i hate it when my parents make fat jokes about me in front of friends\family and i try to act like its funny but it really hurts because i feel like there trying to tell me that i truley am..i know that i am i just hate how they like reassure it.. i told them i didnt like it when they say these things but they keep doing it.. i feel like corny for saying this like hurts me ( i sometimes even cry when they say these things) i believe they are the cause of my occasional restrictive diets and my obsessing over weight..i just dont know what to doo help.!(ps 16 female 5'9 150 lbs do you think im fat..honestly.?)
2007-04-01 13:25:15 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
are you kidding??? of course you are NOT fat!!! your weight is very normal. either you do not deliver the message to your parents very clearly or they're inconsiderate of your feelings.. you need to seek professional help, not just you, your parents also.
don't let anyone make you feel bad about yourself.. i know it's hard when it comes to parents' opinion, but you should believe in yourself. here's a good exercise, make a list of all your good qualities and each day try to do something that makes you feel good, like being nice to someone, or going to church..... anything that makes you feel good about yourself, add it on the list. believe me this will make your self-esteem increase.
GOOD LUCK
2007-04-01 13:48:30 · answer #1 · answered by mograbi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 5'9 and 150 lbs and they think you are fat? They should be ashamed of themselves. Hon, you are just fine. I am a mother of an anorexic daughter...she's 25 yrs old and married now but when she was about 12 yrs old it all started with her school mates calling her fat. She was 5'3 and 100lbs. She was so upset she started complaining of upset stomachs and would say she couldn't eat or would eat later. She lived on a few bites of a cracker and a few sips of water. She almost fainted in school and it took 2 teachers to bring her to the school nurse. We had to put her into the hospital for 2 weeks to re hydrate her and try to feed her. She was so weak she couldn't go back to school...we had to have her tutored at home. She weighed about 70 lbs. Is that what your parents want. Make them read this. Please.
2007-04-01 13:42:41 · answer #2 · answered by winter715 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I believe that's really wrong of your parents. Try talking to them and really act serious. Make your point stand out! It doesn't sound like you are over weight. Honestly though, don't listen to people. Ignore it when they do that. Just let it past by you. You shouldn't care about stuff like that. Think and/or care about more important things in life like school and friends and your health. As long as you aren't so large that you are loosing your health, then don't worry! If you want to talk about it, go to my profile and e-mail me! Don't be shy. I'm here with open ears. Good luck! ;)
2007-04-01 13:40:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've go to find the confidence in you to validate you whereas whatever someone says family friend or foe you have the resilence not to care. Obviously if they do that it shows what type of character they have and continuing to do it shows they have no regard for your feelings
Take it as a lesson and love you more than any other person can because as you get older you'll come to find thats really all you need and eventually you will find a man who will love you no matter your look thats reall love honey
2007-04-01 13:56:04 · answer #4 · answered by Diva 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are fat. Try not to let your parents opinion affect you , your ok as long as you are comfortable with yourself. Try asking your parents why they make fat jokes about you because if they think you are fat then ask them if they can help you in a positive way rather than hurting your feelings and making matters worse.
- Good Luck!!!!!!!!!-
2007-04-01 13:36:58 · answer #5 · answered by GlaM #3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
according to the site below you have a BMI of 22.1 which is absolutely normal (and not top end normal either!)
please do show your family this website and perhaps invite THEM to input their own details too for good measure (and if not why not??)
when i was your age (and weighing little over 100lbs at 5 2") my mother was always telling me i big hips funny feet etc etc - not true (she was overweight and overeating) but the slightest perceived critism back she really couldnt take (but she would stop eventually)
if your parents wont stop then perhaps enlist the support of these other friends/family - find someone who they are more likely to listen to - and sit them down and explain how you feel may be enough to get them to stop.
2007-04-01 14:02:02 · answer #6 · answered by Aslan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your parents sound like morons who are completely insensitive to their childs feelings.
you have the right to be hurt especially since they are your parents. they are supposed to support you. not put you down.
since you have already told them your feelings about this and they ignore or insensitive to how you feel. your only option is to IGNORE them.
KNOW that they are who they are because they are insecure within themselves.who knows..maybe when they were kids, someone did this to them. if anything feel sorry for them.
know that you are NOT the reason why they are like this.
i am sure people, when other people witness them taunting you will probably think your parents are jerks.
remember it is not your fault that they are who they are.
now you know the reason why you eat too much..they are teaching you how to have low self esteem.
it is time for you NOW to take responsiblity and not be weak like them. take care of your body, be strong and promise yourself that you will not end up like them. and when you have kids you wont treat them the way your parents treat you. don't blame them for you eating too much. they may be the reason but you are strong and need to take responsiblity. take care of yourself.
they are also shallow and should know that its not looks that count but how one acts.
sorry to dis your parents like this..but say this cause i know you are not a reflection of your parents. you are your own person.
2007-04-01 13:53:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your parents should be more considerate of your feelings.You need to find a counsellor that you can talk to otherwise you will end up with a an eating disorder and depression.Been there.My father used to make hurtful remarks about my weight.
2007-04-01 13:36:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't fat in the first place. Your parents are probably mocking you because of your obsession. They should probably get you some help instead.
Your weight is perfectly normal.
http://www.healthchecksystems.com/heightweightchart.htm
2007-04-01 13:29:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You definitely are not fat. You and your parents need to go into counseling together. You are not the problem. All of you together are. Lots of unresolved issues here.
2007-04-01 13:33:16 · answer #10 · answered by ~j~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋