (Im 21 now)
and my other ex who didnt believe me when this chick i never met who my homeboy was talkin to tried and set me up. I admit it was very clever what she did and made ex #2 break up with me. Well after I told both of them, they both said they wanted to go. We arent friends nor do we talk on the phone. Idk why they wanna come and im concerned it will effect our happiness at the wedding if they attend. Ex #2 isnt sweatin it much but ex #1 is like "But i knew you all my life. its messed up i cant come." i told her id ask my fiancee who also knows what they both did because we are very open. My fiancee doesnt want them to attend. And she is still stressin. I told her it isnt only my wedding and i have to ask. I think i did the right thing here. What do u guys think and can u give any reason y they would wanna go
2007-04-02 00:39:58 · 16 answers · asked by Jamel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Ex #1 best friend jumped all over my case because i was "Wrong" for not rly wanting her to come.
2007-04-02 00:41:39 · update #1
I only talk to the ex#1 on Instant messenger. And i was asking to get views of other people. Maybe get some personal experiences thrown in.
2007-04-02 01:15:51 · update #2
Honestly, you shouldn't have even asked your fiancee if they could come. You should have known she wouldn't approve of either ex being there.Seriously, who wants drama at their wedding? I know she doesn't and I don't even know her.This wedding isn't about his and hers. You guys are about to become one life. Sometimes you have to put your foot down and tell those who aren't a part of your life to back up and step off. I hope your wedding is a good one. Don't let people come in between a good thing. Congrats!
2007-04-02 01:01:19 · answer #1 · answered by Random 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't matter what your fiancee says. NO EX'S AT YOUR WEDDING! A friend of mine had that same exact thing happen, basically. An ex found out about the wedding, made an argument about going. So while she was there all she did was hit on the groom and piss off the bride, and that was before she slapped the bride and called her a tramp. They only want trouble for you because that's what they went through after you (or they) left. Maybe the friend does just want to be around for that part of your life, but even if so it's probably not all that friendly deep down (maybe more than friendly). So why would you want to create that situation at your wedding.
2007-04-02 07:55:01 · answer #2 · answered by ThaiGold 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, if you have to ask people on Yahoo if you should invite your Ex's to your wedding, the answer should be a pretty clear "No". Especially since your future WIFE does not want this. Sorry to tell you, but it's time to leave the past in the past.
I would say it may be ok if (and ONLY if):
-Your fiance was OK with it
-YOU are OK with it, and don't have to think about reasons for not wanting them/her there.
-There is good reason to have them there.
-There is no drama that makes things complicated
-You can be sure they won't START drama on your Big Day
-You truly see them as only a friend, and they feel the exact same way about you.
As you can see, your situation breaks more than one of the rules. If your Ex truly wants to be your friend, she will understand.
I don't know why they would want to go, but do you really want to risk upsetting your future wife? I mean, haven't you seen those movie sceens where the minister asks "Does anyone here object to this marriage-Speak now or forever hold your peace?" and the drunk ranging Ex stands up? Don't let that be you!
You want to start fresh. Leave the lies, abortions, and drama in the past.
2007-04-02 08:01:53 · answer #3 · answered by reginachick22 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a really funny situation to put yourself in and amazingly enough you are not the first guy to do it. My husband invited his ex-girlfriend and ex-wife to our wedding and what a wedding it was. I realize that you are friends with the ex's and everything, but I would stop and look at it like this. You are about to start your life with your fiance' and you won't get too good of a start with the past slapped in her face. You seriously have to take all of that into consideration, also she has already said she doesn't want them there. So my suggestion would be not to invite them or it may come back and not be a wedding. Good Luck.
2007-04-02 08:09:46 · answer #4 · answered by Barbara B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have my ex (from like 6th grade) going to my wedding, but we have been best friends forever. My FI has an ex going, but again, it was a childhood friend and they dated when he was like 7....so with these people, we dont even care and they are more friends than anything else. However, if you dont talk to them often, why upset the soon to be bride on her big day? Is it worth that stress? You love her, you are marrying her....why put her through the stress? Your ex's already know that they messed up by losing you and I am sure you want to rub it in their face, but your wedding day is not the time nor the place. Just enjoy the day with your girl! (Dont invite the ex's...it will make your soon to be wife MUCH happier!)
2007-04-05 02:21:11 · answer #5 · answered by Nicole 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you aren't friends with either of them and it makes your fiance uncomfortable. DO NOT invite these other girls to your wedding. I would be pissed if I was your fiance. I'm pretty sure you already knew that she wasn't going to want either of them there before you asked her. So what if you piss off some exgf's that did you wrong in the past. Its time for a new chapter of your life with your new bride. Don't start out your marriage pissing her off.
I will not be inviting any of my exes to my wedding even though I'm friends with a few of them. It would make my fiance uncomfortable. We are inviting his ex, but her and I have become friends and she's inviting us to her wedding too. Its a completely different situation.
These other girls are just trying to see how much control they still have over parts of your life to show that they still have some kind of hold on you. They are just trying to upset your fiance and that's not cool at all.
2007-04-02 10:04:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me like they are both trying to cause problems. As women they know quite well they wouldnt want their fiance's exs at their wedding!
Even if you have known your first ex for quite some time, she is still your ex. Bottom line. Like you said, you don't even talk. So why even bother asking your fiance in the first place. Tell them flat out no, that it wouldn't be appropriate.
I can promise that in the end, it will be alot better for everyone if they don't attend.
2007-04-02 07:59:36 · answer #7 · answered by lethalseduction85 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO. Its your wedding but it always called the brides day. And it is totally rude to invite your ex girlfriends. You shouldn't be worried about how the ex's feel. just your brides. You don't need to start you new live with her pissed of at you and remember women never forget anything and she'll hang that over your head for the rest of your life. So just say no to the ex's. Good luck
2007-04-02 08:36:14 · answer #8 · answered by dee g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, I really didn't read the whole question. But I did read enough to know that there is WAY too much drama involved with these two ex's for them to be at your wedding. No invites!
2007-04-02 10:16:43 · answer #9 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not even an option; your ex's should not be at your wedding, that is a direct slap in the face of your fiancee. I can see why she is stressed out about this, it should not even be an option on the table.
2007-04-02 08:02:01 · answer #10 · answered by bdough15 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋