I love him so much but he is married. I ruined my marriage because of our relationship. Eveytime I try to walk away he is always there pulling me back in. He has absolutely drained every bit of energy that I have in me. But yet he is all I have. He tells me how he is going to leave but I am not going to be the other woman. I am not here to be judged so if you are planning on leave a nasty answer then don't bother. Not trying to be rude but I have made choice that I am going to have to live with forever. This relationship has been going on for 3 yrs and I am just really tired.
2007-04-01 17:31:49 · 13 answers · asked by Biatch 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your doing the right thing...now just do it.
2007-04-01 17:38:31 · answer #1 · answered by gorsi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i'm not here to judge anyone, but honestly 3 years is way too long. If he didn't leave her before, he's not going to leave her. You have yourself and that's all you need, I know is hard and that you might feel like you're going to die without him, but at the end you will feel so much better. I would just walk away and find my own path, it seems like you are living your life through him and is not fair to you. He is being so selfish, and is not fair to you. Just review the events that are sorrounding you at this moment and make the best decision you can. *take care*
2007-04-01 17:52:15 · answer #2 · answered by Angelys 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must run like hell. Do you have some family you can go visit for a while? Try this www.slaafws.org, preferably a woman's only group to begin with. These women will totally be able to relate to what you are going through and will provide you with invaluable support. You are not alone. I am sorry you are going through this.
If you keep doing the same things you will keep getting the same results.
You may have to be mean to him and tell him to #*^! off because unless you get aggressive he'll keep calling you and pursuing you, sucking you right back to hell over and over again.
2007-04-01 17:42:41 · answer #3 · answered by S. Schaefer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I won't be nasty but the truth hurts!
You ruined your marriage and hurt your ex husband by cheating. Your also helping to destroy this guys marriage, think about what his wife would feel if she found out. That's something you'll have to live with.
When you try to stop seeing this guy he pulls you back in. Hey your nothing but a meaningless piece of AS$ to him. That's something you'll have to live with.
He tells you that when he cuts out on his wife (if he ever does) you won't even be considered to replace her but I'm sure he will still call you when he wants to get off! That's something you'll have to live with.
I'm not judging you but you don't know what to do after reading this.... well nobody can help you.
2007-04-01 17:52:23 · answer #4 · answered by DialM4Speed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give me a break! You dishonored someone you "LOVED"?! He is doing the same thing! Maybe the two of you deserve each other. Think about what you've done to at LEAST two people! Honey, you don't have a relationship- you're his toy and your stupid for putting up with it! He drags you back in??!!- as if you have no mind, no respect for yourself, no composure...maybe you don't want to leave..if you did-you'd already be gone! Get a backbone or deal with someone who will do this to you for 3 yrs. THINK ABOUT IT!
2007-04-01 17:52:37 · answer #5 · answered by Rebecca A 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My wife dated a married man for 8 years before we met. I loved my wife but she ruined my life for several years until she divorced me. You'll do the same because your selfish. No judgement just the truth. find counselling and get your act together. Stop screwing up someone elses life (The Wife).
Of course the guys a jerk too and i the end he'll leave you.
2007-04-01 17:54:23 · answer #6 · answered by Village Player 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its sad isn't it. To be in a relationship that is not really a relationship. I have been "seeing" a guy who was my friend for 4yrs. He would never commit to me. He found himself a girlfriend but didn't want to let me go as his friend. Everytime they broke up he would pull me back in. Every time he thought he was going to lose me he would pull me back in. But he kept choosing her. I love him very much but its unfair. Everyone deserves someone who will give them respect, love, and attention completely. You love him. But does he love you? You definitely don't want to be the other woman, You want to be THE woman. Decide for yourself. You know him better anyone else here. But remember that you deserve the best whoever you are.
2007-04-01 17:43:24 · answer #7 · answered by Sophia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did what you did and I regret it to this day. Adultury is just wrong in the eyes of God and man. You must walk away and never look back. It's only going to cause pain, degradation and humiliation. That is your reward. Try to be strong. You can do it you know. Just decide you will.
2007-04-01 17:38:56 · answer #8 · answered by All That Glitters isn't Gold 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love eachother; you'd respect eachother's choices. He's still married. You need to respect that and move on. There has got to be at least one other person in the world, that is single, that you could love and love you in return.
2007-04-01 17:54:21 · answer #9 · answered by AnswerGuy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
awww i feel sorry for ya, i know its not easy, but you have to look out for whats best for you first not him.. if its been 3 years and he hasnt made the move to be with you and you only he's never going to, u should just start dating other men and do whatever u can to take your mind off him, change your number, email, anything u can.. im no dr.phil but thats what i think u should do
2007-04-01 17:44:34 · answer #10 · answered by ctdude24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand how you feel. I just wrote a question on yahoo saying that my bf broke up with me 3x but always came back, and it was not because of me. You can't stop love and you can't stop hoping and wishing. I wish you a miracle
2007-04-01 17:38:24 · answer #11 · answered by anny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋