Question on girl??

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Question on my girl, advice?
I've been with this girl for 8 years. Well recently, she's been trying to get onto the volunteer police department. Well she needs help from this one guy who I don't like and her and him have a history together. Well lately, they have been text messaging each other about when he can come pick up the application and things like that.

Thing is, she deletes the messages and calls. She says it's none of my business cuz it's not about you. I'll admit I'm paranoid and suspicious.

Well I tried to "break up" with her but she did not want to at all, and got upset.

My question is, if she did like this guy, when I told her I wanted to break up, is it true she woulda been "ok" and started dating him?

On the flip side, they both say nothing is there with each other, yet she deletes his messages and I can't be there when he comes and gets the application so I don't start nothing.

Am I wrong to be paranoid?

Answer 1

Don't stop looking for misses right bro, she may be telling you the truth or she may be stringing u along provided her little deal goes south with the other dude. I would tell her you want to play the field and that u need some time apart. I think you will see rather quickly how much she loves and cares about you when you turn around and start walking away. Give it a shot. Give her a taste of stringing along.

Answer 2

First of all, I'm sorry to sound negative about this. But....if there was no reason to delete messages, then why do it? In a relationship, you have to be open & honest with one another (especially one that has lasted that long). What should there be to hide? As far as breaking up, most women don't want to let go of the security that they have with a long term boyfriend. It is much easier to sneak around & cheat; knowing that you have that security of coming home to someone who loves you. It really sounds bad, and again, I'm sorry to say it, but I've seen the exact same thing so many times before. Really hoping this case is different. Good luck to ya.

Answer 3

well... i use to go from one guy to another and when i was with one and i found another guy i wouldn't break up with the first guy until i was sure i could have the second one no questions asked so just because she got upset and said she didnt want to doesn mean anything really... i guess thats makeing you even more paranoid...

the part where she doesnt want you around when he is is kind of exceptable since you are jelous and could start something, unless your not one to start confrontations ever, then it's just an excuse and something could be brewing.

I delete my messages and call logs all the time, but i admit when i do that i;m usually trying to hide something. i'm not saying she is but theres a possibility, just keep an eye on her, dont jump to any conclusions, unless some real hard evidence comes up... thats my opinion

Answer 4

when you wanted to break up with her, she said no. if she want that man, she would not stay with you. and cut the paranoid because it comes out as insecure. thuough, pay attention after she gets the job and then you'll know that it's something more if they continue to talk. for now, I think you should cuddle and love her like a boyfriend should before someone else shows they're better than you.

Answer 5

i would be suspicious to but if you have been together for 8 years then you should trust her. if you fell shes being unfaithful and flirting with this guy then just keep a very close eye on her and hind an old girl friend to become friends with and do the same to her and see her reaction! and the whole break up thing its your decision if you wanna end it not hers.

Answer 6

You have been with this girl for 8 years. Trust your instincts. Paranoid and suspicious? go online and download a key logging program. It will never hurt you to know the truth.

Good luck

Answer 7

It seems like you are being insecure. Has she given you reason to suspect her before? If not, you need to let it go.