If two people have been living together for months but decide to move to different areas apart one of them says the relationship does not have to be over and done with unless that is what you want and then turn around and say a long distance relationship can not work? What do you think?
2007-04-01 17:28:32 · 10 answers · asked by susie 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is NEVER an easy situation to be in - the best thing i could recommend is this:
Figure out what you really want, take into consideration what he/she has conveyed to you as to what they want, and try to see where they are coming from as well. This will help you see both sides of the situation.
Then confront your partner and tell them what you want
If they do not feel the same then they should at least give you and explination to help you understand why and ultimately you will get some type of closure
I recommened to think it out first so your emotions do not get the best of you during your conversation, the last thing you want it to push them further away, try to be respectful and let them get out there feelings so it doens't turn to an arguement - if the answer given doesn't really make sense or add up to you then there is most likely another reason
You need to look on the brighter side, despite how difficult and painful the truth might be, but after being with someone for a lenght of time and moving in with eachother, there should be honesty with eachother - if you can't get that maybe the split is for the better. But plenty of couples move in to soon and relaize a lot about themselfs and and there partners of things they don't like - having the conversation you might learn some things you can work on - and who knows maybe it won't be so bad -
Good Luck
2007-04-01 17:45:20 · answer #1 · answered by Dianna R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that person is giving you two different messages:
(1) it doesn't have to be over unless that is what you want
and
(2) a long distance relationship cannot work
I think this person wants you to end it. I think this person would enter a long distance relationship with you and sabotage it.
Have a talk with them and say - hey you're saying two different things here (1) and (2). I think you're just trying to get me to dump you. What do you reckon?
You may well end up with a mutual separation and stay friends.
2007-04-01 17:32:08 · answer #2 · answered by Orinoco 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think hes telling u that he doesnt want to break up with u but he knows that if you decide to move that a long distance realtionship is just something that hes not willing to commit to. Follow ur heart and do what u think is best
2007-04-01 17:55:28 · answer #3 · answered by msX 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's torn between having a relationship with you and not having a relationship at all. However, the sudden change leads me to believe that he might be interested in someone closer to home to him. You really need to talk to him before you make a decision.
2007-04-01 17:33:56 · answer #4 · answered by love 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you willing to move, because long distance relationships fizzle out? Is this the person you love and want to stay with or can you live without them? This is your call, stay or go. Go with if you truly love them and if they want you to go.
2007-04-01 17:34:46 · answer #5 · answered by Shanna h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I think you need to accept the reality of the situation. Get out and meet new people and let the other move on with their life. Good luck
2007-04-01 17:34:01 · answer #6 · answered by daffodil 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to move on.
Take the good memories with you.
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2007-04-01 17:34:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree w/ rich you know what it means your just confused b/c you dont want to accept it.
2007-04-01 17:33:11 · answer #8 · answered by mel_sophia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think somebody may be seeing some one els!
2007-04-01 17:33:02 · answer #9 · answered by Boo! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your being dumped...move on
2007-04-01 17:32:00 · answer #10 · answered by Richie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋