We have been basically going out for a little over a month, I haven't kissed her yet (I can't seem to find the right time). But these past few weeks she's seems kind of bored with me, like every couple of day's she just gets really quiet around me, and doesn't talk to me much, but then the next day or so she's talkative again. Our phone and Aim conversations don't last nearly as long. Perhaps is she frustrated with me ( i tend to be shy about physical things) , or just bored?
2007-04-01 14:51:21 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I cuddle with her, and hold her hand, and put my arm around her at school, but I can never get enough time alone with her to kiss her, we're always in public or around friends
2007-04-01 15:03:41 · update #1
Yeah, she called me only likes me as a friend, girls suck
2007-04-03 09:00:29 · update #2
I agree with previous posters. You must ask her in order to truly know. We may be able to speculate whats going on in your girlfriends mind, but only she know if she's bored or not. If you've been dating for a month and never kissed, she may wonder if you're interested in her. You guys need to have a conversation. Communication is definitely the MOST important part of a relationship. I hope everything works out.
2007-04-01 15:03:56 · answer #1 · answered by Giving/Seeking Advice 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd guess she's frustrated that the rlationship doesn't seem to be going anywhere. It's more of a friendship than a boyfriend-girlfriend thing. It's a basic, elemental rule that girls want some romance and to know that their boyfriend thinks they're attractive. If you haven't found the right time to kiss her in a month, I'd guess it's not going to happen now.
2007-04-01 22:00:34 · answer #2 · answered by Neonzeus 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can feel her frustration. You need to show her some physical affection. Really, sexual intimacy can determine the longiness of a relationship. You may think that it doesn't matter as long as you both can talk all day. But she'll be sexually frustrated, and when someone else walks into her life who knows how to give what she wants, she'll just go for that guy, wouldn't she? You're shy, yes. But until how long do you want to be shy? =) She's your girlfriend, and she deserves your kiss every now and then! Smother her, darling!
Cheers.
2007-04-01 21:58:47 · answer #3 · answered by IamherewhenIhavenothingtodo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first off how old are you? After a month of dating if you haven't shown her any real physical attention then she isn't really your g/f... she is probably afraid that you just see her as a friend, or maybe she is starting to see you as just a friend since really you haven't taken the relationship to the next level. My suggestion is to kiss her and get it over with. The next time you see her just plant one right on her. She'll be totally blown away by it and its very romantic to be spontaneous. :) Good luck!!
2007-04-01 21:56:05 · answer #4 · answered by Turelie02 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was going out with a guy just like you, and I must admit he was boring me out so much, I got sick of waiting for him to show some kind of instrest, like we never kissed until 3 months later and by then I was sooooooooo over it. So my advice to you get a move on now or she may loose interest, do something fun make her laugh, or suprise her with something like say to her I'll pick you up at eg. 1pm in the afternoon be ready I want to take you somewhere, and maybe suprise her with a picnic by the lake or something along that line. good luck and make that move quick smart.
2007-04-01 23:21:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may be. The only way you are going to find out (besides waiting for her to dump you) is by asking her. Be very straight forward. Explain that you realize you are shy when it comes to physical things and ask her if she is uncomfortable with that. Be very open, honest, and understanding (don't raise your voice) and she'll probably tell you exactly what's been on her mind. Who knows, there could be something else going on in her life that has nothing to do with you; maybe she just doesn't feel comfortable enough to discuss it with you. Ask her how she's doing.
2007-04-01 21:55:24 · answer #6 · answered by Delvala 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When is the "right time"??? If you're waiting for fireworks or doves flying behind you...it's not going to happen! It's only a kiss!! it's not like you're asking to marry her straight after the kiss...
Next time you're with her staring into each others eyes, just lean in and plant one on her! There isnt a "right time"...
2007-04-01 21:58:16 · answer #7 · answered by d_khar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do Paul is to ask her. We don't' know her so it is hard to say. I have to confess I sort of do the same thing. I get quiet; if I don't have anything nice to say....that sort of thing. It has nothing to do with my man...it has to do with the frustrations of work and kids. I can't always talk about what is bothering me so I get quiet. Quiet is good sometimes. Hard on you though, not being a mind reader. She is the only one who can give you the answers you need. Good luck, dear. Nana
2007-04-01 21:57:27 · answer #8 · answered by nanawnuts 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hmmmmm how about u tell her how u feel, tell her u r really shy, and u would like to know how she feels about u, if she s grown bored of u, if she expects more from u??? and she's ur girlfriend, i think any second is the right moment to kiss her. just go with the flow, enjoy the moment... she might need more physical contact from u.. cuddle her, hug her, kiss her.... make her feel safe and loved when u r with her.
2007-04-01 21:57:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are like you right then she's probably bored to tears. Try putting some life into your relationship taking her to a few new places and doing different things. Good luck.
2007-04-01 21:59:00 · answer #10 · answered by Jose F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋