Why do I attract girls with boyfriends?

Question

I'm good-looking,but not great looking.Let me put it this way,I could probably be a model if I lost my love handles,and lightened the area around my eye.I dress well,I'm mature,nice,quiet but strong-willed,intelligent,and romantic.I can be funny sometimes,but I'm no comedian.I'm just an average good guy.What is it that makes me attract taken girls?
I don't seem to meet many single ones that aren't total sluts at bars and such.They obviously flirt.On one extreme case,one girl slapped my butt(in a playful way) and squeezed my leg. Sometimes more subtle,like saying hi just to be and staring alot.It's always a "serious" relationship she's in too.Well,she always thinks it's serious.I think that some of these girls may just be too young to notice it's a fling.I always lose touch by the time they break it off with their boyfriends(The guy is always a jerk.)...if they even do.This is one of 2 pet peeves dating-wise.

Maybe I just seem safe to alot of them.They feel as if I won't try anything.I'm not really insecure.I actually love myself.I'm just quiet and reserved until I get to know someone and what they like to talk about.

By the way,I don't go to bars.I don't like the scene.I've been once and had a bad experience.Not only did a drunk girl almost throw up on me,along with other bad experiences,my brother got me into a bad car accident.I had 3 surgeries.

Answer 1

Chances are its your insecurities, people can feel that. But if there already with someone its easy to get past that, and not care what your thinking. Shoot guys do the samething.... I mean what do you expect anyways they are bars? If there with someone and still going to the bar that usually a good sign that there the type thats always looking for the next big thing, the next great rush, and latest, greatest distration. So you can't expect much more then that, try talking to the ones that don't have it in them to look your way. Chances are if your description isn't just you hyping yourself up, the ones your after our intimaded by all the other girls hangin around you and your wonderfully matured personality. Shoo them away and invite over some of the quieter ones from the corners of the bar and don't spend time with the ones stuck at the bar stools.