Ok Well I lief Out in my oher question that i do wanna have kids but im scared becuz my dad use to beat up on me an my mum so does that mean im gona beat my kids? cuz if it does then y bother? cuz i dont want my kids to go threw wat i did so WHAT DO I DO
2007-04-01 09:58:14 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
My husband was beaten daily by both of his parents and all of his sisters were raped daily (his father served time). He is now the father of 3 beautiful kids and he has never "beat" or "raped" them. A lot of people use that as an excuse and it is absolute B.S. We choose our own destinies and most of us do know the difference between right and wrong.
2007-04-01 10:08:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I as well was an abused child growing up. But I have four kids now and I do take precautions when I get angry at them. I remind myself the hell my mother put me through and I know they are just children. I do not spank or hit my kids and never have. I think if you really step back and take a conscience view of how you want to raise your children, then you will understand what you were put through and that you do not want that for your children. Before having children though, make sure your finances are in order. Make sure you really want children. And make sure you are able to give them a better life in an emotional aspect. We are our parents in many ways, but we also do things differently than what they did. Seems we always turn out better than our parents in some cases. Keep in mind that kids are kids and we are the ones to mold them. Sometimes the molder does not finish the job nor does good work, but it can always be changed and the cycle can be broken.....
2007-04-01 17:10:18 · answer #2 · answered by Kimmie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is scared of the thought of parenting but just because you have something bad happen to you doesn't mean you will do the same. I was abused by my father but I now have 3 kids and my niece and I don't abuse them. I think people use thier past as an excuse for thier behavior.
2007-04-01 17:06:28 · answer #3 · answered by charitydowling 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can break that chain of abuse, if you really want to. Devote yourself to being a good parent. Some ideas: take advantage of parenting classes in your community. Start a parenting group. Read about parenting in "how to" books. These are just some ideas. Most important is don't be afraid to ask for help.
2007-04-01 17:04:59 · answer #4 · answered by ~j~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it doesn't mean you'll be like your dad and beat your kids when you have some. Just go to counsling.
2007-04-01 17:02:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing says that u will turn out like your dad.
2007-04-01 17:05:30 · answer #6 · answered by hottie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋