met a guy 3 years ago.We gelled & clicked right from the start we were like best friends as well as lovers while seein each other, discovered that he didnt want a serious relationship at that stage. During the space of time of us seeing each other he had messed me about with broken promises due to his inability 2 commit. So I gave him 1 last ultimatum of what he wanted and that I was going to start seeing someone else. He still said that we should be friends for now as it wouldnt be fair to me as he isn't in the frame of mind etc and that I deserve the best. He was still calling me after 2-3 months to keep in contact to see how I was doing, but I just cut off all contact. Fast forward to 3 years & we have got back into contact, he's 32 and I'm 26. I have just brought a new house & am doing well so is he. Now we hav started talking again he really wants something serious and I have said no & he is gutted & has asked again? Do I say no after he messed me about b4 & had his chance then?
2007-04-01 23:55:20 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I mean I can see that he wasn't such a bad guy as he let me go and didn't lead me on then!and let me go to find happiness elsewhere but what if I did and ended up with the love of my life?? he took that risk when he decided to let me go 3 years ago! should I say no?
2007-04-01 23:56:49 · update #1
It sounds more like your holding a grudge because you wanted a commitment and at the time he didn't. It's not like the guy mistreated you so I say you tell him no, because your still bitter over something that happened 3 years ago and it probably won't work out.
2007-04-02 00:15:36 · answer #1 · answered by DialM4Speed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes people are in the wrong place when you first meet them so maybe you could go there but personally I think you are doing thr right thing saying no. yes he may not have been a nasty guy but you deserve someone to love you no matter what from the onset. In general you just deserve better. Not to say that he may be reformed and want commitment but he has hurt you, whether he meant to or not.
You were able to forget him before so forget him now before he gets too involved in your life and is in a position to hurt you again.
2007-04-02 07:06:13 · answer #2 · answered by Tinker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has asked you twice already, he must be serious. I suggest you weigh your feelings for him and decide. After all, it's you who will make the ultimate decision. If you find that you can overlook his lack of commitment earlier, and who knows, he has mellowed over the years, I'd suggest that you give it a shot..don't make any commitment yet just give it a try and see how it works out!
2007-04-02 07:03:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't say no! he's finnaly ready? trust me! you would so regret atleast not trying with him...try it out and see if it works with him! say yes or you will wonder what would have happened...you know you would...just try it..he's finnaly ready for you! SAY YES!
2007-04-02 07:05:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
say no. Move on.
2007-04-02 07:15:24 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋