My love is going out with my b.f. i don't want to hurt her because she is a good friend. we've been liking him since the same time.I don't want her going out with him and if i tell her not to go out with him and i go out with him it well mees up our frienship i don't know what to do.Help
2007-04-01 13:05:49 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you want to keep your best friend, you'll have to stay out of it. If he's available in the future, you can approach him then.
2007-04-01 13:08:54 · answer #1 · answered by sci55 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in this same situation. The bottom line is, neither one of you should cross the line. If you're uncomfortable about her going out with him... say so. Don't hold your toungue now because if you do later on it will be a sore point and you could possibly say much worse if you get into an argument because you were hurting inside about it for so long. Me and my friend were in the same spot, that was nearly 6 years ago. We both liked him. He flirted with me and her. She ended up going out with him. I told her I would support her but after a while I just felt ousted. Like our friendship didn't mean anything. We stopped talking for a year. She stopped dating him after two months. The time we spent apart totally affected her life. She went through so many changes and she wished she'd had me there to support her. In the end, speak your mind now. Your friend may be angry about it, but in the end she'll see what she's really missing. No one can replace a lost good friend.
2007-04-01 13:11:31 · answer #2 · answered by Gia S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you truly in love with him, or is it just infatuation? What about your friend, does she really love him? Because a guy is no reason to lose a friendship if he's not "the guy" because more will come and go in time....
but, does your friend know that you're in to this guy as well? because that's pretty messed up if she's hooking up with him knowing that you want him too...guys like that---the ones where both of you like him---should really be off limits if your friendship means anything...
but if its true love...and you're sure of this (you will be sure if its "real love") you're friend will understand when you tell her... and I honestly don't think that he can be "the one" for you both...
But also, how did they hook up? did he ask her out? if he did, then it probably means he likes her...don't be upset though... if he doesn't like you like you like him, then its not true love and its better that you don't waste your time on him... trust me, I wasted my time on way too many guys before I found the right one...
I hope everything works out for you!!!
2007-04-01 13:13:42 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Lauren 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It has to be a very mutually admirable relationship between you and she for such a thing to happen without hurt. If she cared for your happiness and vice verse. And is the guy worth the trouble? hope you work it out. Peace
2007-04-01 13:17:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry about messing up your freindship. She already messed it up by going out with a guy she knew you liked. Tel her how you feel and if she doesnt listen than tell her she's a B**** and forget about her. Theyll break up eventually and then you guys can become freinds again...if U want 2
2007-04-01 13:10:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
how can he be your bf if your mate is going out with him, he obviously likes your friend better than you,anyway no guy is worth falling out with your friend over. someone once told me never drop your friends for a guy cos you can always get another fella but you won't find good friends like the ones you have now.
2007-04-01 13:11:16 · answer #6 · answered by ladycindy1701 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should wait. If they r really close i think you just have to let it go. If they r goin on a date but want others to come maybe he will start to like you more then her. Then you look totally inicent when he breaks up with her.
2007-04-01 13:12:26 · answer #7 · answered by Quason 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the question is who do you love more, your best friend or the boy. Not many relationships last, wait this one out and maybe you can have the best of both worlds. good luck
2007-04-01 13:09:37 · answer #8 · answered by caitlin f 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find another guy. It's not worth losing a friendship over. And don't date him after they break up.
2007-04-01 13:11:01 · answer #9 · answered by enter_oblivion 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it be. Let her go out with him. It's not worth your friendship.
2007-04-01 13:08:47 · answer #10 · answered by Cool dude 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋