I am a shy person (really) when it comes to meeting guys. I am interested in this one guy but he seems quiet as well but nice.
My other problem is I am trying to get over my feelings for my sons dad b/c he has hurt me and he just has no more goals in life. I also just want to make sure my head is together when I am with a new guy to be able to focus some attention to them and not on the ex.
What is some advice to give me?
2007-04-01 13:03:04 · 5 answers · asked by ♦ Phoenix Rising♦ 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I feel it's important to have yourself in order before you go off and try to be there for someone else. Your happiness should be the main focus. Know that it's hopeless between your child's father and yourself. Mean it when you say you two are done. Only then can you move on. Have some friends and family support you and be there to remind you of what you've gone through and that you don't want to do it again. Don't feel guilty. You gave it your best shot. Don't have any regrets. You don't owe him anything.
2007-04-09 02:34:35 · answer #1 · answered by evadiva 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go slow, be Honest... Try talking to the new guy, about your fears, feelings..
Finds someone to help you sort out our feelings, confusion about your own distrust. I have found distrust of the ex's, or men, is usually distrust of myself... This is true for many women...
So work on you, trusting you, learning about who you are., what you want, doing work on yourself between relationships is essential so you don't make the same mistakes again...
Someone, could be classes, counselor, books. Personally I have found great classes at Centers for Spiritual Living also called Church of Religious Science... (not scientolgy) It is a unique philosophy, big on self developement, helped me in a similare situation.
2007-04-09 20:06:09 · answer #2 · answered by j.w. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice is if you still think about him (your sons dad) and how he hurt you that should be motivation to make you want to meet other people. Maybe you are shy, and so is the guy you have your eye on, but if you express yourself to him maybe you will be able to connect and who knows things my go well! Keep your hopes up!
2007-04-01 20:09:49 · answer #3 · answered by Jessica S 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take your time to get over the ex. When we rush into things too soon, we often make the same mistake. You may want to get acquainted with the shy guy to have as a friend during this time. It depends on whether he is interested or not.
2007-04-01 20:09:32 · answer #4 · answered by Jan C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go for it and go out of your comfort zone and put a smile on :]
2007-04-01 20:09:13 · answer #5 · answered by Je vous aime. ♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋