My fiance wants to have her brother in our wedding, instead of a matron of honor. She doesn't have a female "best friend" although there would probably be another female or two as her other witnesses. Neither of us are religious, so we are not planning a religious ceremony. I'm just not sure how one would go about this. My witnesses will definitely be males. This could cause some awkwardness. Any ideas for this???
2007-04-01 11:54:47 · 23 answers · asked by tickle_me_radar 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Nahh.. just adjust! It is becoming quite common to have a member of the opposite sex as a witness. One of my friends weddings is this fall.. she has her male best friend as her Man-of-Honor and her bridesmaids are 2 females. Her fiance's side is 3 men. If you are worried about things like bridal dance... just have them all dance with their significant others for the dance. Or walking down the aisle - just have all the women walk up alone and the men stand with you. Then when exiting just have them all exit single file quickly. It will work out. I don't think there will be awkwardness just a little extra planning. Have fun!
2007-04-01 12:57:00 · answer #1 · answered by melodi_jean_99 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well first off it is not a religious matter either way because I am a christian and heard of men being the man of honor at christian weddings. Some offiliations however would not allow it which is just stupid. I think your sister is lucky to be close to her brother. I think he should wear something different then the groomsmen and best man..maybe just a silky mens shirt and black pants. If you are planning a bridal party dance then just have the dj announce the bridal party and their significant other. One thing I have ever hated about being a wedding attendant is having to dance with someone I dont know well. He can still plan a bridal shower for her just like the maid of honor would do with the help of their mom.
2007-04-02 07:11:44 · answer #2 · answered by Ladybugs77 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One of my best friends is a male and I would love to have him in my wedding (but I am eloping instead) but there should not be any awkwardness with him being her witness it can be done. It would be done the same as if she was having a female as her witness's. Instead it will be her brother.
You all will be fine. Good luck and congrats to you both.
2007-04-05 17:45:20 · answer #3 · answered by princessa674 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's great she wants her brother to be her witness. Don't worry about what other people may think, it's your wedding. The most important thing is that the two of you be happy with your decisions. Congratulations and best of luck for a happy, long, successful marriage.
2007-04-02 10:24:55 · answer #4 · answered by sunchine girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it would not be awkward!! Many people are taking this to heart. .......your wedding is a very important day and you should be surrounded by those you love and those who mean the most to you. Her brother is her best friend......let him be part of your day......the "maid of honor" is there to support the bride and is ususally ina roll of best friend etc. If her brother brings that joy and support to her in taht roll then there is no reason why he can not be her witness. Traditions and rules need not apply....your day is just that....your day....don't let others or the "norm" keep you or your bride from doing it the way you wan.....be happy in the moment and enjoy it!!
2007-04-01 22:52:49 · answer #5 · answered by dazee052 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is not that unusual any more. It's becoming more and more common. He would just be called the "Man of Honor". He'd walk beside your witness instead of being escorted, or by himself, or jointly escort a female bridesmaid. I've seen it done a few ways.
2007-04-02 10:04:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is a good idea. If her brother is the closest person to her and she haas no female best friends, go for it. Since it isnt a religious ceremony,,,who cares
2007-04-01 19:03:29 · answer #7 · answered by shelly63795 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
why would it be awkward? I am having 3 "bridesmen" in my wedding.....making ME the only female out of the entire wedding party.
sorry to say but the wedding is about the bride, if she wants her brother in the wedding, she should be able to do so without worrying about how it's going to make anyone else feel.
2007-04-01 19:09:30 · answer #8 · answered by Hillary M 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Religion has nothing to do with who you choose as your attendants.
If your bride-to-be wants her brother there is nothing wrong with that. He will enter with you, the officiant the other groomsmen & stand on the bride's side while the other girls walk the aisle. Unless the bride & her brother want him to have the honor of that walk. It's up to all of you.
2007-04-01 19:04:51 · answer #9 · answered by weddrev 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
go for it...be unconventional! It will be different and since it's not a religious ceremony, what is the big deal? If she wants to have her brother included at the front...why not? I say go for it!
2007-04-01 19:34:00 · answer #10 · answered by Lola 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋