The guy I'm dating who happens to live 250 miles away bought a plane ticket for me to visit him for the weekend, the price was over £100, he didn't pester me for sex at all when I got there, if anyone did that, it was me!, he asked me to call him when I got back which I did. Since then I haven't heard from him, do you think he cud be waiting for my call? and also....how come he hasn't called me? I know he's very much interested....he complains I nag him bout his infrequent calling but I feel a girl deserves a phonecall every now and then....What's his game? I'm confused...
2007-04-01 07:44:01 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
btw, we've known each other for 2yrs and I've stayed at his place 4 times now
2007-04-01 07:53:55 · update #1
Ah. The age-old question. Even when things go really well on a date, a man may still not call. Men are primarily work-oriented. A man instinctively doesn't reveal his excitement, assuming that if he appears needy, it will weaken his position. A man knows not to show how much he cared or how much he needs someone. Men pride themselves on being confident, independent, and autonomous. When he does call you, don't let him know that you are not pleased, because then the relationship will just spiral downward.
Most men don't realize how much a woman will appreciated him if he calls after a date. Most men just don't have a clue what a gift it would be if they were to give strong reassuring messages after a date. Since men don't have a lot to say after a date, they are not automatically motivated to call. It feels a little foolish to call when you have nothing to say. So don't be worried that you guy doesn't call. Pretty much every male on this planet does that.
Please don't give him any more sex. It just lowers his respect for you and your self-respect. He will just think that you are using him for the sex. I hope I helped.
2007-04-01 07:53:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although there is no way you could "know" he's not using you (unless you can read minds and look into his head or heart) it probably is a case of him simply not being all that interested.
Sometimes when we meet someone we thought we'd really like, there's just no good connection there. I doubt he's waiting for your call because you stated you called him when you arrived back home...therefore he's gotten a call from you and chosen not to return it (at least not yet).
My guess is he's either not as interested in you as you are in him, or he's not a good match regardless because you want more contact that he desires to give so in the long run that would probably be an issue that would drive you two apart.
Keep your fond memories of the weekend, and move on.
2007-04-01 14:49:03 · answer #2 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he just doesn't take the relationship as seriously as you do. Or maybe he just has different ideas about how much phone time a relationship requires (you didn't say how long you'd been waiting on his call).
Either way, though, my assessment is that if he lives 250 miles away, you're not feeling satisfied about how much you talk, and he's not willing to change his ways, then it's probably not going to work out in the long run. Long distance dating requires both people to be fully onboard if it's to succeed.
2007-04-01 15:12:13 · answer #3 · answered by Blenderhead 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps he was interested and lost interest somehow after the visit. You know that saying "Men come and go like seasons", it's the truth, so move on. If he was interested, he'd make time to call.
2007-04-01 14:49:03 · answer #4 · answered by who-wants-to-know 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but he's probably telling everyone you showed up, pestered him for sex, nagged him about calling you and are dial happy.
2007-04-01 14:48:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
PLEASE, don't EVER impose to a man that he will get sex even if he doesn't ask, haven't you seen Friends!? He knew he would got great sex from you, well, now he wants out. Try to forget about him, and don't give him any anymore.
2007-04-01 14:50:49 · answer #6 · answered by stargazer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well when a girl has to call her own my bf that means he doesnt really care like when you have to txt him or call him n he dont kall you or txt you he doesnt care! i have been in this situation before.
2007-04-01 14:50:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh Please!
you went to him, had sex, and came home... nice fling
2007-04-01 14:46:46 · answer #8 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't be so needy or clingy or you will scare him away! make him be the chaser! most men like it when you play hard to get.
2007-04-01 14:48:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He didn't like how you looked. :( I'm sorry, move on to someone new. Don't let others get you down.
2007-04-01 14:47:54 · answer #10 · answered by Free Dog Bounty Hunter 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋