i cheated for revenge?

Question

I cheated on my boyfriend for revenge. I recently got pregnant and my boyfriend was not at ALL supportive in me terminating the pregnancy, even though he didnt want me to have the baby either. I couldnt beleive how he was treating me and with such disrespect i was very hurt. I confront5ed him about it telling him how i felt and he didnt change his attitude. I went out the night after to the club and for the first time had sexual relations with another girl. now i feel terrible. I cheated on my boyffriend for revenge but it only ended up hurting me. he still doesnt know and i am scared of how he will react. he has since then apologised for the way he treated me and made up for it but i cant bring myself to tell him what i did. i feel absolutely horrible i know i will never do it again i dont want to hurt him. what should i do?

He wanted me to have an abortion as well, but he was not supportive in the fact that i would be very emotional about it. It was his decision too. he did things like yell at me for walking so slowliy calling me names and swearing at me 15 minutes after i had gotten out of the operation

Answer 1

If your BF made you so mad and upset that you had to cheat, maybe this isn't the best relationship. And, if you cheated with a girl, there is a bigger issue. Sounds like you need to come clean on a lot of things....It may end the relationship, but being honest is the best way to live your life.

Answer 2

The number one thing to do is to learn from your experience. It is never good to act on impulses. I really do mean NEVER!!. a lot of people say oh! live for the moment. Rarely is this true. Yes, there are opportunities that must be taken on the spot but this only count for jobs (work), nothing else.

One thing is to know that I'm not pointing fingers here. I don't know your cituation and cannot put blame on anybody. However, you must really need to learn to control your actions. This time I hope you got out of this little adventure unharmed. It could had turned out different however. What if the person had aids or other disease. You don't know that and believe me they ain't going to tell you. What if the person was a psycopath? I know a bit far fetch but you really have to think about these things.

There is asaying in spanish that says, "ojos que no ven, corazon que no siente" which roughtly translated means, that eyes that don't see, heart that doesn't feel. I would tread carefully. Giving him the news so soon is definitely cause trouble. Even though seen two girls in "action" seems to be on most man top 25 list of sex acts (thats right top 25. Why settle with a mear 10 right?) most guys get easily hurt if their partner sleeps with another person wether male or female.

In the end is really up to you but again, he will not take it lightly.

Answer 3

u need to sit him down and tell him what u did if u dont then its just going to keep bothering u so its best if u just get it off your mind. if he ends up leaveing u, u have to understand y he is doing it, but he also needs to realize that he hurt u to. he hurt u to the point that u wanted revenge, but its not really revenge yet because he doesnt know any thing about it. humans make mistakes and u have to learn from them. when u feel that u have done something wrong to the person that u love the best thing is to tell the whats going, and im pretty sure things might be a little shaky at first but it will get better cuz u let out whats on your mind

Answer 4

well don't say anything or you might feel worse when he dumps you or even worse says that he's been cheating to....as far as terminating pregnancies guys have mixed emotions not that mixed though he didn't throw you off the table to take the procedure.

Don't say a word its a girl not a guy....i mean i believe in honesty and all but hey ...its a touchy situation dont say anything if you do say it was a kiss or something

Answer 5

You need to tell him. Obviously you have a consicience and its eating you alive. If you don't tell him then you will continue to feel horrible. Listen, you shouldn't be upset its a good thing that you feel bad, it means your an honest person. As for him being there for you,i'm sorry, but in all ways abortion is not a good option.

Answer 6

tell him now if you care about him, don't and it will come to bite you on the **** later and make it so much worse. Serously come clean now and spend the time mending your relationship and not spending time feeling guilty and living a lie. Trust me best way to be you will sleep better at night and not have to think about everything you say to not say the wrong thing

Answer 7

Never overcome evil with evil, but overcome evil with good. Just remember that in life people will hurt you. It never pays to hurt them back to get revenge, treat others how you want to be treated regardless and you will be the better person. Forgive yourself and move on.

Answer 8

he didn't want the kid but he don't want you to terminate it ether.tell him to grow the **** up. making dissections is what life is about.as for you cheating it was with another women to me that isn't cheating .you had to make you self feel better because he was a dick.don't tell him a thing it is something that you will have to look back to if he becomes a dick again..

Answer 9

Why should he have supported you murdering his unborn child?Then you have a perverted sexual encounter with a stranger?He needs to dump you yesterday and keep his pants zipped until he marries.You need help, get some counseling.

Answer 10

I think you should tell your boyfriend what you did. He has the right to know. You might of felt bad when you did cheated but if you really love him than you should tell him. You shouldn't keep anything from him if you really love him.