I just finished a custody battle. My son got a new toy, and it came with a pack of tattoos. I have never liked them only b/c they are so hard to get off. My daughter decided to put them all over my son. Well, my son went to his dads last weekend. I got the nastiest email saying that he took pictures and the judge would not approve. He says that I am not teaching my son to be a successful and professional young adult by allowing these tattoos.
I feel like just never allowing my kids to have them, just to avoid the disagreement with their dad. But at the same time they are only kids once, and other than the chore it is to remove them, they really are harmless. Right?? ...idk
2007-04-01 14:25:35 · 36 answers · asked by irish 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
maria g...not a real one!!! I dont even have a tattoo...nor would I ever approve(or disapprove) of one.
2007-04-01 14:36:11 · update #1
Sounds like your ex is a major control freak. You are not harming your child by putting on a tattoo. He is being steriotypical in saying people with tattoos are unsuccessful and unprofessional. Honestly, many executives have tattoos in "hidden" spots. He sounds like he needs to get a grip. Tell him to show the judge the pictures. They are harmless fun, which almost every kid has had a fake tattoo on them. By the way, if you want to get them off quicker, use rubbing alcohol-it will take it right off. (I have two girls who love fake tattoos)
2007-04-01 16:17:50 · answer #1 · answered by Melissa R 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would say that your husband needs his head checked out. How are you suppose to teach a 3 year old to be a successful and professional adult when he's 3. I personally don't think that the judge will do anything about it. Your kid is 3 and it's not hurting him. It may make him look a bit silly. But at the age of 3 we were all silly. I don't think that you have anything to worry about. But if you are worried write the judge a letter and explain what happend. Tell him or her that you believe that your husband is going to use this against you. It's not like you are letting him drink or use drugs. Its temp tattoos that for gosh sakes come off with a bit of effort. If your husband is keeping a log of what you do start keeping a log of what he does. Ie if he drops the kids off late, doesn't feed them or give them a bath ect..... That way you have the same thing that he has. Also keep all e mails print them out. Also take pictures. Any scratches bruises etc log it take pictures and just keep it for the judge. Don't send nasty e mails back to him because he can use that against you. Don't play his little mind game play your own. A little soap and water and a face cloth takes them right off. Also nail polish remover may work. Keep up the good work. Let your kids be kids. Also if in the e mail it said " He says that I am not teaching my son to be a successful and professional young adult by allowing these tattoos." Make sure you highlight that part. How can he ever thing a 3 year old can do that is beyond me. At 3 I didn't even understand how to be professional and act like an adult and that was 26 years ago.
2007-04-01 14:38:33 · answer #2 · answered by Ang 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He's 3 for Pete's sake! I can remember my son getting ahold of his batman tattoos that we had for him and they were head to toe! No judge in his right mind would take custody away from your or any parent for allowing your child to have fun with sticky tattoos. I hate cleaning them up too but what is he gonna do when the kids gets fingerpaints? Makes his first real mud pie? What he is threatening is unrealistic and he is probably just trying to maintain parental control over them and some form of control over you as well.
By the way, I have 2 tattoos (plan on getting more) and hubby as 4. I am a very christian SAHM and my husband is a very successful machinist who makes more than enough money to support us all. Tattoos have nothing to do with one's ability to be professional, especially at 3 years old.
2007-04-01 16:39:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Temps are harmless, until someone uses them as a way to judge/psychologically abuse... I, very rarely, wore them as a child, but, happily knew they were temps and would come off in a week.
Some will tell you you're overreacting; he's 3. In one way, he'll not remember this when he's older and it wouldn't put a dent in his conscience. Yet, a few kids will pick up the habit of tat interests. It's far too soon to know how this will effect his personal outcome.
If you find the tats harmless, don't hold them against your disagreement with their dad.
I'm only offering a suggestion. Hope it helps.
2007-04-01 14:43:49 · answer #4 · answered by bambi_gets_lost 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They come off easily with rubbing alcohol and that is ridiculous...he is just searching for something and if that's the best thing he can come up with....well, I'd say you don't have much to worry about.
I have a 3 y/o boy and he loves those tattoo things...he even gets them put on him at school...they are no different than a stamp. Are those promoting unsuccessful dropouts? Haha. How silly.
2007-04-01 14:32:39 · answer #5 · answered by Jax 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
tattoos 3 year
2016-02-01 11:13:19 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always felt the same, that they were tacky, till I had a three year old boy. Whenever telling him he is not allowed to do something, I always try to explain the reason why. Well, I couldnt really come up with a decent reason not to let him have them every once in a while, so I have decided that there really is no harm in them. Who cares? I loved them when I was a kid, and I dont have any tattoos now.
2007-04-01 14:32:21 · answer #7 · answered by Justme 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I was a pre-school teacher for many years and I saw many kids from good family's occasionally have a stick on tattoo.
I don't think it was a result of bad parenting.
If it were to be on the neck or face, I would have a problem with that. Or if there were many of these 'tattoos'.
I do think that they are harmless once in awhile.
If their father is so hell bent against them wearing these, then I do think it is a good idea to respect that, and let him tell the kids they are not allowed. Even better if the 2 of you could together, short conversation with the kids, tell them that as their parents you do not approve of the tattoos and therefore they are not going to be playing with them anymore,end of discussion.
As for your ex. e-mailing you, and threatening you about this, that is plain ridiculous. He needs to grow up.
The 2 of you are going to have many issues as parents to deel with over the years, and this is just a minor one. The childrens best interest should come 1st. And a major part of their best interest- is their parents cooperating maturely.
2007-04-01 15:03:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
OMG! Of course they are harmless! Surely there is no way ANY judge would even consider that in a custody battle! I think your ex is using anything he can grasp hold of to use against you. Now if they were REAL tattoo's it would be a different story but they are NOT! He needs to grow up and get the hell over it! Don't let him push you around! Good luck!
2007-04-01 14:32:07 · answer #9 · answered by West Aussie Chick 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
they arent harmless and he is just a kid once. plenty of kids put those fake tattoos on. i am sure that the judge wont hold that against you. as long as they werent violent there shouldnt be a problem. just ignore the dad. it seems like he wants your 3 year old to act like a twenty year old, and that isnt healthy for him. you just use your own parenting style and let him use his. you are doing just fine. let your son be a kid. i wasnt allowed to be a kid and i regret it now that i am a mom and dont have the chance to go out with friends and do kid/teenage things. since i was 12 i have been like an adult and i hate it. let him be a kid. he will appreciate it in the long run and it will be easier on you too.
2007-04-01 16:58:52 · answer #10 · answered by Tammi D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋