me and my boyfriend have been together almost 6 months. Hes a great guy and all but he has trouble being romantic, and sweet. Like he rarely calls me baby, or sweetie, ect. I asked him about it and he says hes trying, but its uncomforable for him. Hes real into the army so always is mature, and tough. Hes a real cuddler, and does nice things, but.. I don't hear it in words. Its like very important to me for some reason I hear these things in a relationship also. Should I just hang on and see what happens, or talk to him again, or try to accept it. He does love me, he does say that.
2007-04-01 14:49:11 · 11 answers · asked by princess 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's in the army, than it makes things harder. Soldiers are taught to keep their feelings apart from what they do on a regular basis, and definetly not to voice them. That and the fact that guys are not really supposed to be emotional as that has been ingrained into us sense day one of our lives, makes it difficult.
If you love him, stick it out. Keep talking to him, ask him how he feels and make him answer. He'll come around eventually...especially if he is already showing you through action (another thing that soldiers are supposed to do) that he loves you to.
2007-04-01 14:55:17 · answer #1 · answered by hopelessly romantic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say if he's fulfilling you in everyway except being verbally romantic then you're doing great. There are plenty of relationships lacking a lot more. I know that probably doesn't help much, but with time he'll probably get more comfortable. You've been with him 6 months so you guys are still finding yourselves within the relationship. Sounds like you're on the right path though.
2007-04-01 22:35:27 · answer #2 · answered by Giving/Seeking Advice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It has only been six months, so give this relationship some time. Most guys are not the romantic, mushy guys that us women wish for them to be. So I think that you just need to accept that fact that your guy isn't Mr.Romantic. As long as he at least lets you know in one way or another that he really cares about you, that is all that matters. It sounds like you got yourself a great boyfriend, so hold on to him. He may change over time. You never know. Good luck.
2007-04-01 21:59:16 · answer #3 · answered by cmg1977 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's meeting all your needs except for the verbal, I'd give him a little more time to come around. He may need to learn to be verbally expressive. Gently remind him now and then you need to hear sweet endearments. If he cares, he'll hear you and try. If 6 more months go by and you're still feeling this way, it may be that he is not the one for you. But I'd give him some time. Keep in mind he is not a mind reader. He won't know what you need if you don't tell him. And give him time to learn. Good luck...
2007-04-01 21:55:34 · answer #4 · answered by Kim 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men just do not say how they feel or show it very often. My father was that way but I always knew he loved me because my mother assured me he did in subtle ways....working for his family, keeping us safe, being there at night, praising us on school, helping us when we needed it...my sister and I. I would not worry about how he does show his love but look for how he does....he has his ways and you just have to find it. He may not tell you....in a way it sounds like he does try and succeeds with the cuddling and doing the nice things. I would not worry too much.
2007-04-01 21:55:59 · answer #5 · answered by taljalea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in long distance relationships verbal re-assurance is very important. you are lucky that you have someones who's actions speak louder than his words. that speaks volumes because a lot of times guys just tell us what we want to hear without meaning it. in a not so direct way, he is telling you exactly how he feels by showing you how much he loves you. try to meet him half way, respect that he is trying to be more vocal and give him some time. there's a book called the 5 love languages. it's an easy read and i think it will help you because it talks about they different ways that people express their love to their loved ones. maybe it will help you two understand that way you like to express your love and why.
2007-04-01 22:04:54 · answer #6 · answered by Perlesta M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe i have a similar problem to your boyfriend and it could simply be that he has trouble expressing things like that, being in the army like he has may have caused it or if he didnt talk about how he felt with his parents growing up, however i dont know your boyfriend so i cant be sure, talk to him about it and you should be able to sort it out quite quickly.
Hope i helped.
2007-04-01 22:00:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find some way to reward him when he remembers to use pet names.
He seems like a pretty decent guy otherwise, just give it time and try to accept it for now.
2007-04-01 21:55:28 · answer #8 · answered by Vegan 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont ruin your relationship over this one little thing obviously he loves ya so does saying all of that really make a difference of breaking up with him
2007-04-01 21:53:54 · answer #9 · answered by Sharel J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you know how they say actions speak louder than words.
If it is really bothering you, try talking to him about it.
2007-04-01 21:53:39 · answer #10 · answered by ☭ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋