i've been talking to this girl for a while but i've never really gone out with her, stuff just never goes right. The only thing is that i just came out of a pretty screwed up relationship and from what i hear and see from her and "informers" she isn't that excited to rush into a relationship right now either. Although this may be the fact i still want to persue something more than just a simple friend relationship with her even if that means indulging in something serious. Also she maybe talking to other people, and i wouldn't expect her not to because i am but nothing really worth not pursing more with her. I haven't yet made a definite move to something more with her and i want to know if there's a good way i should go about doing so without scaring her off or waiting to long with run-arounds or games. I am thankful for any help.
2007-04-01 21:41:42 · 5 answers · asked by Black R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think first off, you need to make sure that you are totally over your last relationship (especially if it ended in horror) and she is over her last too.
If you too are truly "friends", forget what others are saying and just put yourself out there. Excuse yourself to her and discuss your feelings.... trust me, you can get a faster, easier response by letting it all out than beating around the bush cause at the end of the day, life is too short to hesitate and "wait". And don't be afraid of scaring her off, remember, fear is False Evidence Appearing Real!!!
Have you tried a one on one date to kind of see if she is digging you?
2007-04-01 21:50:15 · answer #1 · answered by natenyce 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say since you guys are friends you have already made the first move. Having a friendship first usually builds solid relationships. If you want a more intimate interaction and I am not speaking of sex maybe you should try asking her out on a date....something that you and her can do just the two of you alone...feel out the waters...see what type of vibe she is giving you....that's just my stab at it...good luck
2007-04-02 04:56:35 · answer #2 · answered by Blissfulness.... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her that you realize that she may be hesitant to begin a new relationship right now, but when she feels that the time is right , you would like to discuss it with her. If she is still hurting from her last relationship, it is best not to rush her, or you will just be a rebound relationship. Rebound relationships never last!!
2007-04-02 05:05:20 · answer #3 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
taking it to the next level would mean asking her out on a date i suppose. Just ask if she wants to join you shopping or hang out at the beach or smthing. take it slow man.. dont rush into anything.. the fact that you just came out of a relationship could mean that you are on the rebound. it wouldnt be fair to her right?
so take it slow, keep the friendship and keep in contact with her. all the best dude!
2007-04-02 04:50:51 · answer #4 · answered by limd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u question is kind of confusing make a definte move first to tell her something then come back here if u have another problem
2007-04-02 04:49:21 · answer #5 · answered by combs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋