I've recently started dating a new guy, and although we are very similar I'm very aware of the fact that I'm 20 and he's 32. I'm very mature for my age (will qualify as a Doctor in 2 years) but still I'm worried that our expectations of the relationship may be different. I am not looking for a father figure, and I don't think he's after a "trophy girlfriend" but I don't want to get hurt.
Does anyone have any similar experiences or personal views they can share? I really need some advice!
2007-04-01 10:53:10 · 31 answers · asked by karen f 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I married a man 14 years older than myself. As he got older he expected me to age at the same rate, he stifled me and made me feel old before my time. We divorced.
But you can't go on other people's experiences, only you will know if it is right, if you are compatible, and whether they are your soulmate. If they are your soulmate you will know, and the age difference between you won't matter at all.
I have found my true soulmate, and we have a 7 year age gap, it could be 30 years and still it would not make the slightest bit of difference. Trust your heart, if you love him go for it!
2007-04-01 11:41:23 · answer #1 · answered by Jan L 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
12 Year Age Gap Relationships
2017-01-15 05:56:49 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in a relationship with a 12 year age gap, i'm 24 and he's 36. We've been together for 3 and a half years now and things couldn't be better. What makes it even more special is that it's a long distance relationship and we love each other more and more every day. It sure worked out for me. We share many of the same likes and dislikes, which is great. I think it depends on the people, if it's meant to be it will be. If you feel comfortable in the relationship age doesn't really matter. It never mattered to me.
2014-01-12 20:10:09 · answer #3 · answered by Amanda judith 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you like him then go ahead, but get to know him as much as you can first, i.e. similarities, hobbies etc. I think if you do this you will realise that the age gap might not matter.
I'm 20 and dating a 30yr old - it was love at first sight and i got a bit carried away so i didn't think of the gap but after quite a few dates i realsied that he was like a 20yr old trapped in a 30's body he even looks 20.
The age wasn't a big deal as we were extremely alike but if we had nothing in common and didn't want similar things and was extremely mature and never had a laugh i wouldn never have dated him!
Now three years down the line i realise that there are some things which are quite opposite like i'm the mature one about some things which you would expect some one older to be more considerate about.
Guys also mature slower than girls!
2007-04-07 11:41:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend is almost 11 years older than me. We've been together for over a year and live together. I can honestly say this is by far the best, most enriching, most functional relationship I've ever been in. We're even talking about marriage (though we agree it's much too soon).
Anyway, I think it can absolutely work. Many of the girls I know in their 20's date guys in their 30's. It seems to be a dynamic that works very well. If you're worried about expectations, maybe you can bring that up? If he's a mature and intelligent guy, I'm sure he'll understand your concerns, and the two of you can discuss it.
2007-04-01 11:09:27 · answer #5 · answered by M L 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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Can a relationship work with a 12 year age gap? experiences please?
I've recently started dating a new guy, and although we are very similar I'm very aware of the fact that I'm 20 and he's 32. I'm very mature for my age (will qualify as a Doctor in 2 years) but still I'm worried that our expectations of the relationship may be different. I...
2015-08-12 10:29:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I'll speak from experience that relationships with a large age difference do work. If you and he are okay with it, and the other necessary factors in a relationship are there (love, trust, respect, common interests, etc.) then there isn't anything wrong with this relationship. There will be some inherent differences because of the age difference, but they can be worked out. Just make sure he wants to be with you for the right reasons, and not because you're a trophy girlfriend.
2007-04-08 08:07:28 · answer #7 · answered by Tweety 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been with my partner for 8 years, there's an 11 year age gap. ( i'm 28 he's 39) We met when we were 20 & 31. I would also say i'm very mature for my age, as i was forced to grow up early. There are times when our expectations difer but we love each other and compromise. Life is too short to worry, you've got to try new things and if it doesn't work for whatever reason then you pick yourself up and get on with life. As for getting hurt i'm sure a man your own age is just as capable of hurting you if not even more so because he would be more immature than an older man.
2007-04-01 11:29:56 · answer #8 · answered by louloubelle2006 2 · 8⤊ 0⤋
well men are about 12 years behind the maturity of women anyway so yes!! Seriously though, you are both mature adults, and i think the most important thing is that you want the same things from life. Maybe make this clear before you get too serious. In many ways, this can be the perfect age gap. good luck!
2007-04-01 13:16:10 · answer #9 · answered by **sugarplum** 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I used to go out with someone who was 9 years older. Everything was fine for 5 yrs then i found that i was more mature than him so we finished. Age doesn't matter at all as long as you get on and want the same things in life that's all that matters.
2007-04-01 11:35:30 · answer #10 · answered by Jo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋