I punish by taking privliges or grounding. She said "I'd rather be spanked how ever and what ever time. What do I do?
2007-04-01 11:36:19 · 20 answers · asked by K B 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
She's 12 years old.
2007-04-01 11:36:57 · update #1
any1 who says i should spank her How do I spank her? (ex: HAnd pants up??? paddle???)
2007-04-01 11:50:59 · update #2
I never spanked her b4 and if i did should i do it or my husband? he's harder. (just saying cause he's bigger)
2007-04-01 12:40:26 · update #3
No don't spank her when i was little i used to say that because i wanted to get out of it quickly! When i got grounded or things taken away from me i always learned my lesson and my mom only spanked me once and it never even phased me! My other punishment was to sit on the rug for a really long time with nothing to do and every time i would try to get up or do something i would have to sit there longer!
Hope this helps you.
Good luck!
2007-04-01 13:51:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stand your ground... I'm not against spanking but, She is telling you what she'd Rather have??? Well if she wants it it's not punishment. I agree with your methods, Spanking CAN cause harm to a child it seems that taking privliges away may just work:)
2007-04-01 18:44:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably said that because she knows that the punishment is very short if the only thing that happens is a spanking. I am no expert but maybe if you continue to ground and take privileges it will be more productive because it kind of gets her where it hurts you know what I mean? That way she may consider the consequences before she does something she knows is wrong.
2007-04-01 18:45:22 · answer #3 · answered by Wilma S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't spank a twelve year old. Spanking is for when they can't reason well (like the under 6 set). She isn't supposed to like having privleges taken away.
When I was a teenager, my parents gave me an allowance based on my grades and every infraction cost a dollar. It sucked getting the money taken away and made me think about when I forgot to do something or didn't do my best on purpose.
2007-04-01 18:41:13 · answer #4 · answered by mlemt76 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It just shows you dthat when you take things away she really doesnt like it. If you spank her she gets to keep her privliges and freedom and only endore a few minutes of whippens. Shes being a smart butt by telling u that
2007-04-01 18:43:01 · answer #5 · answered by mandy b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i would say that for me when i was yonger i use to say i would rather be grounded, but after i had choosen being grounded i wish i would of taken being spanked. SO i would say u should just spank them. If that doesn't work, then take away wht u know they like to do for fun.
2007-04-01 18:41:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are doing just what you should be doing. By her saying she would rather be spanked, it means what you're doing is effective. A spanking once done, is over with, whereas, what you're doing lasts longer and makes her think about her actions.
Good job, mom!!
2007-04-01 18:41:15 · answer #7 · answered by rustybones 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She wants to be spanked because it's the easy way out. Stick with your punishment method. It apparently holds some consequence for her, because she really doesn't like it.
2007-04-01 20:38:00 · answer #8 · answered by ljc1410 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course she would rather be spanked. . . it only last for a few seconds, then it's over. (and in some states could land you in jail). I would keep grounding her. It's driving her crazy. Who said we get to pick our punishments anyway???
2007-04-01 18:43:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously the taking away of privliges/grounding is working. Stick with it! Since when does a child get to choose her/his punishment?!
2007-04-01 18:40:56 · answer #10 · answered by margarita 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋