When I make plans to go out and do something fun, a few days in advance....I spend those few days with my stomach churning, trying to figure out how I can get out of going. When I actually go out and have fun its not so bad, but the anticipation of it makes me sick...
when I get a job, I spend the entire 8 hours Im there miserable, wanting to go back home. I hate being there, and I feel trapped...and when I go home, my stomach churns over having to go back the next day. I dread it and it makes me miserable. Im not lazy, and I WANT to work, but then when I get a job, I hate it so much, and being there makes me miserable.
why am I like this?
2007-04-01 08:24:29 · 10 answers · asked by Its just me 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Social anxiety is the third largest psychological problem in the United States today. This type of anxiety affects 15 million Americans in any given year. Unlike some other psychological problems, social anxiety is not well understood by the general public or by medical and mental health care professionals, such as doctors, psychiatrists, psychologists, therapists, social workers, and counselors. In fact, people with social anxiety are misdiagnosed almost 90% of the time. People with social phobia are often misdiagnosed with other illnesses such as "schizophrenic", "manic-depressive", "clinically depressed", "panic disordered", and "personality disordered", among other damaging misdiagnoses.
As with all problems, everyone with social anxiety has slightly different secondary symptoms. Some people, for example, cannot write in public because they fear people are watching and their hand will shake. Others are very introverted and they find it too difficult to hold down a job. Still others have severe anxiety about eating or drinking in the presence of other people. Some people with social anxiety feel that a certain part of their body (such as the face or neck) are particularly "strange looking" and vulnerable to being stared at. Others experience extreme fear or procrastination of doing daily things such as going to the grocery store, bank, meeting good friends for lunch, or attending an evening dinner party.
It is these automatic "feelings" and thoughts that occur around social situations that must be met and conquered in therapy. Usually these anxious feelings are tied to thoughts that are entwined in a vicious cycle of negative expectations and negative appraisals. It is a catch-22 situation: there is no way out without the appropriate therapy.
Many therapeutic methods have been studied, but cognitive-behavioral therapy is the only modality that has been shown to work effectively. In fact, treatment of social anxiety through cognitive-behavioral methods has the capacity to produce long-lasting, permanent relief from the anxiety-laden world of social anxiety.
2007-04-01 08:27:41 · answer #1 · answered by Serinity4u2find 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do see social anxiety in your question. but I am wondering if there could be some depression. It is possible to have both.
Either way this is no way to live your life and you should seek medical help. See your physican and they may start you on some medication and or see a therapist. You should not have to live like this. So your probably going to dread going to the doctors but in the long run you are going to feel better . I do!!
2007-04-01 18:26:25 · answer #2 · answered by Shelly t 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds a little like me...I Luvvv staying at home! I feel it is beautiful..BUT the world is beautiful too! Go out and see it all of it's sights and smells. I went to W. VA this weekend & u would have thought i was a "country bumpkin" I was so amazed at everything! And work EVERYBODY feels like " I just can't wait to get outta here" but you have to work, learn to associate w/ people, it's hard for me too. But...
Put down the mouse and get out the house!
If you want meds try WELLBUTRIN at it's lower dose. It will quell your fears.
2007-04-01 19:48:54 · answer #3 · answered by Mee-OW =^..^= 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is because there is something about yourself you want to change. Something you don't like. You feel uncompfortable because you are worried about that. Maybe it is with you body image, maybe it is fear of saying the wrong thing, but there is something you are uncompfortable with about yourself. Go to a shrink, and maybe they can help figure out what it is, if you ca't figure it out on your own. But, don't make the appt too far in advance, you might give yoursalf an ulcer.
2007-04-01 15:48:48 · answer #4 · answered by John R 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not a doctor, but its sounds to me like you have a serious anxiety disorder. Possibly Social Anxiety Disorder (Social Phobia) http://www.nimh.nih.gov/healthinformation/socialphobiamenu.cfm
or even Avoidant Personality Disorder which is a bit more severe and widespread over all aspects of someones life.
http://www.mentalhealth.com/dis1/p21-pe08.html
2007-04-01 15:39:56 · answer #5 · answered by daisymax 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know exactly what you mean. u are afraid of the presance of people. make friends at work this will make you feel like you can;t just wait to go to work the next day. i wish you lots of luck
2007-04-01 15:36:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you have what is called "social phobia." It's also called "social anxiety." Do a google or yahoo search on this.
2007-04-01 15:37:35 · answer #7 · answered by ~j~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may be in early stages of Agoraphobia. See your doc, and tell him what you told here. There are medications that will help you be less anxious.
Good luck.....and go soon, before it gets worse!
2007-04-01 15:33:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you are very self-conscious and don't like being around a lot of people=get some help so that you can get on with your life enjoying every bit of it
2007-04-01 15:29:37 · answer #9 · answered by caffsans 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because work sux!
2007-04-01 15:29:48 · answer #10 · answered by Miss Casey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋