I went to work. I took care of him. he was disabled and I wanted to do for him like no other, cause I understood. I put out and put out but look where it got me. I am me and I always put everything I can in a relationship. so why did this happen? he was so calm and collected when he kicked me out?
2007-04-01 08:09:03 · 21 answers · asked by Debra H 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he's a parasite, and i guess he just got tired of your blood type. good riddance!
2007-04-01 08:11:40 · answer #1 · answered by bad guppy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can not answer the question of "why men take advantage of women." The only answer I have is because we let them. I can really relate to your story. I am also a giver. Please do not let him discourage you from being a giver. I think it is a wonderful thing. I know you are hurting right now, but from what you told me (he was calm and collective) tells me there is no emotion there and as hard as it is you need to pick yourself up and move on. They say it takes 21 days to break a bad habit. This saying proves with time everything can get better. God has a plan for everyone, and things happen for a reason. I wish you the best. Stay strong, busy and when you feel sad try to think of all the bad times in stead of the good.
2007-04-01 15:15:39 · answer #2 · answered by Marie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well hon just remember that you put everything into the relationship so there is no reason to blame yourself. This man clearly was not the one for you. God has someone out there for you, just wait and see. Everything will fit perfectly when you meet your man it will be like a key that fits perfectly in the slot just watch and see. This man sounds very mean and disrespectful he will get someone exactly like him one day and he will get his own problems to deal with. You just worry about yourself and know that your so better than him. He was calm and collected bc he had no conscious and probably does not even have a heart! That's bad if he is disabled because no one will ever want to take care of someone ungreatful for helping them a long in life when they need to depend on someone else, bad move on his part!
2007-04-01 15:14:09 · answer #3 · answered by SphinxEyez999 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all men take advantage of women,but there are those who do,and I think in your case maybe he just got tired of you doing everything,I don't know what type of disability he has but he still has a mind and a heart,and is still a man maybe he felt like less of a man because you were doing it all!!! maybe you shouldn't give as much give the man a chance in the future!!!!! Good Luck!
2007-04-01 15:22:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The man was a bum. You'll find a lot of them out there. Sometimes when you to too much for them and let them rule your life (like nearly every time) they will lose respect for you even that's way they think you should be. It is losing proposition. Live your life the way you want to and don't let any may tell you how to be. Maybe your guy found someone who could make him a better living and decided to go for it. Try to forget him and get on with your life. Try (emphasis on try) to find a guy who will appreciate you and treat you as an equal.
2007-04-01 15:30:44 · answer #5 · answered by sissyd 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that b@stard... is he still disabled!!! well, maybe he deserved it... Obviously, he has no morals,... he kicked u out!!! and u 've done everything ... for him.. 8 years!!! woman, didn't u notice his manners and that he's not worth it before!! He's unappreciative.....
Girl... You deserve better and you'll get better.. Just don't fall for the same kind.. Let the guy do something to prove that he wants you... don't do everything on ur own... a relationship has two sides... it doesn't just have you as the giver... u have to receive good stuuf too. Good Luck
2007-04-01 15:17:21 · answer #6 · answered by ♫ Chloe ♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did he put everything into your relationship just as much as you did? Because if he didn't, perhaps he felt so bad that you were doing so much for him and he wasn't doing as much for you, i'm not sure what his disablity is but if it stops him from doing things then maybe this was getting him down and wants you to be with someone who can treat you just as good as you treat them?
Whatever the reason is you should definately sit down and talk with him, ask him why he broke it off so suddenly and make him tell you the truth.
I'm sure he still loves you, because love doesn't fade just like that. And by the sound of things, you did a lot for him, i'm sure he loved it and will miss it.
2007-04-01 15:15:33 · answer #7 · answered by Yellow 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am the same exact way. I have the old fashioned beliefs that a woman should take care of her significant other. And it makes me happy doing so. I am happy that they are happy and I can make them that way. It doesn't seem to me that he even really had a reason to do this to you. It was certainly his loss and your gain. Now you have the opportunity to get out there and find that soulmate that everyone wishes they could do. Someone who is going to fully appreciate everything you do for them and whom is not going to take a minute of your lives together for granted. Here is my story. I was married for 3 years. He beat me so badly, I thought he was going to kill me at times. He stabbed me on October 23, 2004. I was no longer afraid of him and made him leave (kinda hurt him before he left) My daughter was almost 3. She would have been 3 that following June. I had a major stroke in December 2004, left me numb on my whole left side for 7 months. I went back to work 2 weeks after the stroke. I met an absolutely wonderful man in March of 2005. In June I started having small seizures. He did not leave, he even took my daughter in as his own, she loves him so much and to her he is daddy. She knows about her biological father, but I refuse to talk badly about him. She just says NO, he is my daddy and she points to my boyfriend. The seizures progressevly got worse and worse along with the headaches caused by seizure activity, and have mini-strokes. It has been 2 years now and so far the seizures cannot be controlled by medicine. He holds my head when I am seizing so I don't smack it off of the floor too hard, and if I have a stroke when I am awake he whipes the drool off of my face and holds my left hand cause it always stiffly curles up he said. I am now in a wheelchair due to the strokes, and he helps take care of my daughter and I. He has never left nor thought about leaving and I am sure this is hard on him as well. I also believe as I said in taking care of my significant other, when I walked I did everything in my power for him. If he needed something it was there, when he is sick I take care of him, my house was always clean and dinner cooked every night. He now cleans and cooks dinner and takes care of all of us with no complaints. So hun my point is, there are still wonderful men out there don't let this one discourage you. You will find him when you aren't even looking. I will pray for you, and wish you all the luck in the world. Just remember keep your head up and your mind open.
2007-04-01 16:17:17 · answer #8 · answered by angeleyes818 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
grrrrrrr...the basTa$d!!!!!! This happened because you are a good person and were taken advantage of; you allowed yourself to be used with nothing in return. I am sorry this happened to you, you did such a good thing and none of it was appreciated.......don't let it mar all your future relationships, but do learn something from it.
Read the book, Sex on the Brain, (it's not about sex, it's about the sexes and how the brain is wired as far as relationships go) ......
2007-04-01 18:56:23 · answer #9 · answered by abc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, this happens and many times because we give to much. When a person is taken advantage of, it is often not noticed early enough. When we give our best to a situation, there is nothing further you can do. We all learn lessons this way. Move on with your life. You will find a good person who will appreciate you. Good luck.
2007-04-01 15:15:56 · answer #10 · answered by Jan C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think because as women we have a generally giving nature and wish to please those we love.So we allow ourselves to be taken advantage of without really being aware that we do it.I wonder if perhaps you just did a little too much for your partner and because of his disability this caused him to feel inadequate,unable to give you what you were giving him.Men are funny creatures really and tend to react in funny ways.Take heart that you did the very best you could and given time he may just come to realise that himself.In the future try to give a little more to yourself it doesn't hurt to be a little selfish at times xx
2007-04-01 20:57:17 · answer #11 · answered by Jenny T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋