A friend of mine turned to crack, i ended up raising her child permanantly thru the courts. At the time of custody I wasn't finacially stable so I asked my mom if she would sign for the baby. She did, i ended up married with an outstandng income. Now that I have moved out, with the child my mom is really mad at me. The whole time I lived at home I raised the baby, i cleaned vomit, changed diapers , made 3am bottles and more. My mom was just there, it was kind of like she is the grand mom and me the mom. But my mom seems to think I am wrong for moving out and taking the baby with me. When to start with the child was to come to me anyway she just signed the papers becuz I wasnt stable. What do I do? I love the baby to death, ive had her since she was 2 days and she is 19 months now, she calls me mommy and my mom na' na'....who should she be with? It hurts that we can't seem to see eye to eye, but wgat should i do?
2007-04-01 07:05:03 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
KEEP IN MIND I AM NEWLY MARRIED, WITH A HOUSE AND ALL OF MY OWN. I AM FIT TO RAISE THE CHILD. MY MOM IS JUST HURT BECAUSE SHE MISSES THE BABY
2007-04-01 07:12:09 · update #1
You are absolutely right,you did the right thing. No matter the circumstances children make an indelible mark on your heart. Your mother no doubt loves the baby, but you are the baby's mother. There is the child of your heart and child of your body and their equal. Your mother needs time to accept the situation;change nothing - this is the way it should and has to be.
2007-04-01 07:18:19 · answer #1 · answered by tesorotx 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think moving out is the best thing, your mom needs to let go. I know it's hard. If you are capable keep on raising the child and hopefully it won't end up in court. It sounds like you are doing good on your own. If you love the child, do what you can for her. If you want her, fight for her. There's too many children in the world who don't have anyone to take care of them. I think its a blessing that you and your mom took her in.
2007-04-01 15:48:30 · answer #2 · answered by dink 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't stay with her. You are married and need to be there for your man and your child. Over time, she will get used to it. She's just grown very attached which is understandable. Make sure she gets plenty of time with your daughter though. And just to be safe, you should get legal custody so that she doesn't get cruddy on you and take the child back if she's still the legal guardian.
2007-04-05 18:07:45 · answer #3 · answered by Luvly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
live with you, visit your mom often. Try to imagine being in her position and having her take the baby and move out. I am sure she all so did alot of the mother stuff (feeding, changing etc) for the kid too
2007-04-05 11:52:01 · answer #4 · answered by Antonio H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Simple, let her watch the baby whenever you need a sitter! I would think that that would be enough for any "grandma aged woman lol. Maybe I'm wrong.
2007-04-01 14:56:19 · answer #5 · answered by autumnofserenity@sbcglobal.net 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Keep the baby and let your mother visit as often as she likes, as long as it doesn't become a problem.
2007-04-01 14:53:51 · answer #6 · answered by n.w. 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Regardless, you are this childs mother. Your mother will accept it and move on.
2007-04-05 13:12:24 · answer #7 · answered by The only good blu is a dead blu! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
stay in her place
2007-04-01 14:07:24 · answer #8 · answered by Mary 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋