marijuana is screwing up my bro?

Question

my brother is smokeing to much pot we had to send him out of town to new yorkcity to live with our aunt, and now she calls me and saying he smokes to much pot and he is picking things from the garbage because he lost his job he is 22 now how do i tell him to smarten up we made him leave town to do beter for himself but its not turning out that way

what should i say to him to tell him to stop smokeing pot and come live with me

Answer 1

The point it this ... it is called INTERVENTION .. where the FAMILY finally says "ENOUGH is ENOUGH" and he HAS to either get treatment or be on his own with NO person there to bail him out or enable him to continue to be irresponsible (through not working or doing drugs).

Answer 2

I'm so sorry and I can honestly say I know how you feel.I am not going to tell you my story but I know someone who has the same problem-or close to it anyway.No words will change your brother's mind.It was his foolish decision and although you might think it's to late,it is not.Your brother might be smoking pit to get away from his troubles or to fit in with a certain group.You need to convince him that what he is doing may seem great now,but in the long run-he is hurting himself and the people who love him.Mirijuana messes with your brain and your whole body.You need to,I spesify NEED TO-get him help.Put him in rehab-anything to stop him from doing what he is doing.Today he is smoking pot-tommorrow he is selling it-next week he could be dead from overdose.Think about it....if you really care about your brother then no matter what HE SAYS-you need to get him to stop.Do not trust him when he says "oh,I can stop any time I want" or "this is my last time I swear" because if he does it once he is bound to do it again and again and again until he goes over the edge and something rly bad happens.Sending him to live with ur aunt won't solve the problem.Find out why he is doing it in the first place.It is very important to know.Anywho....I wish you luck.You and your borther are going to need it.Keep a close eye on your brother....


PS.
Something else that you might want to try doing-is to pray.Ask god for help.He will hear you,I swear it.Pray for your brother's safety and ask god to help him stop-help him over this tough time.

Answer 3

This is a hard question, and there is no one answer to this problem. My best wishes are with you and your brother. The only way for him to come out of his addiction is for him to do it willingly. First he has to admit to the fact that it is a problem. Help him realize that this is not the kind of life he wants to live. Help hims see the possibility/opportunity of a better life. Maybe he feels he is hopeless and that's why he doesn't see quitting as something important to do. Also, of course it will be hard simply because it is an addiction, and it affects physically, mentally, and emotionally. It doesn't stop with him, because it affects his family life, social life, etc. Really, the only thing that could change him is for him to be inspired to quit himself, no body can do it for him. Just make sure to let him know that you will always support him. The fact that he makes wrong decisions does not nullify his family's love for him. Let him really know this. He should feel that he can always count on his family, no matter what. Don't call him names, don't talk down to him, but do encourage him. Remember, he is absolutely not hopeless. No matter what he says, whether he says he doesn't need your help, doesn't want it, etc, you need to be there for him. If he displays apathy towards your attempts to help, or even hostility, never give up!
May your brother find a way out, and may you and your family be well.
Kind Regards,
Loup

Answer 4

Do you honestly think you can get anyone to do something they don't want to do? Do you think your brother could convince you to start smoking pot? Sending him away only changes his geographical location, not his state of mind. He's 22 years old and needs to take responsibility for himself. If his pot smoking irritates others then they should make him unwelcome in their homes. He will eventually see that he needs to change his attitude if he wants to sponge off his family. If he doesn't change his attitude, he'll be homeless.
Too bad, so sad. Time to grow up and be responsible like the rest of the civilized world.
Tough love is best for those who have no concern for others.

Answer 5

I agree there is more going on here than just pot smoking, unless he is smoking the laced crap, but one way or another there is going to have to be some type of intervention oh and New York City was definitely the wrong city to send someone to that needs to be rehab-ed.

Answer 6

Your brother doesn't need to live with you. He needs treatment for his drug problem. Marijuana is a drug and its addiction requires treatment beyond what you can give him. He lost his job because he smokes too much. I'll bet he didn't start out thinking his goal for the future was to be a pot head.

Answer 7

he'd have to smoke a whoooooooooooooole lot to get to the point of digging in garbage cans. If he's losing money on drugs, he's doing something else. That's like telling a cigarette smoker, or someone that drinks, to stop it and go live with you.

Answer 8

First you must accept your brother where he is before you can reach him, he will all ways have his defenses up if you are telling him to stop. Try loving him without telling him to stop and pray for him to want to stop on his own. Then after you have his trust that you are not going to tell him to stop in order for him to be around then try to engage him in some type of activity. This will take some commitment on your part and lots of time and prayer and patients. You can show someone with them by your side that they don't need pot in their life, they need you; but you have to get them by your side first!

Answer 9

There is nothing you can say to him that will change his behavior. If he's 22 he can find another job. He's an adult and if he wants to live by eating out of garbage cans, thats his choice. I'm guessing he'll soon get tired of it and straighten himself out.

Answer 10

there is alot more going on here than someone sitting around smoking pot.
There is a bigger problem here. maybe lake of self confidence-esteem and ambituion. Try taking with him to clarify whats -up. you also need to realizethat "babying him" by letting him come live with you is taking over his own responsiblities in life and im sure you have plenty of your own. help him from afar , but let him make his own life choices! good luck!!!