If I go out to dinner w/ a guy at an expensive restaurant..and he pays..does that mean i owe him anything?

Question

if so..what?

Answer 1

Um, no. You are not in his debt. However, if you are on a romantic date, then, *ahem* you might want to.....you know..

Answer 2

Now this is just me, but if a guy takes you out to dinner, whether its Burger King or Che Luis, and the bill was not discussed, then you owe nothing. I am an old fashioned kind of guy and believe that the guy should pay, but some men are not. So if you did not discuss the financial aspect of the date then you don't owe him a thing.

Answer 3

Conduct yourself as a woman of respect.
The trap of feeling guilty or indebted to someone who has shown us a good time is part of the programming us women receive and is not healthy. A way to be very clear about the expectations with your date is to be very candid and clearly say "I want to express to you my gratitude for taking me out. I want to make sure that you understand that I am not the least bit interested in moving too fast with you. I would like to spend some time getting to know you."
You must know that you are worth (physically and mentally) more than simply dinner at a nice restaurant. I recommend that you don't drink on this first date and that you pay close attention to:
1. What he says about himself?
2. How does he treat the waitress or waiter?
3. How do you feel around him?
4. Does he ask you questions about yourself?
The reason for not drinking on the first date is that you want to have all of your wits about you. A date is simply a "get-to-know," like a job interview and nothing more than that.

Answer 4

Actually, it doesnt really mean that you owe him anything at all. It depends on the situation. For example, if you offered to pay for the meal and he insisted on paying for it himself, then you dont owe him because he wanted to. Trust me, its a guy thing. They always pay. I dont know why, but 99% of the time, they will pay for you, even if it is an expensive dinner.


Hope this helped you some!
-Cat
PS. Best of luck with this lucky guy =D

Answer 5

No you don't owe him anything. A nice kiss before leaving would be nice. Or a simple thank you for a good time is nice. Acknowledging that he went to great expense to try and show you a good time wouldn't hurt. Does that mean you're obligated to sleep with him? No,but maybe on the next date you could treat him to a good night out.

Answer 6

enzo32ferrari's dating tips...for girls:

Topic: He got it, but do I owe you?

No. Usually and always, the guy is supposed to pay for the bill when you are out on a date. It is out of respect to you, the lady. It shows that he is a gentleman and is willing to take the fall in paying for you because he cares about you. Married couples understand that both of them should take turns; The wife should pay or the husband should pay.

Answer 7

No, never feel as though you owe a man anything in return for a dinner date. All you need to do is enjoy yourself and respect him while on the date. He should pay anyway!

Answer 8

most women would say nothing would be owed (in my opinion) but would it hold true if a woman treated a man at an expensive restaurant and expect a man to do something for her... and if you believe in equality, then you would pay half regardless of the circumstance... yeah, right.

Answer 9

You owe him the courtesy to be kind to him, thank him, and call him the next day to either ask him for another date, or thank him but you didn't feel a spark.

Unless, of course, he is a jerk and acts like you owe him something, then you need to tell him to hire himself an escort.

Answer 10

You tell him what a great dinner you had, and how interesting and fun he is to be with. Then, you thank him and tell him that maybe "we can do this again soon." That's about all you owe him. If he is looking for a sexual payoff, forget him and move on.

Answer 11

No it does not mean you owe him anything other than your time together for dinner. You are not signing a contract or a business agreement, just a date together.