Who is still in that whole "old fashioned" thing?

Question

Who still thinks that u should be a virgin till marriage? Or guy provides for the woman?..Stuff like that... I know I'm "old-fashioned" :)

Answer 1

i believe you should be virgin till marriage,

man provides for woman, is still OK but it's better to have your own job.

Answer 2

I personally don't think one must be a virgin until marriage, but if it seems right to someone, then it's fine. But there should be no double standard - e.g. the guy is way out of line if he thinks he doesn't have to be a virgin but his wife better be!

As for the guy providing for the woman - no, absolutely not. I don't see the point of it. It worked in past centuries when there was high infant mortality and the woman had to keep having babies just to make sure a few survived. That was her work, reproducing. And of course housework itself took up every spare minute she had outside of childcare.

Today is a much different situation and most women I know would be embarrassed to not contribute monetarily to the marriage.

Also, consider the case of the woman who's been supported by her husband all her life if he should suddenly lose his job or become disabled; or if she should find herself divorced or widowed.

No, I am most certainly not into that whole "old-fashioned" thing!

Answer 3

No, I refuse to get married until homosexuals are allowed to do so. My religion has no problem with that. I'm not going to abstain from sex just because the government chooses to discriminate.

As for a guy providing for the woman (or multiple women for the truly old fashioned =) ) I believe we should each contribute equally, or the female should contribute more. If I were to ever have kids, I would want to be the one to stay at home.

Answer 4

I admire you for that! And believe it or not, there are still people out there with the same virtues. I screwed up and got pregnant at 16. I was raised to know better BUT love got the best of me. I totally agree that that's the way to go. I love the idea of the "man" being hardworking and providing for the family and the woman having supper ready when he gets home! I was raised in the south. I'm not sure if that has anything to do with it or not. I may have screwed up with having kids before marriage but I love the traditional family setting.

Answer 5

i'm old fashioned in that sense. the whole thing about women is just the emergence of birth control and jobs that women take up in the community that started the whole thing, which has benefits because women can take care of themselves. but I totally like the virgin thing and a guy should provide for a woman. that's a true man. I'm old fashioned and when I see a conservative guy and if he's funny and cute, my heart melts.

Answer 6

I'm not into totally old fashioned thing. I just adopt a few that I think would be best for me (e.g. be a virgin till you're married, might get HIV for fooling around; women should not be allowed to stay out late at night) and disregard the others that would make me most uncomfortable (e.g. Men are the more dominant sex and they should provide for the women, I totally disagree because women can be better at that, especially if the men are lazy bums, you'd have to provide for yourself and be independent.)

Answer 7

I think its great in theory, but unfortunately not the norm. I know plenty of "born again" virgins, but very few virgins my age. I'm 22 BTW.

As far as the man providing for the woman. I would love to have a man who could provide for me, while I stay home and have his kids and have nice hot cooked meals for him. Unfortunately, this is the 21st century and divorce is as high as its ever been, and I would hate to be in a bad situation if my relationship were to succumb to divorce. For that reason I plan to always be financially independent. I think its just wise, although I wish it weren't necessary.

Basically I like old-fashioned ideas, but don't practice them for the reasons listed above.

Answer 8

I do. And some people might think that it's some women's right stuff, but it's not. It the natural role of a man to take care of his wife. Also, waiting until marriage to have sex is healthier, gives you better chances of having a succesful marriage, and can also keep you from heartache.
I'm "Old Fashioned" and proud of it!!!
:0)

Answer 9

I definately do believe in it, for religious reasons, but also because it's a very special moment to have waited and suffered together and then to let it all out and into each other's arms on your wedding night.

But I do not believe in the guy providing for the girl. That was necessary in a society where women could not get work or were grossly underpaid. It's not like that anymore, so a women could show generosity equaliy with a man.

Answer 10

I believe that a man shld be a provider for his family, but also that a woman shld be strong enough to stand alone on her two feet. Dont stll believe in the virgin till marriage, though.

Answer 11

i believe that ideally that stuff is all preferable, but i am not going to down someone who doesn't feel that way nor, am i going to be too hard on myself or, my partner, if i/he falter(s).

love doesn't always permit for so many prerequisites and rigidity and blame can scar a relationship forever.

the success of a relationship is dependent upon so much more than meeting a pre-set standard. i have gone that route, latched onto the wrong guy because he was exactly my 'idea' of ideal, only to realize later that i was with a total jerk!

now, i look deeper to see whether or not what i REALLY NEED in a partner is being offered and forget about their having to meet some type of preconceived notion.

it's simply more important to me to find a person who is healthy and provides for a healthy environment than it is to be taken care of, have the trash taken out or, insist my partner has made no mistakes in their life.